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Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:07:25 AM   
krazysubbiekat


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Status: offline 		I was thinking today about how much I enjoy these boards and the sharing of ideas. I do have to ask though...are we over-analyzing this? I come here and read about all the struggles that people are having, and all the anger over the interactions between people, and I wonder if I am doing something wrong? I'm not struggling with my role, I am not frustrated by other's rudeness, have never met a HNG (or was just too dumb to know it if I did lol) and am enjoying my search for Dominant. I know that I greatly enjoy this lifestyle, and I enjoy being free to be the submissive I am. I am loving the parties that I am going to, I am loving the scenes that I am involved in, and I adore meeting others that do what I do. I mean, this thing is supposed to fun isn't it?

I guess my question is...are you having fun?

kat

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:15:55 AM   
GlobalSkulls


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Status: offline 		Im having fun :)

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:21:01 AM   
MissDiandSirHugh


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Status: offline 		We both are indeed and besides just haveing fun here also have made good friends which we would not have if we didnt have the fun and keep comeing back here.
Th edifferences of oppions are all part of the enjoyment and the cross section of life comes to the front in many shapes and forms to teach us to have fun in life or we will always have sadness as we travel its road.

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:25:58 AM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		Yup, having fun.

Keep in mind though, some of us enjoy analyzing things, a good intellectual debate.

I do get your point though, I think some are over complicating things (which isn't the same as analyzing it).

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:37:25 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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I guess my question is...are you having fun?
Most days I enjoy myself in that I am clearer about my path in life. Other days I wonder what signal I'm putting out to attract some of the attention I do, but can't complain too much since when I can't handle it with some decorum I shut the profile down and go interact with people I love/respect. M

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:49:53 AM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		I am definately having fun and can always think of more ways and am up for more fun!!

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 3:56:38 AM   
sunshine333


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Status: offline 		i think you're making a wonderful point.

i won't struggle (too much) with my slavery. there are growing pains, yes. but a constant struggle would indicate to me that there is something terribly wrong ... and i would do what needs to be done to remedy that. whether it means fixing or leaving a relationship.

i think that many slaves' struggles stem from the fact that they're not who they think they are or want to be. many a submissive or slave is merely a masochist who thinks they have to be in a slave role in order to be treated the way she's fantasized about. and the reverse is true. many slaves are not masochists and have chosen a Master who is a sadist which causes her to doubt her slavery because she can't fill his needs.

etc.

i think the most important thing we can do in order to avoid needless frustration is to make every effort to find a suitable partner. the Master i'm with now pointed out to me that "we're here to meet each others needs." that had a huge impact on me because, for so long, i had taken my own needs out of the equasion. and i struggled constantly. and i struggled with my struggle because i assumed i wasn't "slave enough." all i was though ... was with dominants who i was not compatible with.

humbly,
sunshine

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 4:25:40 AM   
Cloudz


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Status: offline 		Mmmm, Veree Interesting...
Yes, I am having fun. Most of the time it is fun being me. We sometimes tend to micro manage our own lives and the people who pass through them. These boards are great for answering questions, provoking further thought on a topic, and there are always a few people ready to let you know if you are over-reacting.

IMHO If you are not having fun, then something is not working and needs to be revised. Life is too short and too great a gift not to be enjoyed.

Bright Blessings,

~Cloudz

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 5:05:13 AM   
cltcdrd


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshine333

i think you're making a wonderful point.

i won't struggle (too much) with my slavery. there are growing pains, yes. but a constant struggle would indicate to me that there is something terribly wrong ... and i would do what needs to be done to remedy that. whether it means fixing or leaving a relationship.

i think that many slaves' struggles stem from the fact that they're not who they think they are or want to be. many a submissive or slave is merely a masochist who thinks they have to be in a slave role in order to be treated the way she's fantasized about. and the reverse is true. many slaves are not masochists and have chosen a Master who is a sadist which causes her to doubt her slavery because she can't fill his needs.

etc.

i think the most important thing we can do in order to avoid needless frustration is to make every effort to find a suitable partner. the Master i'm with now pointed out to me that "we're here to meet each others needs." that had a huge impact on me because, for so long, i had taken my own needs out of the equasion. and i struggled constantly. and i struggled with my struggle because i assumed i wasn't "slave enough." all i was though ... was with dominants who i was not compatible with.

humbly,
sunshine



I think Sunshine summed it up perfectly.


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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 5:07:26 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		i love my friends -- people i have met in BDSM situations. i cannot say i enjoy searching; i guess partially because it has been so long. (Whine, LOL.) i enjoy the boards; i like some of the user-created chat rooms here.

candystripper

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 6:09:17 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: krazysubbiekat
are we over-analyzing this? I come here and read about all the struggles that people are having, and all the anger over the interactions between people, and I wonder if I am doing something wrong? I'm not struggling with my role, I am not frustrated by other's rudeness, have never met a HNG (or was just too dumb to know it if I did lol) and am enjoying my search for Dominant. I know that I greatly enjoy this lifestyle, and I enjoy being free to be the submissive I am. I am loving the parties that I am going to, I am loving the scenes that I am involved in, and I adore meeting others that do what I do. I mean, this thing is supposed to fun isn't it?

I guess my question is...are you having fun?

kat

Yup. For me, I'm a discussion/analyzing junkie. I get OFF on this sort of thing. It's one of my faavorite hobbies.

But I agree, there's a time and place to analyze and a time and place just to experience and enjoy. Hopefully we all find a good balance of that.

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 6:10:43 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		I'm having a blast and I'm not even looking for someone, I just like playing with the trolls (not here anymore though, I'm not allowed)

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 6:10:59 AM   
IronBear


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From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		1. I agree that at times we may over analyse things (Typical Virgo activity), but I dont see this as being negative or detremental. it is just the way some of us experss ourselves.

2. I find that the forums are a healthy and important sounding board to express ideas and concepts as well as a beaut way of sounding off our frustrations. As adult, we have the chioce to either enter into a debate or leave the matter alone. As adults we have the choice of accepting comments, hints, help or critisism; or ignoring it.

3. If I wasn't having fun most of the time and enjoying the cyber connections with so many people, I would not be here. So yes i'm having fun.

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 7:07:53 AM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		I'm having fun. Thats the point of life, I have always tried my best to have fun no matter what I was doing. Life is too damn short not to be happy.

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 8:11:28 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I think in many ways these boards offer a lot of things that blanket
a wide selection. it seems some come for advice, some to rant,
some to banter, some come out of habit, some from being lonely.
hell maybe all of the above. I do think I've seen some take
what they read much to seriously and others that need to get a clue.
in the long run, it's all good.

Q

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 8:27:19 AM   
Nuke718


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Status: offline 		I'm having a blast just reading most days. I only pop in when I think I have something remotely interesting or helpful to say.

My personal life is, well it has several things goin on but nothing I need help analyzing.

It's interesting tho to see where others in the lifestyle are at and to camper that to MY experience.

N }:-

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 8:29:47 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Yep. It's fun to be me. I enjoy yakking, and often it's reassuring to be validated by folks in other parts of the country/world who are having similar experiences.

Of course, I would always rather DO something than talk about it. :)

Francine

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 12:39:35 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		very much indeed!!!

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 12:54:13 PM   
ExistentialSteel


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Status: offline 		Yep, yep, yep, I love it here. I'm relatively new and enjoy learning the personalities of the posters also. Very interesting.

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RE: Just a thought... - 11/9/2005 12:58:53 PM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

very much indeed!!!

Ditto.

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