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Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:14:21 PM   
KnowUrPlace


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Status: offline 		I have recently begun training a very capable young submissive. I've put her through her paces and now I'm preparing to present her with her collar. Does anyone have any tips or pointers as to how I should do this? I have a semi-script made up in my mind already, but i just want to make it a memorable moment for both of us.

P.S. Please don't rag on this. I know I'm young, and I know I'm new, but what were you once? I make no attempt to cover what I am and I would appreciate a serious response, thank you.
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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:19:18 PM   
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ceremonies

http://www.collarchat.com/m_574595/mpage_1/key_collaring/tm.htm#574600
collaring and wedding ceremony

http://www.collarchat.com/m_291301/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#291301
Collar vs Wedding Ring

http://www.collarchat.com/m_247668/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#247668
ring or collar, what's the difference?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_151638/mpage_1/key_collar/tm.htm#151638
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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:21:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		In all honesty, my advice is not to take advice on this .

It's a very personal and intimate moment between two people and in my experience, such moments are usually most memorable when kept personal without a whole lot of outside influence.

There is no right or wrong way. What kind of collaring ceremony do you want and your girl want to have?

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:28:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I collared my slave after a 3 year courtship at an event that I was part of. It was a formal collaring with a rose flogging afterwards. We stated our vows in front of over 100 fellow kinksters and friends.. who all either handed us roses at the end, or brought us roses as a gift. After the ceremony my slave was flogged with over 14 dozen long stemmed thorn on roses on a St Andrews cross. she saved the petals after the flogging as a keepsake.

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:32:10 PM   
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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:38:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		It was beautiful when the rose heads exploded when they hit. That and picking the thorns out of her butt was memorable.

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/25/2008 9:38:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		 Rose-flogging...romantic and yet kinky. Sounds like it was quite a sight.

As far as the collaring goes, I guess it depends on how long you two have been together and what it means to you. Seeing as your profile suggests you're still searching, I'm guessing this relationship is extremely new, and collaring- to you- is announcing your monogamy and intention to pursue a less casual relationship.
   If that's what it means to you, I don't know how much planning needs to go into it...but then, I'm not the type of girl who goes for romantic kookiness filled with stilted language and symbolic gestures (or I am, and I just hide it really well), so I'm not the best person to ask.
  Whatever you do, make sure it has meaning for you and her- you're the only people you need to worry about pleasing!

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 8:20:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		DERAIL: A rose flogging...
Dear Moon. That sounds amazing. You don't have any pictures?

Back on track: I think you should really just check out the articles, but have it be of your own design. Is this going to be a big thing, or small?

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 4:23:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree on doing your own thing! A couple of examples though:

When I collared My then hubby as My sub, We chose to have a little ceremony with about 10 friends, and wrote Our own words and ceremony, "stealing" ideas from various ceremonies I found on the web and knitting them together to make a whole that suited Us. We chose matching gold and opal anklets as that suited Us too, and had significance to Us.

When Master collared me 2 years ago, it was His choice to do that with just the 2 of U/us present in a park by the river at sunset (shame that what W/we recall most was how uncharacteristically cold it was LOL!). Again W/we had words that W/we had written, and He placed the special identity bracelet W/we'd designed and had made by a jeweller on my wrist, where it remains. Then W/we fled to a nice warm restaurant for dinner!

So do your own thing! I certainly don't knock you because of your age ... I would just ask you to think about what this collar actually represents. On previous threads, this has been hotly debated and there is NO universal understanding. However, many here hold it to be pretty sacred, and indicative of a very long term commitment (which SOME express as akin to marriage). IF your understanding is similar to that, then I would question how quickly this is being given. The hub had been serving Me for 18 months before I collared him, and Master and i lived together 24/7 for 2 years before He collared me ... because that is how W/we perceive a collar. If you see it as more the mark or sign of moving into Master/slave relationship by her having "graduated" from basic training ... then that's fine too ... just make sure you and she are on the same page about that!

Good luck!
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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 5:37:52 PM   
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quote:

I have recently begun training a very capable young submissive. I've put her through her paces and now I'm preparing to present her with her collar. Does anyone have any tips or pointers as to how I should do this? I have a semi-script made up in my mind already, but i just want to make it a memorable moment for both of us.

P.S. Please don't rag on this. I know I'm young, and I know I'm new, but what were you once? I make no attempt to cover what I am and I would appreciate a serious response, thank you.


We chose to do it privately, and announced it to our community afterwards. The people that I really wanted to be there, who were important to me in the scene, would not be able to attend, and I wasn't really interested in a doing it at an event for various and sundry reasons.

Have you thought about a contract? You may want to consider a time limited contract that spells out what your expectations of her are, and what she can expect in return. I have always felt very honored not only to be in His collar, but to have a contract as well.

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 5:45:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know, of course, what your dynamics or agreements are. Many on here who consider themselves 'owned', more or less 'absolutely', will argue against contracts - I'm his, I obey, that's that. I have to say, however, that i very much like having a contract. It does not set out limits - my limits are His to hold. It is a lifetime contract, and it is clear in it that I do not have the right to leave. What is it's purpose, then? to me that is like asking what is the purpose of the collar - the real collar is around my heart, after all. What is the purpose of my ring? of a wedding ceromony? of a marriage license? all of these things spell out things for us in terms of ritual and ceromony, and i love them.


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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 6:30:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Keep it personal and private. We went away for a weekend to a beautiful cabin in the mountains. I was collared with the most amazing collar ever after reciting our own vows that we wrote. I received my first cutting that left glorious marks for over a month. I was flogged, whipped, and fucked for two days. I will never forget our time at Cupid 6.

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/26/2008 11:19:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnowUrPlace

I have recently begun training a very capable young submissive. I've put her through her paces and now I'm preparing to present her with her collar. Does anyone have any tips or pointers as to how I should do this? I have a semi-script made up in my mind already, but i just want to make it a memorable moment for both of us.

P.S. Please don't rag on this. I know I'm young, and I know I'm new, but what were you once? I make no attempt to cover what I am and I would appreciate a serious response, thank you.



First, congrats on finding someone You wish to collar and who will accept with joy.
 
There are many good ideas on the 'net for arranging a Collaring Ceremony, so I'll leave You to Google them Yourself.
 
Judging by my friends, the essence seems to be:
 
They are separated before the ceremony as they dress and so on -- His Dom friends help Him, while her submissive friends help her.
 
She wears a long white gown; He wears anything from a tux to a robe to full-out leather; whatever suits Him.
 
She enters after He does and approaches Him while He waits.
 
They speak to each other, words they have written themselves for the occassion, while she kneels at His feet.
 
He places a collar around her neck -- could be a pretty tassled rope He ties; or a metal collar He locks, etc.  Whatever suits Him, and her, financially and elsewise.
 
She rises and they embrace; their friends applaud, and the feasting begins.
 
Hope this helps -- I wish You and Your submissive many joyful years together.
 
candystripper

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RE: Collaring Ceremony - 6/27/2008 3:50:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Congratulations on finding someone special enough to wear your collar, i hope your life together will be a happy one.

As to the collaring ceremony, i agree with others, that you do as much or as little as you feel necessary to make it a special event. Some love the elaborate, some the simple, we chose the latter, and had an intimate collaring with my sister sub present, with a nice meal to round things off.

Whatever form the collaring takes i hope you both enjoy it.


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