SirBitterSweet
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As a former psych therapist, I have a different take on CM misbehavior.
The first problem is that CM is lot like an undeveloped third world country. The policing of this site is barebones, there is no modern way of verifying the members. Thus, the temptations offered to the users make identity abuse very easy. Since the internet is the great equalizer, the temptations are unlimited -- because on the internet, you can be ANYONE you want to be. And the reasons for misbehavior can comprise an entire novel 'why' people deceive and lie on the internet.
The second problem is that BDSM itself attracts dysfunctional individuals lilke a moth to a flame . D/s is portrayed as a safehouse for the abused -- plus it's an equal opportunity lifestyle --, so it also protects abusers. I am not saying all BDSM people are messed up -- but as a whole, people in the D/s realm are hardly normal. Finally, according to the stats, 2 out of 5 people in America have severe pyshological problems. The anonymity offered by CM gives these people the camoflauge they need to sustain their needs and desires.
Heed these warnings on this site:
- Statistically, the more unreal a profile appears, the more likely it is not real
- One photo is a bad sign. Photos that look too professional, even worse.
- Burden of proof should be required early, If a man balks, he is surely fake.
Best Solution
- The easiest way to make someone prove WHO they are? Ask them to surf to your profile so one of your photos takes up the entire screen. Ask them to place their face next to yours and take a digital photo. (Even if they were a pro in Photoshop, the fake job would take 6 hours and still be easy to see it was faked.)
Why is this requirement is justified?--- Everyone who has access to a pc can affored a digital camera. Even if they don't own one themselves. odds are they have three other friends who do. This technique will bust everyone, unless, well, they have a good friend who can be suckered into posig for them -- which is unlikely if you are asking them to pose next to your CM photo (which would raise a lot of questions!)
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. However perhaps take the profiles witha pinch of salt? Get into the chat rooms and see how people really are and how they inter-relate with others-plus in UK (for example) another website -IC- is linked with the Munch movement where people meet up, usually in a very normal pub, dressed perfectly normally too and just gives a chance to meet others.
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