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You be the judge - 6/25/2008 7:50:08 PM

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So people are always saying that I am lucky when it comes to what happens in my life. So lets see if others think the same way. By the way I am writing this mostly because I am really stressed I this is the only way I know how to relieve some stress so to speak.

I have been living a lone with room mates fo the last year and 9 months (since i turned 18 pretty much). I stopped going to school because at the time I was working two full-time jobs that led nowhere. I am constantly jumping from job to job because it seems o matter how hard I work, it is just bad timing. Over the last two years I have had approximately 7 jobs (mind you I'm only 20). I have credit card debit because at one point I was unemployeed and the only way I could pay my rent was with credit cards. I maxed out a credit card the same day I got it by taking out a cash advance of $500 on the day my rent was due. I have very little food around the house. I owe $250 from last months rent and this months rent is already here and I have nothing. I am working full-time but don't even know how I am going to get to work tomorrow morning because I ran out of gas on the way home today and literally don't have a penny in my pocket. All my paychecks are taken up for about the next month and a half. My back and legs are killing me from work. And yeah, I think there are a few more things but you get the point.

Now I realize that half of you, if not all of you, could careless about my financial hardships and struggles but the point that I want to make clear is that life is not all about money. I mean I have no bad habbits, so it's not like I am throwing my money away. I life everyday and every moment to the fullest and for the most part I am always smiling nd always Have something to say. I realize that to most women, a broke ass guys ho works full time in a warehouse and supports himself isn't exactly the biggest turn on, especially when the guy can barely even support himself. But why should it always be about status and wealth, or lack there of? And no matter how often or how much you deny it, there is no denying that money is an influential factor in our everyday lives. Honestly, I said it before and I will continue saying it "money is only one percent of happieness." So just because "life" is kicking my ass right now and things aren't exactly going the way I would like them to I am still smiling and still breathing. So I guess on to the question now...do you really consider me to be lucky (knowing what you know)?

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 7:53:10 PM

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 7:53:14 PM

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A more accurate question would be "How long before this gets moved to another forum?"

And the answer to that is "Less than an hour."

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 7:56:43 PM

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Why would it get moved to another forum?

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 8:02:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: boundinside

So people are always saying that I am lucky when it comes to what happens in my life. So lets see if others think the same way. By the way I am writing this mostly because I am really stressed I this is the only way I know how to relieve some stress so to speak.

I have been living a lone with room mates fo the last year and 9 months (since i turned 18 pretty much). I stopped going to school because at the time I was working two full-time jobs that led nowhere. I am constantly jumping from job to job because it seems o matter how hard I work, it is just bad timing. Over the last two years I have had approximately 7 jobs (mind you I'm only 20). I have credit card debit because at one point I was unemployeed and the only way I could pay my rent was with credit cards. I maxed out a credit card the same day I got it by taking out a cash advance of $500 on the day my rent was due. I have very little food around the house. I owe $250 from last months rent and this months rent is already here and I have nothing. I am working full-time but don't even know how I am going to get to work tomorrow morning because I ran out of gas on the way home today and literally don't have a penny in my pocket. All my paychecks are taken up for about the next month and a half. My back and legs are killing me from work. And yeah, I think there are a few more things but you get the point.

Now I realize that half of you, if not all of you, could careless about my financial hardships and struggles but the point that I want to make clear is that life is not all about money. I mean I have no bad habbits, so it's not like I am throwing my money away. I life everyday and every moment to the fullest and for the most part I am always smiling nd always Have something to say. I realize that to most women, a broke ass guys ho works full time in a warehouse and supports himself isn't exactly the biggest turn on, especially when the guy can barely even support himself. But why should it always be about status and wealth, or lack there of? And no matter how often or how much you deny it, there is no denying that money is an influential factor in our everyday lives. Honestly, I said it before and I will continue saying it "money is only one percent of happieness." So just because "life" is kicking my ass right now and things aren't exactly going the way I would like them to I am still smiling and still breathing. So I guess on to the question now...do you really consider me to be lucky (knowing what you know)?

I think you feel sorry for yourself. You are only 20, and have a lot of years ahead to change your direction in life. Maybe you should go to school and work at the same time....since you have all that energy.... to work 7 jobs in 2 years. That will improve your lot (if that makes you happy), rather than staying in several dead-end jobs. Have a vision/plan, stay focused, and never ever ever let yourself get burned.

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 8:08:29 PM

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I can't say whether you're lucky or not,....but you are alive. It's sucks trying to dig your way out of the financial hole,... but just stay cool. Things will pan out sooner or later.

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 8:14:08 PM

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Everyone has a story, with bad and good elements. Some have horrific elements. Things that are beyond belief and would make you sick if you knew. Being broke is a horrible thing, but most of us have been in, or are still in, that position. Somehow we survive.

When you watch your 2 year old die from leukemia, or see a person beaten and stabbed so savagely that they die, or see your father slowly disappearing because he has Alzhemiers, and sometimes forgets who you are, THEY are situations that drag your soul out of your body and make you want to cry for eternity.

It's all relative. Compared to some people, yes you have a hard life. To others, it is paradise.

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 8:33:11 PM

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Why would it get moved to another forum?

Because this is an "off topic"thread and as it stands, it belongs in that forum. :)

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 8:55:02 PM

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But what are you doing to change it?
What are you doing for your future?
There is nothing wrong with someone (especially at your age) who isnt where they could be in life.
The important difference is some have a plan, and know where they will be in the future if they follow that plan.
Others have no idea.

edited due to stupidity

< Message edited by xxblushesxx -- 6/25/2008 9:16:01 PM >

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 9:01:19 PM

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What Miss Magnolia said...

