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CBT Inquiry - 6/30/2008 10:58:09 PM

GentlemanBobIII

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It seems to me that while stimulation and denyed orgasm and prolonged arousal might be fun that having ones balls impaled with a spike heel or kicked could seriously cause both bend ove collapsing pain and interfere w/ the ability to have kids ever. Is this really as dangerous and brutal as it seems? -Bob

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 1:06:49 AM

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It seems to me that while stimulation and denyed orgasm and prolonged arousal might be fun that having ones balls impaled with a spike heel or kicked could seriously cause both bend ove collapsing pain and interfere w/ the ability to have kids ever. Is this really as dangerous and brutal as it seems? -Bob

Simple answer, yes it can be that dangerous. This is a point at which choosing the right and appropriately skillful partner is of utmost importance. Enthusiasm is good but make sure the lady is actually aware of dangers and capable of restraining herself.

Ball-busting for example would be extremely dangerous if all the Domme did was aim and kick as hard as she could. However, what goes on, is a kind of 'pulled' kick, like a pulled punch, so you get some but not all of the impact. She can flick her foot at the ankle rather the hoof the testicles into orbit. You will still feel a degree of pain but you stand some chance of finishing the scene with both balls attached and no internal bleeding or loss of future fatherhood potential.

I find the words we use for activities, clearly chosen to make things sound scary , are not actually what one normally does, unless one is into EXTREME stuff, and that is a whole different story. So, ball busting can hurt but should not actually bust the balls right off! :-)

Again, the spike heel does not have to be ground right through the flesh, moderate pressure with the edge of freshly heeled stilettos will cause a great deal of wriggling and moaning but nothing more serious than a faint heel mark.

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 1:20:50 AM

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Thank you Ms Valentine. Maybe I would consider cbt. Oh, would one form of prolonged tease and orgasm denial be tickling a guys member with a feather? Or is`that just a hollywood idea than no self respecting Domme would consider doing? Thanks again for your response. -Bob

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 2:04:45 AM

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Thank you Ms Valentine. Maybe I would consider cbt. Oh, would one form of prolonged tease and orgasm denial be tickling a guys member with a feather? Or is`that just a hollywood idea than no self respecting Domme would consider doing? Thanks again for your response. -Bob

You can find someone into anything, and a feather tickling session is far from the human limit.

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 6:42:57 AM

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Thank you Ms Valentine. Maybe I would consider cbt. Oh, would one form of prolonged tease and orgasm denial be tickling a guys member with a feather? Or is`that just a hollywood idea than no self respecting Domme would consider doing? Thanks again for your response. -Bob

Bob-- what you describe is something that I do more often than even spankings! Many men like the idea of some form of cbt but certainly don't want the extreme.
The majority of the cbt I do is fairly mild...... some light bonadage of the testicles & penis...... light flogging of said...... sometimes a little heavier depending on what the client really wants. And I just love clothespins for cbt....... and have a few different sizes and styles!

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 7:08:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: GentlemanBobIII

Thank you Ms Valentine. Maybe I would consider cbt. Oh, would one form of prolonged tease and orgasm denial be tickling a guys member with a feather? Or is`that just a hollywood idea than no self respecting Domme would consider doing? Thanks again for your response. -Bob

You needn't worry about if something seems to light and sensuous. Dommes come in many shapes, sizes and proclivities and the most light of touching and teasing with a feather may be just what one lady likes to do. I certainly enjoy sensuousness just as much as sadism. In fact an overload of sensuousness can become a form of torture.

CBT is a big area and there are so many aspects to it. Some are very painful, others less so. If in doubt start with mild stuff, see how it feels and work up until you find a challenging level if that is what you want.

I adore dishing out CBT in all it's forms. My favourite is teasing my subs for ages, keeping him on the edge,making him moan and whimper with desire and then reminding him it will be several days before he gets to orgasm. It turns something pleasurable into suffering and makes his cock his enemy, at least for a little while. Hee Hee!

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/1/2008 4:01:33 PM

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I have an out of town sub who is VERY interested in ball kicking. I didn't really know anything about it other than the fact that -as mentioned by the OP- it could cause serious damage. So I attended a demonstration at Frolicon (a convention in Atlanta) about CBT including ball kicking. It was quite informative! The instructor was showing the trick is to kick BEHIND the testicles in what is commonly referred to as the 'taint'. This would allow the strike to resonate into the scrotum without crushing the testes between the foot at pelvic bone. The balls then bounce in free air unharmed but the desired sensation is still achieved.

I personally haven't gotten quite brave enough to try kicking... and my current favored boy toy is quite happy that I have not required this of him. I do however enjoy ball slapping, which is a milder form of the same. Basically, instead of having to learn how to land a well placed, pulled kick, I just slap the taint as hard as I can. MUCH easier for me! Much safer for my boy. Pretty much the same effect... just less drastic. I also love that element of surprise when I'm gently caressing the boy and he's relaxing into 'after care' mode... and just pop him a few times. That normally winds the fun right back up to a fever pitch.

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RE: CBT Inquiry - 7/2/2008 2:36:50 AM

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Yup.

But you can experience excrutiating pain with little risk, if you are careful.

I'm not so worried about stilletos in the sack, that can be fun. At least for me.

No hospitals or deaths were involved with the pets with whom I did this.

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