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DarkVictory -> Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 1:54:49 AM)

I read here and there comments from slaves or submissives about dancing for their owners/dom(me)s/tops/master/mistress (etc), and I wonder how common that is.  I've personally never requested an erotic dance from one of my girls.  Apparently though, lots of people do make such requests.  I've taken my girls to strip clubs, and dance clubs, and I find the environment erotic often, but it seems to me like a private dance at home would be mostly just awkward.

Do you dance for your dom?  Do you like having your sub dance for you?  What do you get out of it?  How awkward is it for you? How erotic do you find it?

I'm really very curious to learn more about this particular interest.

Edit: Sorry, I should be clear I'm not asking about dancing *with* your partner, but *for* them



Ialdabaoth -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 2:13:56 AM)

My primary kink is owning girls who are good at ballet, contortionism and athletic prowess in ballet heels, so yeah, dancing for me is kinda integral. :)



hisannabelle -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 2:31:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

My primary kink is owning girls who are good at ballet, contortionism and athletic prowess in ballet heels, so yeah, dancing for me is kinda integral. :)


a man after my own heart! :)

greetings darkvictory,

i'm trained in ballet, pointe, jazz, modern, and lyrical dance, and i enjoy doing bellydance, but i don't dance much anymore due to health problems. actually, my dancing is pretty much confined now to dancing for my master. it's odd, i can dance on a stage in front of hundreds of people, or at competitions in front of a panel of judges. but dancing for him makes me beyond nervous, so it's something we're exploring slowly. it's not awkward, and i can imagine even without my background that a lot of people would find it enjoyable - it's just hard, i think, to get over one's self-consciousness. i mean, we've been together for 2 and a half years and i'm pretty much unself-conscious with him where everything else is concerned, but things like this still make me sweat. that's really the only source of awkwardness, though - i know it's something he enjoys and it is pleasurable for both of us (plus, he likes watching me squirm), so i can definitely see a point in it :)

respectfully,
a'ishah.



Satyrnoir -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 5:15:48 AM)

As a dancer of nearly 20 years myself, there's a process where I know what a dancer's body can do, as mine does it!  Mind you, different dancers, with different styles, bring different things to the sexual table, including aspects of the BDSM world. That includes exotic dancers, although I've never Topped or dated one.
It's cool that some Doms just get off on the dancing, but for me, I see a lot of dancers.  What facinates me is the body, and what a Dom and a flexable sub can bring to the table.



taintedgypsy -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 6:02:20 AM)

This is a topic I have thought about often … I was an exotic dancer for 7 yrs before motherhood. Stripper, lingerie shows, cage dancing, I worked in clubs, toured the country in a bus with 6 other girls (my god that was fun, the stories lol). I even did a show in a wool shed once lol. I never did the private show, bucks night and was pretty fussy about safety issues and therefore there were gigs I knocked back on a regular basis. I was into the fantasy dancing; the costumes and head space; to a certain extent almost role playing aspects of striptease … I still love to dance and often dance just for myself and the music at home. I fantasize about dancing for a Dom and did on a couple of occasions in my last relationship. I found it a little awkward, and I was a little self conscious but I also found it hot and really enjoyed it once I realized that there was no judgment thing happening .. He was just sitting back enjoying a cigar and the show lol.

I think for me the experience is defined by the Dom’s attitude and enjoyment … if he was critical or judgmental … I would just become insecure and stressed. If he was casual and smiling and just enjoying watching his girl tart for him than I would get into it, relax and enjoy the experience.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 6:07:36 AM)

When I dance for him it is a very personal, intimate connection that is created.  He watches and directs.  It is not simply an erotic dance, but an exercise of his power.  Dancing includes the use of toys and orgasms, and often results in me nearly passed out on the floor.  My last "dance" for him included a glass dildo up the rear, a "mega" dildo up the front, while sitting on a hitachi at the clit, all at the same time, while my body shook in an explosive orgasm that lasted as long as he directed it to.  This is something he conducts both in person and over cam when we are separated, and is a way for me to feel his power over me no matter where he might be.

Because of the nature of the connection this creates, I don't write of it much on the boards, other than referring to it as "dancing for him."  Sometimes I am pushed so hard I lose bodily fluids (and sometimes at his command) from all areas.  These "dances" typically last about a half an hour, and I'm usually pushed so far out there that I can not speak afterwards, and I'm drenched in sweat, overheated, and not long after, trembling from being seriously chilled.

A couple of years ago he had me take belly dancing classes so I could incorporate some of the moves into these performances.  And that's what he refers to these as - my performances for my Master.  When I perform for him like this, I feel an intense connection to him, and I can always tell how energized he is by it from the tone of his voice when he talks to me, when it's over.

These performances take place an average of three times a week, and I'm pretty worthless for the rest of the evening, once finished.



TreasureKY -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 6:11:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkVictory

Do you dance for your dom?  Do you like having your sub dance for you?  What do you get out of it?  How awkward is it for you? How erotic do you find it?


Yes, I do, and I find it very awkward.  lol... I would assume he likes it because he's the one requiring it.  No idea what he gets out of it besides a good laugh.  [;)]



fluffyswitch -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 7:20:57 AM)

i dance a lot, well i wriggle. it was never intentional, i never danced 'for him' per se. but he told me this weekend that he likes it and i should do it more. shrug. i don't really dance i do this weird rhythmic...thing. i find it sort of ackward but more because i know that i'm no good at it than being told to do it more often. 



pompeii -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 7:25:52 AM)

I slip on the music, bind her arms behind, blindfold and collar on, ankles cuffed loosly apart, pull her blouse to her waist and then dance to the music, her right teat firmly in my grasp as I lead her to and fro, roughly and she, clumsily trying to follow, what with the tethers and gag.... mmummmmm.... that's erotic dancing!



