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i am happy to be able to ask a mistress ,collar me is a... - 11/6/2005 2:05:26 PM

jamesthehumanrug

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my question is based on the psychology assumption that we must play cat and mouse or be boring ....
is a mistress bored when a slave tells all desires ,and, limits first interview
is it like a dirty pig slave who says do anything your imagination says with no regard to me- i am an object -just keep me imprisoned ,in your dungeon ;closet ;floor ;box ,doghouse ;cage ;stable;till you take me, out, for any use ,with you and yours
seems ,too easy....
no chase involved -no challenge-
or
do you keep all your thots and limits, to yourself ?,
and, just do, as she wants -no words -
and ,hope she is the best-one....
we,

only have one life why not live it to the max....
submitted respectfully ,always, loveLES,
james the human rug

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RE: i am happy to be able to ask a mistress ,collar me ... - 11/6/2005 2:27:02 PM

LadyJulieAnn

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I like to have some idea about the main interests of the sub, because I need to be compatible with them as far as interests in order to progress further. He doesn't need to tell me everything the first chat, but the fact that I would be having an extended conversation with him would indicate an increased level of intereston my part. I think many of us tend to reveal more as trust is built through subsequent conversations. I am much more attracted to a sub when he can discuss a bit about how he came to be as a sub and what he enjoys about submission. When talking with a sub, I like it to be a shared discussion, not a "I want you to do _______ to me" or "I want whatever you want" type of interaction. I should also add that, for me, it's not all about BDSM. If a sub can't carry on a normal "vanilla" conversation with me, I quickly lose interest.

I don't really need a chase or challenge from the sub in order for him to be interesting to me. It's more about how he comes across in general conversation that catches and keeps my attention.

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RE: i am happy to be able to ask a mistress ,collar me ... - 11/7/2005 8:09:22 AM

MistressFire70

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you need to be open and honest about your needs and wants. What we find annoying is not the topic, but how they are represented. If you send a list of everything you want us to do to you without telling us what you will/can do for us, what we see is a "do me" bottom. Most of us are looking for a service component in a relationship, too.

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RE: i am happy to be able to ask a mistress ,collar me ... - 11/7/2005 11:22:50 AM

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I expect someone emailing me to give me a few things right off the bat:

a name to be called
a reason why they found my profile interesting that goes beyond "you are female"
and a question or two about something they saw in the profile to try and get the talk started.

Beyond that I expect to get back as much information as I give out.

If I write back and say (for example) I've been involved in BDSM for 15 years and all I get back is "That's hot" or "cool" then that's the end of the discussion because there is no discussion happening.

At least for me, there will be many emails exchanged, a formal application, some phonecalls, a face-to-face meeting, some more phone calls or email because any scening or kink happens. As you can see above, the emails stop soon if information is not being shared.

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RE: i am happy to be able to ask a mistress ,collar me ... - 11/7/2005 3:03:45 PM

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1st of all if you tell me that you do not matter and that you will do anything I command in your first email, I would respond "great, sign over the deed to your house, your bank account, oh and what kind of car do you have?" That would probably get your attention. Unfortunately you have probably already lost mine.

D/s relationships like any others are multi layered. Yes, I would like to know what your interests are...no, I do not want a list of the first 100. I am primarily interested in your mind, with a good mind, all else can be taught. Show me your mind, I have seen a penis, they all look quite similar. Show me your mind, and then we may find that we can start a journey that will leave us each better for having known the other.

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