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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:05:29 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		i dont knwo that i have a perfect image in my cofused lil brain. most of my parameters (for lack of a better word) are based on knowing myself. from my wants, needs, capabilites, and kinks to my own hopes and dreams for the future. hopefully somewhere something will mesh up. after three years i dont really sweat it a great deal. yeah the free thing, lack of control, and service opts suck somedays, but with a home, yard, dogs, and everything else to take care of i find something to occupy me most days.

i guess my best hope is that i have left maneuvarability within my own defitions. if that makes any sense.

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:10:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		um. she probably doesn't exist.

but with a little work, I could make her.


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:12:34 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		Okay a little clearification

in both of the situations I can think of it scares me.

Are you thinking Frankensteins Monster

Or

Lars and the Real Girl?

Both just strike me as .... well .... creepy.

LOL

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:16:08 PM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		I like to think it exists....somewhere out there...will our paths ever cross, who knows.   I tend to try and see my past experiences as good ones..if for no other reason than they have been part of the learning process of self-discovery.  If you don't know who you are, how will you ever recognise what you need when it comes along?  

Sometimes it is hard not to become jaded, especially when you're dealing in a medium where "talk is cheap"


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:17:29 PM   
variation30


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A Dominant without a submissive is just a pervert. - Master


meh...I'll take that title just as easily as I would the title of a dom.


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:19:17 PM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		In terms of fantasy, I've come to accept the odds are very much against me and Katie Sackhoff and ever hooking up.

I'm keeping an open mind about a few things, I'm working with a few general things in mind.   I'm in no great hurry or rush. 

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:19:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: candystripper

Excellent Op, Steel.
 
My answer is yes, what i want/need to be collared does exist.  There's no guarantee I'll find it, but I know people who have.
 
I think Your implied advice is to boil it down to it's very essence; forget about 'trappings' like age and worry more about the character of the Dom and the relationship we could have.
 
I can tell You, I struggle with this.  I don't want to give up my 'age restrctions' and they're in my profile now.  I guess I'm willing to risk a lot for the 'unlikely' -- the 'rare' -- the 'highly unlikely' -- but at this point at least, I'm not willing to risk much for the 'damned near guaranteed to fail'.
 
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Just a side note: I have a good friend who is head over heels for her Dom of two years+. They are moving in together in the next few months. He is 20 years younger than she.
 
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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:19:51 PM   
variation30


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:29:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah
Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?


And more importantly... will they want you?

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:32:58 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		Ooooooo Good Point.... Little Harsh but VERY GOOD POINT.

Do you meet your own Standards and requirements?

Wow that is a Bitch to even think about, I mean sure if you are a Narsisist then it would be easy but what about the realists do you think you would be wanted by the Image you desire?

Steel

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:41:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~


I only have a tiny bit of time before I get back to studying so I'm not reading other answers, just replying. Please forgive if this a duplicate.

I don't know what I'm looking for exists, but then again, I don't believe I'm particularly "looking" for anything in particular. I am constantly changing, and seem to be in a serious change mode right now with school and home, etc., so a person who might have been a good match for me last year would be a terrible match this year. What I am willing to tolerate today may be unthinkable to deal with tomorrow. The best I can do is find someone who is compatible with me not just on the basis of D/s but also as a friend and companion in general, someone I enjoy spending time with in many ways.

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 2:54:55 PM   
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Define "goth"?



goth is another culture that has so many variations that can not be explained.  even i do not know them all.  but i know the one variation of a cutter, druggie, worshiper of satan that i definately do not like.

i do love the music.  i have all of epica, nightwish, and after forever albums.  3 famous female opera trained singers involved in those groups.  they've been around 10-15 years.


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 3:50:35 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		I know others in real life who have what I am seeking ... a devoted male sub. There are some on these boards who also have devoted male subs, therefore, I know they exist. Finding one is a tad more tricky, especially in a rural town in Australia. Talking to them is one thing, finding one who can come here to live is another. While I might have had that picture perfect thing going at one time, I now have some "musts" (eg nonsmoking for My health, and a genuine desire to submit, I'm not into "forcing" anything) ... and the rest I will look at on a case by case basis. Age is negotiable (after all, Master is 15 years younger!) but I lean to a younger male simply because one of the key service roles that We hope the sub could fulfill would be to be Our roadie and help cart and set up all the heavy PA gear! That said, if a guy or girl who in other important ways fitted in with Us came along, but they weren't able to do roadie work ... then so be it! The relationship would be more important than a particular job. Maybe they could help Us in other ways to have sufficient funds to hire a roadie!

So I believe I am willing to be sufficiently flexible to find a suitable sub ... hopefully sooner than later! But it's a good question and I too have seen others with an impossible list of criteria. Years ago, a friend always said that he wanted to marry a girl who answered the description of "physical perfection". Now while he was a lovely guy in nature, he was no oil painting ... well, maybe he was a Picasso LOL! I cringed when My not-so-subtle first hubby said to him one day "Well if you found physical perfection, what makes you think she would look twice at you?" Poor guy kinda deflated ... but in the end it was a case of being cruel to be kind, as he refocused his criteria to personality more than looks and actually got dates! Ultimately he married a lovely girl who was quite pretty ... once she took her glasses, which had thick lenses like Coke bottles ... off! Guess that was physical perfection for him , after all, you don't wear specs to bed do you!