Look up Desiderata on google.. or search it here. I just put it on a thread. Read it... see if it resonates with you.. and then... yeah, what chickpea said...

and by the way, are you lucky? Damn right you are lucky...You are healthy, you are smart enough to work and get through school, you can write, you can shoot pool, you can see consequences... You seem smart enough to learn from your life... good luck.. AND ONCE YOU ARE AN ADULT...

NOTHING JUST HAPPENS

YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 9:07:51 PM

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Ahhh yessss.. the good old Desiderata....

You are a fluke of the universe. You have no right to be here.

Go placidly amid the noise and waste,
And remember what comfort there may be in owning a piece thereof.
Avoid quiet and passive persons, unless you are in need of sleep.
Rotate your tires.
Speak glowingly of those greater than yourself,
And heed well their advice, even though they be turkeys.
Know what to kiss, and when.
Consider that two wrongs never make a right, but that three do.
Wherever possible, put people on hold.
Be comforted that in the face of all aridity and disillusionment,
and despite the changing fortunes of time,
There is always a big future in computer maintenance.
Remember The Pueblo.
Strive at all times to bend, fold, spindle, and mutilate.
Know yourself. If you need help, call the FBI.
Exercise caution in your daily affairs,
Especially with those persons closest to you -
That lemon on your left, for instance.
Be assured that a walk through the ocean of most souls
Would scarcely get your feet wet.
Fall not in love therefore. It will stick to your face.
Gracefully surrender the things of youth: birds, clean air, tuna, Taiwan.
And let not the sands of time get in your lunch.
Hire people with hooks.
For a good time, call 606-4311. Ask for Ken.
Take heart in the bedeepening gloom
That your dog is finally getting enough cheese.
And reflect that whatever fortune may be your lot,
It could only be worse in Milwaukee.
You are a fluke of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not,
The universe is laughing behind your back.
Therefore, make peace with your god,
Whatever you perceive him to be - hairy thunderer, or cosmic muffin.
With all its hopes, dreams, promises, and urban renewal,
The world continues to deteriorate.
Give up!

National Lampoon BTS-38, 1972

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 9:26:19 PM

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Honestly, I said it before and I will continue saying it "money is only one percent of happieness."

Spoken by someone who clearly hasn't yet spent 4 days at the Ballagio in Vegas with an Eastern European gal named Svetlana.......

Fortunately, I'm wired to be happy. I had some of the best times of my life... dead broke.... playing "quarters" with my friends at a kitchen table in New Jersey. When that same group of friends went to a waterfront resort in Key West.....we had a waaaaaaaaaaay better time.

Used wisely, money has a profoundly greater impact on individual happiness than 1%. Because......you are able to do so much more for others.......and therefore you feel even happier.....

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 9:27:07 PM

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I don't find it necessary to be abrasive. Of course some are just handing down what got handed to them in life when they fucked up. Take it in stride OP and turn your rough edges to them.

Now on to the problem. You have discovered something, and that is that you were living beyond your means. There is no question about it.

This is the time to think, and don't get me wrong, the shit is going to hit the fan. It's just better to be prepared for it. You are young and resilient. But remember this, to have really good credit, realize that a bankrupcy does not mean that you do not owe the money, it is merely an estoppment on them taking your wages etc. That is all. To achieve really good credit you still must pay, but then you do it at your own pace.

Now there are people who will give you credit right after a bankruptcy, mainly because they know you can't file again for another six or seven years. While that is building new credit, the old bad credit will still drag you down. That means higher payments on most cars and houses, and getting credit cards at usurious levels of interest.

Was there a dorm available at school but you decided that you want an apartment ? Did you drive a souped up Mustang instead of a Yugo ?

All these things add up, going to shows, concerts, things like that. They are not cheap. How expensive and powerful is your stereo that you can't crank up in an apartment ? How much do you eat out, rather than cook something at home. Even if you can't cook you can make something.

They say hindsight is 20/20 and I would say - use it to look back. You got into this predicament somehow. There may be a way out, maybe not, but at the very least, at the very least, use your noggin so that you never ever, ever get into this situation again.

That's the best I can tell you, take it or leave it.

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RE: You be the judge - 6/25/2008 9:36:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

What Miss Magnolia said...

Look up Desiderata on google.. or search it here. I just put it on a thread. Read it... see if it resonates with you.. and then... yeah, what chickpea said...

and by the way, are you lucky? Damn right you are lucky...You are healthy, you are smart enough to work and get through school, you can write, you can shoot pool, you can see consequences... You seem smart enough to learn from your life... good luck.. AND ONCE YOU ARE AN ADULT...

NOTHING JUST HAPPENS

YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

yeah, i got the Dr.Seuss book "Oh, the Places You'll Go." for H.S. graduation. And I was content to just lie in bed and look at all the pretty pictures in the book, and think to myself about all these dreams. But if you just are context with lying in the bed with the book and don't do anything, nothing will happen. Just think of the positive things you want to happen, and go for it (and don't whine when shit happens, because when you get through it....that makes the victory sweeter!). Please don't end up being a whiner. Those aren't in demand these days cuz there's too much of 'em.

(Oh yeah, I'm talking to all the bitter Doms, stop whining get off your ass and do something about it...about yourself [if you dare do that], or the subs you complain about!)

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