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rootbeerturtle -> need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 12:10:35 PM)

Hello All,

i was wondering if any Women know of a way to slowly introduce my Girlfriend into this lifestyle. We have toyed around with chastity and when we make love i can only cum when She says so, of course i was the one who brought up this idea. But is there any books or maybe an article Anyone knows of that i could have Her read so She can get a better idea of a D/s relationship. i think if i were to say that i want this entire relationship to be about Her, She might not understand what i mean or what to do. i dont just mean sexually either... i want it in the whole relationship..

Thank You and have a good day 



Aswad -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 12:39:52 PM)

"I'm kinky and am wondering whether you'd like to be in charge... -gulp-... all the time... -grovel-... please? -whimper-" 

(Sorry, ladies, I couldn't resist.)




LadyHibiscus -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 1:35:16 PM)

Oh nooooooooooes Aswad made me laff! [:D]



Madame4a -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 1:42:17 PM)

When Someone You Love is Kinky -- its pretty easy to find... there are many more..

you live in an area that has several active groups I'd think.. find them.. go to meetings and stuff.. books are great but don't take the place of other experiences...



LadyHibiscus -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 1:45:25 PM)

Also, the fine SEARCH function.  Or you could beg Lucky Albatross for a links list...I am sure she has a macro for this one.  (You DO have macros for those lists, right LA?  NO one has that much free time!)



MizSexyVixen -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 1:55:35 PM)

What is an extended period of time? It's agreed anything over three months is too long, and some would say two months, or even one.

At a minimum, you should be removing your device once a week for cleaning.

At 22 years of age, being allowed to masturbate even once a week will most likely not help that "senstivity."

Invest in a cock ring.



MizSexyVixen -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 2:18:01 PM)

The previous post was obviously meant for another thread..same OP however. Now I have to ask: if your g/f is so new, why does she have you in chastitiy?



AtlantaMistress -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 5:53:34 PM)

As a Pro Domme, I have actually "coached" couples, where the boy wanted to submit, but him telling the open girlfriend what he wanted and her fulfilling those wishes didn't exactly bring out her Dominance. There are SO Many books - I recently gave "The Loving Dominant" to a friend who was interested and I thought had a very Dominant personality, but had previously thought of the stereotypical Dominatrix as an angry evil bitch with a ponytail and thigh high boots.

Good luck.



herpet1313 -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 6:24:44 PM)

turtle:
 type in Elise Sutton on your search engine. While not for everyone, she has a very down to earth approach to Femdom and possibly one your wife can relate to.
 One caution- every Femdom relationship is different, the two of you must craft your own.
By the way, there are very few Femdom groups around and most of the munches and group meetings you will find revolve  around people into pain and torture, the S/M crowd.



SurrenderForMe -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 8:35:53 PM)

Submit, give up control and see if she takes the reins.

Be yourself and see if she enjoys all of you.  Cook for her, then serve her.  Offer to bathe her.  If you have to dive over the car, make sure you open every door for her.  Give her a tongue bath.  Ask her what she wants you to do in bed.  Put together those goofy cards that someone can use.  Like one free massage, one free home cooked meal, one free night of whatever she desires.  Her reactions will guide you.  The terminology is not essential, unless it is part of your needs.  Her response and yours are the building blocks.

Seduce her into your world one step at a time. 



MySweetSubmssive -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 9:04:13 PM)

Why do you only want to hear from the Mistresses?  Submissive men who have coaxed their partners down this path (or who have tried) would seem to have the point of view that you would want to know about.

Mss



Aswad -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 9:32:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Oh nooooooooooes Aswad made me laff! [:D]


Horribly sorry. It won't happen again.

Forgive me? [sm=flowers.gif]

Health,
al-Aswad.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/26/2008 9:52:17 PM)

I was thinking the same thing MSS, wouldnt it be more useful to hear fro those who have gone through what you are going through?
I know personally, I never needed coaxing, and I wouldnt even know where to begin coaxing someone else into the lifestyle.
As for reading, theres scads of it available, if you google it. DEcide what you want her to read about, what your interests might be, and then google those interests and see what you get. Hand pick a few choice readings for her. The loving dominant is one of the most recommended readings for those new or interested.

Good luck
DV



rootbeerturtle -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/27/2008 8:44:38 AM)

thank You all... this has been a big help.



Misstoyou -> RE: need help from experienced Mistresses (6/27/2008 8:50:36 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SurrenderForMe


... If you have to dive over the car...




Nice visual. A good way to start the morning. [:D]



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