TiNeedsHouseboy
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Joined: 4/24/2005
From: Big Apple blossom blown to The Windy City
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ORIGINAL: LadyCompassion
Sorry if I confused anyone...Crimson2004 and LadyCompassion are one in the same.
This is but one of droves of reasons that I advocate STRONGLY that people sign posts with genuine first names -- not fabricated user names, and surely not some faux title that was constructed as an emulation for protocol. From my perspective, I am not my registration name, and I would never impose faux protocol/title (or bastardized English) on others.... but that's me. Clearly, my practices deviate from the norm, at least given what I see getting posted frequently on these boards -- from titles imposed on people who never agreed to submit to the person in question, to faked out cyber protocol, reflected by those who repeatedly refer to themselves via upper case horrifics (yes!... I typed and meant horrifics, not honorifics).
As for public vs. private, that's a decision that only you can make for yourself. Perhaps it would help you to list all the pros and cons of public vs. private, plus write down what inner conflicts/questions you have that are causing you to feel torn. There are extensive ramifications that can potentially affect both sides of the equation.
For me, my libido is my business. A collaring ceremony for my sub is not for public display. Then again, I don't view even traditional vanilla wedding ceremonies as anything more than a rapid way to throw good money after bad. I never had fantasies about walking down the aisle at a huge wedding ceremony. This perspective once caused a great deal of consternation for someone I was dating, but that's a whole other story.
Assuming I cross paths with a sub who doesn't walk in the realm of plastic-fantastic time wasters who clutter my path, and we have sparky chemistry, and he serves me well enough to merit being collared, and ultimately, we decide we want to marry, we'd get a state license; as for getting signatures on that license, they would either come from the City Hall bit, or a quickie service with a Rabbi and/or priest/minister -- if religion was critical to his happiness. As soon as the ink was on the license, all further activities would take place behind closed doors.
As you might well surmise, I don't get involved in public play -- observing or creating spectacles for others' amusement. A good chunk of that is a function of inability to breathe if subjected to secondhand smoke -- including fumes emanating from smokers' hair and clothing. Beyond that, I have no voyeuristic or exhibitionistic needs, plus I have professional boundaries that affect how public my life can be.
~ Ti ~
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