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colouredin -> i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:51:23 AM)

Ok lets get this over with first, yeah im 21 i know but seriously I seem to spend every day thinking when will my life start, I look at my family and people I know (I would say friends but i dont really have many of them) and they all seem to be more together, they have ambitions and all that jazz, solid relationships I seem to just wander from obbsession to obbsession seperated by periods of total boredom (like today) I mean seriously even on this board despite being around for ages im external to it all. Ok so maybe this is just the pms talking but whys it seem that every time i feel positive its always superfical and I know its going to vanish. I find something new to stress about every day and as for places to vent or release tension I dont have any (one of the problems of not having any friends) Now why am I posting this, I know I think its simply for sympathy to be honest, how terribly sad is that? I want messages from people I dont know to make me feel better, oh well I guess we all need it some days and I need it today and im sorry for being a whinger.




sub4hire -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:54:10 AM)

You better watch out...it appears people who whine should be ignored.  They are...what do they call them..attention freaks or something like that?

Anyway...if you're bored with your life change it.  I say this weekly to my nephew.  Go out and get it done.
Volunteer, you can start that today.  Go to school.  Get a job.  Doing all of this will help you make friends.
What are your interests?  Join clubs that are focused on them.
If you sit around feeling sorry for yourself nothing will ever change for you.  It takes you to make that change.





came4U -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:55:41 AM)

At age 21, trust me, you have years of complaining to go. Lots to look forward to. lol




purepleasure -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:56:21 AM)

coloured, some days are just like that.  My suggestion is go to a local park with a good book.  Enjoy the weather - even if it's raining.  I don't suggest trying to read a book while it's raining, though.  Watch children play.  Listen to nature.  Take in a deep breath, hold it, and for that moment in time just BE.  When you get home, make a list of goals you would like to accomplish and make a plan to attain those goals.




colouredin -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:57:07 AM)

Yeah well i am being an attention whore, and to be honest its just how i feel today ill probably feel ok tomoz, in regards to your advice, yeah im starting a new course in september, and I work in a nursing home (similar lines to volunteering stuff) and I know you are right its down to me, and ive been a member of photography clubs magazine clubs jazz clubs academic clubs, the reason i dont have friends is im rather shit at making them (ask Sundowner how hard I am to talk to) im just feeling sorry for myself really thats all.




GreedyTop -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 7:58:54 AM)

*hugs*  I know what you mean, colourful....wish I was there....




colouredin -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:00:32 AM)

ditto GT, but you will be eventually wont you, gosh im gonna pray for the day *hugs*




kittinSol -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:00:40 AM)

colouredin, you expressed your malaise beautifully. I think it shows that you have great insight: as you accumulate more and more life experience, this insight will come in mightily handy. Many people are blind to their own motivations and have built walls around their unconscious, sometimes unknowingly, but it looks as though you are 'whole' and that there are no internal bareers within you. I know this all sounds a little esoteric... try and go with your personal energy flow: it's not because others are motivated by well-defined ambitions or whatever that you need to be like them. Embrace your individuality, go forth, and conquer yourself, darling :-).





colouredin -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:02:10 AM)

did i ever tell you that I love you KS cos I do, thanks




GreedyTop -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:03:08 AM)

I'll be there, someday, honey....




kittinSol -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:03:28 AM)

It's my pleasure :-).




spinninsweetness -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:27:33 AM)

I was completely all blah and waiting for my life to start till last year.... moved my lazy ass to London, new job new life new web connection and now is better. Not 100% but at least I know more than 1 person! yay me!

Moaning and whinging is one of the greatest joys in life. If you cant do it here in amongs the randomness we should all crawl into a teeny hole and die or whatever.




Daddysredhead -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:41:10 AM)

Dear Colouredin,

Hugs to you, sweet one.  I understand what you have written and I think many people have been right where you are.  It's difficult to watch others who appear to have their lives straight and then reflect on ourselves.  Something I have learned in my times of self-reflection (although I don't always follow my own advice well), is to try not to compare yourself to others.  Some people seem to have it all, and in reality they do not.  Some people appear happy and content when, in their hearts, they are miserable.  You just never know. 

Try to find your passion, and find a smile in the little things you see in the world, like pure said.  It may help you crack the door open to your future and what lies beyond the here and now.

Hugs to you, sweetness.  I wish I were there to talk to you and hang out.  I've never met a stranger, as they say.  [:)]

~ DRH




cjan -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 8:58:11 AM)

colourdin, I think what you are feeling is typical for most people of around your age. I remember wondering the same things, i.e., "when is my life gonna start and other people my age seem to know more what they want and have a plan how to get it."

I was gonna say that everyone's path is different. Then I reconsidered if that's true. A Robert Frost poem came to mimnd.





quote:


The Road Not Taken
By Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

About the poem, Frost asserted, "You have to be careful of that one; it's a tricky poem - very tricky." And he is, of course, correct. The poem has been and continues to be used as an inspirational poem, one that to the undiscerning eye seems to be encouraging self-reliance, not following where others have led.

But a close reading of the poem proves otherwise. It does not moralize about choice, it simply says that choice is inevitable but you never know what your choice will mean until you have lived it.


Good luck and best wishes on your journey.




kiwisub12 -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:28:13 AM)

like cjan -  i too remember those feelings. and they were a bit worse for me at 21 because i was in a new country.
One thing you need to remember is that all those people who look as if they have their shit together are thinking the same things as you, as they busily try to look "together".
One thing i have found as i got older is that no-one is ever "together" - there are always issues to be worked on, and relationships to obsess about.[:D]

Don't worry about how other people appear, they aren't any better or worse off than you.  or to paraphrase the song - don't worry, be happy!




GreedyTop -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:29:31 AM)

I hate to say it,but it's not only when you're in your 20s... I'm in my 40s and STILL go through this ..*sigh*






Daddysredhead -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:31:39 AM)

*raises hand...  I'm in my 30's...*




colouredin -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:32:00 AM)

*hugs GT*

Thanks Cjan




faerytattoodgirl -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:39:15 AM)

bitch bitch bitch....its what we're bread for.




GreedyTop -> RE: i complain too much (6/29/2008 9:39:47 AM)

leavened or unleavened?




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