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Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:13:13 PM

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Do you find that as you get to know someone in play or lifestyle, that you do not dress up as often ? If so why?

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:18:20 PM

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openminded slave I never dressed up, if you mean dressing in fetish clothing, or leather an all that. Because I think fetish clothing is stupid an ugly an costs a fortune, personally.

And if you didn't mean that, well I dress nicely regularly anyway, cause the only clothing I own are majortity dresses an nice shirts an one piece dresses, so I am always in nice clothing, unless I choose to wear a ratty dress or two I have.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:18:40 PM

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I never did "dress" to begin with. However, to answer your question, play sessions tend to be spontaneous and unplanned. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing. I am who I am and if the urge to play strikes me, I'm not going to say, "Hold on...let me put my Domme suit on." Sheesh! LOL!

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:20:34 PM

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And if you didn't mean that, well I dress nicely regularly anyway, cause the only clothing I own are majortity dresses an nice shirts an one piece dresses, so I am always in nice clothing, unless I choose to wear a ratty dress or two I have.

Ok, now I gotta ask. Isn't that you in the picture? It looks like you two are wearing sweat pants and jeans, and a T. LOL!

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:24:58 PM

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MistressSybella, yup that's us. We went to the Sonoma County fair, and I wanted to go on rides, an most the rides dresses were not suited for:) And I did say majority, cause i do own some jogging pants:) My pants an his t shirtLOL

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And if you didn't mean that, well I dress nicely regularly anyway, cause the only clothing I own are majortity dresses an nice shirts an one piece dresses, so I am always in nice clothing, unless I choose to wear a ratty dress or two I have.

Ok, now I gotta ask. Isn't that you in the picture? It looks like you two are wearing sweat pants and jeans, and a T. LOL!

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:26:40 PM

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I like that ..lol

I guess what I was trying to say is that certainly a leather outfit or a a pair of boots does not make a Mistress. But I do know people that dress to accent the experience. Yet as they seem to get to know a person and their interest, some have told me they may just show up at the door in jeans and a tee shirt. I was just woundering if others even dress up in the begining of a relationship and eventually it becomes less frequent

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 6:52:52 PM

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I don't own any fet wear at all. I agree that it's too expensive and not the least bit comfortable. I've always worn whatever is most comfortable for me. My boy has never cared what I wear and what difference does it make when the majority of the time he's blindfolded anyway.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 7:05:17 PM

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I have some fetish clothes, and some costume stuff from when I was a pro dominant, but it's so much easier to play naked, if I'm at home. I might wear something special or amusing if I am trying to set a mood, but that's just a maybe.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 7:05:52 PM

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Fox here...

My Owner has never dressed up. It's really just not something she finds very necessary. It's not something she does with Angel either so she tells me.

From my point of view, it's not very important what she wears. If she wants to dominate me wearing her lovely pajamas, then that's fully within her rights and I'll certainly appreciate it because she looks very cute in just about everything under the sun. Hell, even if she wanted to dominate me while wearing a potato sack, it'd certainly be something I wouldn't complain about. I'm not in love with a hot leather outfit holding a person, I'm in love with a hot person who happens to love comfy clothes.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 7:23:49 PM

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while I'm not opposed to wearing sweats and a t-shirt from time to time...I try to take pride in what I wear. even if its jeans and a T-shirt. weather I look like a punk or a frat guy or a gothic freak or a lounge cat, or my kilt etc etc... I accept that whatever I'm wearing is sending out an impression of who I am as a person.

most of my play happens out and about in clubs and play parties...so i'm usually dressed to go out for the night.
I like the fact that my look adds to my overall presence.
when my sub looks up to see a sharp dressed guy clean shaven well pressed with some big stompy boots on, a leather wrist brace. an identical ring on each hand (one black with skulls, the other stainless steel with skulls) a fedora tilted forward and to the side just a bit, with the brim placing a shadow over my dark brown eyes. and that mischevious smile looking down at them... and they do that "gulp" of nervous excited anticipation...

its hot. and I know I wouldn't get the same reaction if I was just wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt.
could I get the reaction by other means... sure. I could say something the right way. I could pull out that one toy that makes them gulp... etc etc... but at the same time... the prensence, the look, the feel, the charisma... are affected by your appearance. so can you get away with not dressing. sure. does it matter what you are wearing... YES.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 7:25:50 PM

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I am always dress to be undressed. I have a lingerie and shoe fetish that I indulge in relentlessly so to some I am always dressed but that is just me.

