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Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 9:56:11 PM

SurrenderForMe

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With all the lists of interest, why do those who say they are so submissive or even slaves, almost never seem to want to orally service their domme, or if gay dom?

Has oral sex just died?

Now you know where my head is at right now.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 9:57:13 PM

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i'm supposed to have certain interests just because i'm a submissive?

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 9:58:55 PM

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Geeze, I never have that problem. I have to unseal the vacuum suction just to get them up off me and into the kitchen to get the dishes done.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:01:17 PM

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I haven't had that happen for me, but my list of hard limits starts with:
submissive men who don't love oral.

For real.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:02:01 PM

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Sorry...i never noticed that at all. From what i've read on the message boards, oral sex is alive and prospering.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:23:11 PM

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I've not noticed it. O.o

I have an oral thing... no problems over here. ^_^ I am, however, banned from roadhead now.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:42:48 PM

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shoot i beg to differ. nearly every email i get from male subbies offers hours of oral, but some male doms on the other seem to forget that skill when they pop on those hats.

yeah yeah i know.. privelege, but dern ya'll, give a girl a break..

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:45:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SurrenderForMe

With all the lists of interest, why do those who say they are so submissive or even slaves, almost never seem to want to orally service their domme, or if gay dom?

Has oral sex just died?

Now you know where my head is at right now.

OMFG! You frightened me with this!

I couldn't face a whole lifetime without lots and lots and lots of oral sex -- both giving and receiving I could no more accept a collar from a Dom who wasn't ready willing and able to 'give me oral' than I could from an 'online Dom'.

And bjs? There had better be lots and lots and lots of bjs; I've never been involved with a man who didn't love bjs, but if they exist, I certainly wouldn't accept a collar from one.

Possibly people fail to mention oral sex in their profiles because it's kinda assumed it'll be part of the repetorie? I dunno. Have You seen profiles where the member says 'no' to oral sex? How scary!

Well, You sure woke me up! LOL.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 10:58:25 PM

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I've noticed that there seems to be a tendency among doms to feel entitled to oral sex, but not to want to return the favor. Perhaps I expect more because I am a switch- and have had the luck when I was vanilla to have had boyfriends whose idea of bliss was to listen to my moans of pleasure as they buried their heads between my thighs- but my philosophy is that "turnabout is fair play". I'm healthy, I'm clean, and if you think that it isn't BDSM-PC to establish your sensual dominance over me by rendering me powerless and making me moan, beg, and scream with your talented tongue...you need to find another gal.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 11:00:43 PM

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Racquelle, you're a grrl after my own heart!

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 11:02:26 PM

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Ive enver noticed a lack of oral. I have noticed a dire lack of interest in anything BUT oral...
There are a lot of subs out there who think that oral worship is the end all be all of submission...
If anything the problem i noticed is a fixation on it, not a lack of it.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 11:04:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper
I couldn't face a whole lifetime without lots and lots and lots of oral sex -- both giving and receiving I could no more accept a collar from a Dom who wasn't ready willing and able to 'give me oral' than I could from an 'online Dom'.

And bjs? There had better be lots and lots and lots of bjs; I've never been involved with a man who didn't love bjs, but if they exist, I certainly wouldn't accept a collar from one.

Oh, hey! Hi, how ya doing? Come here often? Nice shoes.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 11:05:15 PM

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Funny, I've found the exact opposite problem...

The majority of subs/slave I run into are entirely, solely, interested in "serving" by burying their face in my crotch... finding one that can/will do laundry is hard. Thank god I get lucky now and then, oral I can get just about anywhere.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/26/2008 11:06:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Ive enver noticed a lack of oral. I have noticed a dire lack of interest in anything BUT oral...
There are a lot of subs out there who think that oral worship is the end all be all of submission...
If anything the problem i noticed is a fixation on it, not a lack of it.

DV

Exactly the same here, from what I've seen.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 12:44:26 AM

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From the other perspective, I've found that most Dom's seem to expect oral sex to be performed on them. Ok, so call me old fashioned if it gives you a lift to do so, but I'm not interested in it. I won't deny I love getting it from my husband, but as my hubby is not my Dom I don't see why I should have to go down that route. I'd love to have it performed on me, but part of our limits is that neither of us will give or take oral from anyone we play with. I have a family and personally I don't want to put myself at risk. It's not who I play with, but who they have played with etc etc....

How come every male who writes to me gets round to the subject of me giving them oral by the second email?

Ahh well....

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 12:59:04 AM

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ya gotta blame the emerging markets...

just as china and india are buying more of the world's oil than they used to as they establish a working middle class, they are aslo taking up a greater percentage of the oral sex.

blowjobs are flying by fed-ex into hong kong and dehli by the plane load...so the smart consumer better start figuring out a way to make thier own..that's right

YOGA!...problem..solution. when you are limber enough to do it yourself you never again have to hear "is this right?"

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 1:16:35 AM

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if you think that it isn't BDSM-PC to establish your sensual dominance over me by rendering me powerless and making me moan, beg, and scream with your talented tongue...you need to find another gal.

Agree with this, but not the premise that it is always (or even mostly) the case.
Just sayin

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 1:22:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

Sorry...i never noticed that at all. From what i've read on the message boards, oral sex is alive and prospering.

It is alive, oh yes!

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 2:04:28 AM

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I am with most of the posters here. Most of the submissive men who contact me offer me oral. When I get emails from them, they get a, "Thanks, but no thanks" message back from me. I can find that in vanilla life almost anytime I want. It is much harder to find someone who would be satisfied just to give domestic service.

I enjoy being on the recieving end & the giving end, but when someone offers me oral, I always get the feeling, they are offering me their wishlist of what they want me to let them do to them. They could pay any hooker for that. It doesn't do anything to make them seem special in my eyes.

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RE: Why is there a dearth of oral sex - 6/27/2008 5:52:21 AM

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I am, however, banned from roadhead now.

If you find you miss it unbearably, my sense of altruism might be sufficiently developed so as to allow me to be convinced to sacrifice myself for such a good cause.

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