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ORIGINAL: lovepuppy

It never ceases to amaze me, grown people who willingly allow themselves to be put in uncomfortable circumstances will then futher torture themselves playing the great game of "what if"

What if he/she cheats on me, what if we don't work out, what if he/she gets too fat to fuck, what if I get to fat to fuck, what if he/she gets a job really far away, what if he/she is abducted by aliens and given a anti-kink drug and comes home so vanilla he/she won't still engage in whatever activity brought us togther. 

know what?  The only purpose what if serves is to let you prepare for it.  "what if the the power goes out"..well have some candles on hand...."what if my dog gets bitten by a raccoon"...well get the dog it's rabies shots...  but playing the game of what if about emtional truths which can change twice between breakfast and lunch some days is just a way of not having to deal with the matters at hand which have to be done.  Sometimes it's as simple as it is much easier to spend the day in self-torture playing what-if than it is to do the dishes, sometimes it's more profound, toruturing yoruself with what if allows you to escape the ugly truth of you know what already is deep down in yoru head that you don't want to admit to, possibly even to yourself.

If you are willing to even consider entering into any sort of power exchange, or letting people bind you in some way or assulating you with long heavy leather objects, or binding someone or assaulting someone with hard leather objects, you're an adult enough to understand life can only be played one day at a time as we go along and "happily ever after" is an ad campaign brought to you by the same people who sold you the concept "life is hard but fair". 

By the very fact you are on this site, reading these words it means you have taken responsablity as an adult; it is time to put away the high school letterman jackets and prom dresses  and be an adult, deal with today, what can be done now, not what you might have to deal with later.  Yeah it never hurts to guard against a rainy day,but you do that with hide-out cash and extra ammunition, not by trying to gain some meaningless veribage to make yourself feel better about stuff that hasn't happened yet. 

no question or seeking approval from me on 'is this ok to do', just a mini rant which sorta vomited forth from me after reading the forums for the last couple of days. 

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Winks, until you can remove the collar good old "Master fear" places on you-no one else ever will.
 
Including yourself.
 
The bold take chances, some win-some lose. The worst risk is never taking any at all-and dying standing still.

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ORIGINAL: wwwkevinww

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Winks, until you can remove the collar good old "Master fear" places on you-no one else ever will.
 
Including yourself.
 
The bold take chances, some win-some lose. The worst risk is never taking any at all-and dying standing still.

I'm sorry, only you can remove the collar and then you cannot?  I think you got a little bit too fanciful in your own words for yourself.....

I agree with your general idea before you screwed it up with the second sentence implying nonsensical stuff............

I find it amusing people have so many fears that you can have a fear of almost anything.  Fear of leaving the house, fear of eating something your allergic to, fear of being murdered, fear of stubbing your toe, fear of not having enough fear......If you think about all the things you can fear, it really does become a joke....

Likewise, almost any emotion can be similiar, you can have a hatred for almost anything, a love for almost anything, even like or dislike almost anything.  For instance, don't you just love having your toes squish in the sand on a beach?  ;0   

Often emotions aren't even rational, and people often aren't either.....

And if you point out I'm not, My response is "Don't confuse me with the facts."  ;0