More importantly, my submissives dress appropriately at all times. I would not stand for someone showing up dressed unproperly. I generally tell them what I want to see them in or lay something out for them to wear.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 7:33:40 PM

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Since myself and pet are big into rubber its gotta be rubber or something very tight, restrictive, and lots of layers!! Where as I agree that the outfit does not make the Domme it can accentuate the mood and can help set the scene if fetish clothes are involved. Its just my thing that I do. pet knows that 99.99% of our sessions will include rubber and lots of it encasing him. The tighter, the more restrictive, the better! Just my personal opinion. ~Lorelei

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 10:47:12 PM

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Dressing up for the occasion can be fun as hell- especially if you have a bit to play with. Don't want to mess with leather? S'ok, the latex nurse outfit works... not feeling like peeling it off my butt afterwards? Screw it, miniskirt and a wifebeater... tada! Not to say that I haven't just done the spur of the moment sweatshirt attack, but dressing up just makes it more entertaining for everyone.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 11:17:08 PM

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Do you find that as you get to know someone in play or lifestyle, that you do not dress up as often ? If so why?

I think in all my relationships, whether D/s or vanilla, there's a point where people get lazy and comfortable enough with one another to stop trying to impress. We may be kinky, but we're just like other couples in a lot of respects.

Peeing in front of people, passing gas, eating all you can in one sitting instead of just a salad. It's a very natural thing to do... you get comfortable with your partner, and it's less necessary to enhance the experience. It's sort of like the difference between trying to win your partner, and having already won him or her. Dominant, submissive, top, bottom, whatever, partners are always going to have the stage when each person is trying to impress the other.

In a vanilla sense, think of it as the first time you're willing to wear your ratty boxers when you know your female friend is going to see them. Or, when you're not afraid to go number two at her house. It's when the girls stop wearing the thongs that they really don't feel 100% comfortable wth, because they know their partner likes them, and they don't have to try as hard to snatch them up.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/2/2008 11:25:03 PM

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Yup. It is like any number of things. In general, I meet people in the scene now, at play events. I am dressed for the event. I only dress for an event or if I feel like it. A good, contradictory, indicator of how much I enjoy someone is if I dress to play. If they really turn me on, I dress. If they really turn me on, I don't dress. Depends on the mood I am in. I don't like clothing in general. If I really like, trust and enjoy someone, I am nude.

If the bottom is inhibited, and uncomfortable being nude, I want them nude. If they are exhibitionists, I want them covered.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/3/2008 12:07:25 AM

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Personally, and maybe it's cause I am not a Domme but the bottom, I am naked when I play:)

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but dressing up just makes it more entertaining for everyone.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/3/2008 12:31:14 AM

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I adore dressing up. I would put Imelda Marcos to shame if I could afford all the shoes I want!! Corsets, stockings, leather, pvc, I wear them, because I like it, I feel sexy in it, and it helps me to seperate my 'regular' self from my 'Bitch in Heels' self.

Do I sometimes skip all the fetish wear for a little black nightie? Absolutely. Sweat pants? Probably not. But, like many here have said, clothing does not make the Dominant.

I always dress for my slaves. They like, I like it, and if everyone is happy, then a little resticted breathing is really no big deal.

Women get sex whenever they want it. What do men get in return? We let you.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/3/2008 12:41:28 AM

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nope... I love dressing... for whatever I'm doing... from playing to riding the bike... for me, the appropriate clothing is important...

next weekend I'll be at an event, and contrary to my norm for events, I'll be in a tshirt as I'm working.. but its appropriate

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/3/2008 1:29:29 AM

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I don't wear fetish wear unless it is at a aprty or club when I feel more obliged to do so. I am not keen on rubber as it doesn't suit me, PVC as it isn't my style and leather well, it is okay at a push, but it I prefer to wear other stuff instead.

My sub and partner paul doesn't mind what I wear as long as I am having fun with him. Sometimes, I will dress up a little more for effect, if I want to look particularly dominant or strict. It is not what it is about for me or him though. Clothing wise, we do not have fetishes, our thing is the 24/7 D/s dynamic we have and how it plays out through our day to day lives. As I said and proved to him, I can dominate him wearing pink fluffy slippers and my dressing gown if necessary.

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RE: Dressing for a Sessioning - 7/3/2008 3:59:07 AM

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my mistress looks great whatever she wears