what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him?

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winterlight -> what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:21:11 PM)
What should you NOT talk about? Thanks. If this has been posted before i am sure the geniuses of CM will give me the links so this won't be a tiresome topic. I appreciate it!

VeryMercurial -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:28:04 PM)
the weather?

stella41b -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:28:13 PM)
Well talking about your diet, bowel movements and problems with flatulence probably wouldn't be the best introductory topic.

celticlord2112 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:34:49 PM)
Anything relating to tampons would definitely be in the NOT category. (well....most likely would be....)

Level -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:38:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: winterlight What should you NOT talk about? There is no universal list of right or wrong topics; anything any of us list here, there is almost certainly a dominant somewhere that would say "hold on, I'd talk about that". I started to say "just don't bore me", but even that has its purpose, you know?

abcbsex -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:40:18 PM)
I'd probably end up talking about Star Wars or something random on a first meet with a Dom, cause I'd see it as a first date. Meaningless until you get to the second or third.

VeryMercurial -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 1:41:23 PM)
Okay, on a serious note. I would act like I am on a vanilla date with a potential "Dom". I would be low keyed and quiet, and at the same time try to find out as much as I could about him, without being questioning and overbaring. Ask questions in a quiet voice like, "What are the most qualitites you look for in a submissive woman?" Let him take the lead and you follow, have fun.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 2:54:44 PM)
well I certaintly wouldn't tell them about the awful heat rash I have or how hot an stinky I feel lol.

DarkSteven -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 2:55:09 PM)
I'd stay away from D/s and sex altogether. Ask where he was born, why did he choose his career field, etc. Nothing worse that finding yourself in a mad passionate D/s love affair and then discovering you can't stand the SOB.

DomAviator -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 3:30:14 PM)
After being married to my ex wife I have a prepared a little script... Do you have any family history of mental illness? Have you ever been adjudicated mentally defective? Have you ever been committed, voluntarily or otherwise, to an impatient facility for the treatment of a mential disease or defect? Are you currently, or within the preceeding five years, have you been under the care of a psychiatrist, psychologist, or social worker? Do you now, or have you in the past five years, suffered from any communicable diseases? Have you ever been charged with a crime punishable by imprisonent for a period of greater than one year? List all offenses other than minor traffic infractions with which you have ever been charged. Include the the date, offense, court, and disposition of the charge. (Include juvenile offenses) Have you ever been the subject of a restraining or protective order issued by a court of competent jurisdiction. If yes explain... Have you ever had a professional license revoked, suspended or denied? If so explain... Has anyone you have ever been romantically involved with committed, or attempted, suicide? Do you, or should you, belong to any organizations using 12 step programs? etc, etc, etc

JohnWarren -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 3:34:48 PM)
It's not so much what you talk about or what he says as much as it has to do with the feeling you get talking to him. If something makes you uneasy, step back and try to determine if it is just the situation or it's him. If it's the latter, keep looking. The subconscious is a great guide.

Owner59 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:14:21 PM)
Avoid politics or religion. Be a good listener and chime in. Don`t try to top his stories. Laugh at his jokes and giggle, a lot. Don`t talk about other people like your last b/f and don`t sound complainy/whiny. Talk about what you like and love and what you want to do. Ask him about those things too. The art,music,movies you like and ask him what he likes. Hopefully he won`t talk about bang`n you later or about bd/sm stuff(yet) and will be a gentleman,for now. Relax , take deep breaths and have fun.

KatyLied -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:18:20 PM)
You sound like a fun first date!

Owner59 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:20:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomAviator After being married to my ex wife I have a prepared a little script... Do you have any family history of mental illness etc, etc, etc Now that is sexy....so hot and sexy....[8\|] With an aproach like that, you`re gaurunteed to get lucky...[sm=rofl.gif]

Owner59 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:23:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied You sound like a fun first date! [;)]

DomAviator -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:27:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner59 quote: ORIGINAL: DomAviator After being married to my ex wife I have a prepared a little script... Do you have any family history of mental illness etc, etc, etc Now that is sexy....so hot and sexy....[8\|] With an aproach like that, you`re gaurunteed to get lucky...[sm=rofl.gif] I speak from experience.... sometimes "getting lucky" is pretty fucking unlucky LOL Hook up with the wrong chick, have one great drunken night, next thing you know she is burning all of her clothes on the hood of your Trans Am, sneaking into a Naval Air Station, and chasing you around a bar with a broken beer bottle... Thats the kind of thing that can give you a nickname that follows you for life [sm=wife.gif]

Owner59 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 4:39:38 PM)
A nice ass makes a nut case still look like a "10". Been there,done that...

lronitulstahp -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 5:52:27 PM)
May g-d have mercy on me... DA makes a point.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m24.gif[/image]( though perhaps i'd water down the questions just a tad) No need waiting to see someone's crazy surface. If someone is socially maladjusted, totally obsessed with BDSM and has no other use besides quoting little snippets he garnered from kink sites...why find that out after 4 dates? i say put the cards on the table right away....time's a wastin'!

ThundersCry -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 6:06:06 PM)
Ask him how big his pee pee...is. What his facial expression and body movements closely...

Owner59 -> RE: what should u talk about to a Dom on your first meet with Him? (6/28/2008 6:13:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp May g-d have mercy on me... DA makes a point.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m24.gif[/image]( though perhaps i'd water down the questions just a tad) No need waiting to see someone's crazy surface. If someone is socially maladjusted, totally obsessed with BDSM and has no other use besides quoting little snippets he garnered from kink sites...why find that out after 4 dates? i say put the cards on the table right away....time's a wastin'! lol I don`t know... Why not ask about STDs or the ammount of consumer debt?[:'(] This is the 1st date. Let`s keep it romantic. If you`re going to get married,there`s time to sort that stuff out later.

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