Lockit -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 8:09:40 AM)

I realize we might typically think of a female dancer in this situation, but I would love a male submissive that danced for me once in a while.  Although I don't typically like what most male dancers do and would wish to train them to dance 'my way'.  I am sure that they might find it uncomfortable, thus I have only found one that could or would dance for me, but I do believe that the rewards would far outweigh the initial discomfort or insecurities.

Dancing was a part of my soul.  My style was not what most picture... such as pole type dancing, but it was extremely erotic.  And as dominant, I will dance for my submissive's.  I don't see dance as a dominant or submissive thing and if I did, well... I might even consider it a dominant thing, as it welds great enfluence and power!  When one can capture the attention and manipulate the temperment of a room full of people... that is power!  Whether one would consider it dominant or submissive... the simple truth it seems would be that it is simply a turn on when done well.  I love dance as part of a tease!



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 8:43:16 AM)

for Daddy, it's slow dancing to samba music.

for him, it's dancing to the rhythmic beat of goth/vampire/industrial music.

both genres of music are erotic and does get me dancing immediately.



AquaticSub -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 10:34:32 AM)

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Yes... but it's not very serious. I don't think he's ever asked and it's usually part of my willingness to make a fool out of myself to get him to smile. [:)]



christine1 -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 10:37:49 AM)

if he did ever request it of me, i hope he'd at least let me take some classes first....i'm 2 left feet with no rythm to speak of.  [8|]



tinkerbelle3 -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 10:38:15 AM)

Yes, I dance for him. Often.

Sometimes it's quite a production of make up, jewelry and layers of silk to bellydance. Sometimes it's a short skirt and skimpy top gyrating to the blues and one time it was wearing soaking wet lingerie.

But each time it's personal, fun and intimate. It's not really awkward for us mostly because he likes to stare and I like to be stared at. : )

ps. I do have to add that the only time dancing for him is problematic is when I have an issue with body image. Sometimes I have difficulty with growing older.



scarlettjinx -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 11:38:27 AM)

I dance for Papa, but not in a lap dance sort of way. I don't think I am that coordinated. But I used to dance with an old fashioned burlesque troupe and when Papa turns on his Glen Miller, I can't help but start moving. He enjoys this much more than the times I have tried to do the 'champaine room' type dancing, because For one I am good at it, it incorporates his favorite type of music and his favorite time period, and he says most important is he can see on my face how very much I enjoy it.



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (6/30/2008 3:09:01 PM)

A couple of months ago, I started a thread in the sub/slave forum about stripping for my Master.  Our local BDSM club was having a role playing night called Flesh Playhouse, complete with strippers, bouncers, etc. and my Master wanted me to strip.  I was mortified because I HATE being the center of attention, have body issues, I'm clumsy, etc.....

I got so many outstanding and supportive responses to that thread that it just floored me. [:)]

So I spent weeks working myself up mentally, emotionally and physically to do this for Him, even though so many others would be watching.  I bought accessories and such to make me feel sexy and sensual and really had psyched myself up for the event.  Friends of mine who belong to the club were looking forward to me dancing, and plenty of good humor had been going on about my dancing debut in the weeks leading up to it.

Six hours before we were to leave, He called me.  He had a stomach flu or virus and couldn't get more than 2 feet from the bathroom, so He was not going to be able to go.  He was so upset and disappointed!  I chose not to go either as everyone would ask a million questions about where He was and why I wasn't dancing anyway. 

Even though I was so nervous about it, I was sort of looking forward to being pushed out of another comfort zone, and was sorely disappointed that it didn't happen.  [:(]

Personally, I would feel really weird just dancing for Him in the living room or something.  It would be really really awkward.  But ironically, I don't think it would feel awkward at all to do some impromptu dancing, bumping and grinding for Him and against Him.  The awkward part would be if He were just sitting there staring at me.  LOL!



Sorcierelouest -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (7/1/2008 10:50:58 PM)

Dita Von Teese!
Burlesque!
That scene in 9 1/2 Weeks "You can Leave your hat On!"
I have absolutely danced for my Lover. It was an intimate, private moment between us that intensified the erotic scene that followed. 
You know those tiny, twirling music box dancers framed in the mirror of a little girl's jewelry box?  I was one once.  What Man does not want his own Private Dancer?



SurrenderForMe -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (7/1/2008 10:59:17 PM)

What do I get out of having a sub dance for me?  I generally only apply it to the males.  Females are comfortable dancing to some extent.
From a man, only in a public play setting, I get submission, embarassment, submission, a howl, submission, an occassionally decent preformance and satisfaction.
It is only erotic to me in terms of getting hot from getting someone to do something I want, not them.  If they accede to easily, I don't follow through.



Skully7000 -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (7/1/2008 11:06:03 PM)

If it is a skill they have then I would most certainly make them use it...or if its causes great amounts of humiliation/embarassment then I could also see me making them do it.

if they had any amount of dancing ability then I might ask them to practice now and again...you never know when a talent like that can come in handy especially in the groups I involve myself with.

Hope this helps.

Cheers
Skully





Masque66 -> RE: Dancing for the D/M type? (7/1/2008 11:09:09 PM)

I would certainly encourage it.  You really get a feel for a body's capabilities and a truer appreciation for its beauty during a dance.



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