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BadJohn -> Preparing for the pain scene (7/1/2008 5:17:39 PM)
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It is easy to cause “pain.” Stick her with a needle, hit her with a crop, tie the ropes so tight the limb turns blue and becomes cold. It’s easy. It’s also easy to play a musical instrument; blow in the trombone, hit the drum, yank the horse hair across the catgut. But to “play” is not the same as “make music;” “to hurt” isn’t the same as creating a beautiful state through pain.
Some (usually submissive) will say the difference is trust, and that’s a big factor for a lot of people. Pain is a big, scary thing without the lifeline of control (and what else is “trust” but feeling the situation isn’t out of control) even if the control is in the hands of another. However, I have met those, admittedly a small minority, who express an aversion to trust, some to the extent that when they find they have developed trust in an individual will move to another.
Another factor is how the pain is received, and this is where the art comes in. Everyone knows that some masochists prefer thud over sting, and others have the reverse perception. What is less commonly known is that other sensations are processed in much the same way. There are also different reactions to the same stimuli in different parts of the body.
For example, in the scene that inspired the short story “The Brat” on the LovingDominant.com website, the uber-masochist watched me layout a needle kit with a small sigh of boredom. Her attitude changed abruptly when I bypassed her breasts, which she had expected to be my target in favor of a sensitive spot between her toes. This created the mutually desired effect, much to her surprise.
Aside from different levels of sensitivity, repeated play on one part of the body or another can create the familiar “iron butt” condition just about anywhere. A male submissive with a teacher/mommy domme had been hit with a ruler so often on his right hand so often as to render it almost insensible to that kind of impact, but screamed quite delightfully when one was used on his left.
To deal with this, I often do a pre-scene with someone who wants to do a intense pain scene. This has two major (and a number of minor) components. First, it allows me to study how she responds to pain. It isn’t unusual to encounter someone with fantasy that write checks their body can’t cash. (“First Scene Surprise” on the website). It also allows me to determine where the best points are for me to launch my attack.
The pre-scene is basically a smorgasbord of sensation with a broad number of toys used at different intensities and in different ways. I take note on what creates what response and I also repeat some routines but in varying sequences so I can check if it is the specific routine or how that routine complements or contracts with another that creates the effect. This pre-scene includes a lot of conversation. While some submissives love to share their reactions, some tend to fall into silence. Quickly finding something that will “get her attention” is one of the goals early in the pre-scene.
Once this sort of information has been allowed to process, I can do a much better when the actual scene takes place a few days later.
It’s like any other kind of music; one must know his instrument.
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