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 3:57:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah
~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~

Steel


For me personally (and I know you asked singles but I hope its ok to respond) - it absolutely existed.
If I had not believed it - I would not of continued.
 
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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 3:59:33 PM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: variation30

um. she probably doesn't exist.

but with a little work, I could make her.



Yeah well, for me?  That statement is just totally hot.  Love it.
 
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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 4:04:21 PM   
variation30


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Status: offline 		I'm neither lars or a dr. frankenstein, but Pygmalion. I've an excellent idea of a woman, but right now I just need to find some marble.

I have my tastes.

first and foremost, being honest and male, physical attraction is a must. Some things can be controlled with a proper diet and exercise routine, but I have to have something I can work with.
secondly, I need someone with a desire to better themselves (this is of course a very subjective term and would depend on the female thinking that me teaching her what I can would indeed be bettering herself). when I do find a lovely little belle that I want to provide for financially, physically, and emotionally, I'll be ecstatic. however, like the rest of my property, I want her to be immaculate. outside of the house, she will be a reflection of myself. I'll need her to have the confidence and grace that my woman should have. with this comes dressing as I would have her dress, walking as I would have her walk, and  speaking as I would have her speak. etiquette is important, but so is wit and intelligence. in some circumstances, she should be able to charm anyone at anytime (and as someone who has been invited to a fair amount of debutantes in my day, charm is something that can definitely be taught), in others, she should be able to intellectually eviscerate someone on any subject that I would be able to (just because she is my slave does not mean she is submissive to anyone else). with this comes the willingness to learn about everything from Austrian Economics, to bach partitas, to Szasz’s critiques of the medical model of mental illness, to Bergman films, to Wagner, to Faulkner, to how to cook everything from a proper fillet mignon wrapped in fatty bacon to snapper grenobloise, to at least one additional language, etc. inside the house, she needs to be as depraved and perverted as me. I won’t expound upon that.

in short, I want my perfect female, and since she, in all likelihood, does not exist, I'll have to make her. granted, this will take a lot of work, but I believe it's the only way I could be in a relationship with a woman and be truly happy. at the very least, it'll make an interesting adaptation of 'my fair lady'.

now I just need to find an attractive female who is interested in becoming this kind of woman. in the mean time, I'm focused on bettering myself and my position so that I can provide for a slave in all the ways she needs to be provided for.

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 4:08:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

In terms of fantasy, I've come to accept the odds are very much against me and Katie Sackhoff and ever hooking up.

I'm keeping an open mind about a few things, I'm working with a few general things in mind.   I'm in no great hurry or rush. 



Sorry O4SS....Sackhoff's at my house tonight.....welcome to the club.

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 4:09:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~

Steel

Yes it does Steel. At least a very close approximation of him. UK based, same age, same credo, my future Master, He recentky emailed me.
I waited this time, and I prayed, and breathed and meditated and above all I surrendered. In other words I followed the path I have become accomstomed to advising others to travel.
It's early days but I am far far less comparative to my ideal and far more certain of it than ever before.
But apart from emails, pictures, phone, we haven't met yet but have agreed to. It's different because instead of the usual comparison with the ideal in my head there's just the man.
Then will come that inevitable process (again) of comparison to the ideal inside my head....perhaps. But this time I am going to stop that destructive process of setting up a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure. I guess I have to take my own existentialist medicine and like you stop the NO. And start the YES.
A glass is either half full or half empty I know. But at other times well a glass is a glass is a glass.

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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 4:15:57 PM   
gypsygrl


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Status: offline 		Its a tough one. 

Generally, I'm an accomodating person and I try not to reduce people to their role.  I've talked with and interacted with various d-types in a variety of capacities and only have a rough outline of what I'm looking for in a partner.  There's some things I know I need to remain functional, but beyond that, I'm flexible.  I don't place heavy expectations on anyone, and am pretty forgiving of other's faults.  I've been through some shit, and have been in survival mode for years without any real plan how to get by beyond next month, so I'm pretty quick to empathasize.  Ya know, life happens, sometimes it bites you in the ass and once it locks its teeth into you, it doesn't really wanna let go.

The problem is, life keeps biting me in the ass and I probably could have headed some of those bites off at the pass if I'd have been less accomodating, less forgiving and a bit more firm about tolerating other peoples bull shit.  My tolerance--something I've actually worked to cultivate--seems to give some people permission to randomly bite me when spirit moves them without any thought or consideration of what effect its having on me.

I've been wondering if  I've been doing myself a disservice and expecting less from others than I expect of myself under the same conditions.  I mean, I've made some ethical compromises but no matter how bad off I've been, I've never lied or consciously misrepresented myself if it was going to hurt someone or just out of convience, never asked for pity, favors, or hand outs, only take from others what what I have to and rarely take more than I need. 

Maybe its unrealistic, but I probably should expect from others what I expect from myself.

From another direction, it kind of amazes me how fast guys are to trust.  I mean, if its given so easily, what could it be worth?  Its not really me their trusting but some phantom image in their head.


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RE: For those that are Looking ... Does it really exist? - 6/26/2008 4:38:40 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		Thank you, appreciate the answer... and no, not into cutting, drugs or satan worshiping.... lol
 
Don't know about the music... I'm pretty open minded... except for rap, can't do that. I just don't listen to music much unless I'm working on something that I really have to concentrate on. 
 
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