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GigglingGoddess -> RE: Introducing Girlfriend? (6/29/2008 11:45:57 AM)
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About 9 months ago, my boyfriend was in the same situation as you. He also started a topic like yours, so searching for that might help (the post will be by sleuthingsub). Some of the suggestions in this thread have been good, some have been bad. DON'T buy her a strap-on. It'll probably just freak her out. What I might suggest, and what my boyfriend did, is just be honest with her. Don't rush her into it, but when the time is right just talk to her. Tell her that you realize she seems to prefer the submissive role right now, but that you're also interested in being submissive and having her take control. It seems you've been saying some of the right things, but she may not be taking the hints or she's scared. Society has taught her to be submissive, after all. Tell her you think it's sexy when she's in control, and maybe ask her if she could try tying you up, or just be on top for once. You might have to tie her up the first time, and have her do it the next time. Don't do anything extreme, but if you start slow, she might begin to pick it up. It may even be emotional a few times (it was for me), because she thinks she's doing something wrong or she gets stuck at some point. Make sure you don't neglect aftercare and talk about it with her. Another thing that helped me was Akasha's guides (like the one she posted). If your girlfriend has a dominant side, it won't come out full throttle right away, but if she's anything like me, she'll grow into it more and more. You just have to be patient. And keep in mind that some people just don't have a dominant side. Good luck!
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