RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid



Message


CountrySong -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:08:59 PM)

Camille,
(((HUGS))) I've lost so many pets over the years. The pain of each loss never becomes less but over time the lose is not in the forefront of life and other thoughts rule. Still there are times when the world is quite and I can hear their bark or whine in my head or I smell a scent that reminds me of them and it comes back and I miss them so much that my heart aches and my eyes water.
I think of the old song Mr Bojangles  and the verse that goes, "His dog up and died, after 20 years he still grieves."
Best advice - let more love in by getting another one when you can face that.
Peace 




NumberSix -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:12:56 PM)

But you gotta stop and think........
 
you should have such a good a run as ol' Mickey had........
 
not as bad a way to go as some after puttin' on the dog all them years!!!!
 
to sift into the sweet and loving arms of Morpheus......
 
better than being grilled on a buick!
 
Ron




camille65 -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:22:41 PM)

Jeez Ron I skipped the last word of your post and freaked out for as sec. [8D]
Yeah she had an awesome run, freedom in the woods and happiness. I just.. it just hurts. I keep seeing her out of the corner of my eye but its only a shadow, or find myself listening to her. I guess its going to take a while to get used to the quiet. Relative quiet because the ancient kitty is as loud as a pack of coyotes.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:25:55 PM)

Camille I am so sorry!!  I didn't have the courage to put Pansy down, though I knew it was her last day of life, I so admire you!  My thoughts are with you, I know how awful it is to lose a companion animal.  Better than human companions in so many ways...




caro44 -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:48:39 PM)

What a sweet dog. I am so very sorry for you loss. But as long as you remember she is not really gone.





JstAnotherSub -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 5:50:01 PM)

ah heck i cried when i hunted it and c&p to share with you.  then i hugged charlie, the furbaby i went to the pound and got.  i am sure razor wouldnt mind a bit, me sharing the love he taught me, with another awesome dog.

again chickie, hugs.....you seem to have a lot on your plate right now....i wish there was more i could say or do for you.




soul2share -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:11:28 PM)

Camille, my heart goes out to you and your kitty.......KB looked for Shiloh for 2 weeks, wouldn't let any of the other cats in the house eat out of his feeder, (we put the cat food in it), or sleep on his bed.  I have gone through this 3 times in the past, and it killed a bit of my soul every time. 

If you are up to it, try donating his food to a local shelter, and anything else they might need.  I'm sure he'd be happy to know that other babies were helped by this, and it might help you through the grieving process.  And make sure you do grieve.....and he will live on forever in your heart.




DarkSteven -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:15:16 PM)

I'm sorry, camille.




servantheart -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:15:27 PM)

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss, camille ((((HUGS))))




Leatherist -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:18:34 PM)

I'll never have another pet after the suffering I went through when my cat got in an accident and died. I wish you well with your healing..




xxblushesxx -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:24:45 PM)

Camille please read the second post I made in my "I can has kitteh" thread in the random stupidity forum.
The woman who sponsered our kitty did it out of love and respect for the relationship she had with her deceased cat.
Perhaps you could do something similar.

*hugs again*




dovie -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 6:59:16 PM)

((hugs)) Camille.....how you must have loved Mickey to have freed her from such pain and suffering.....no matter the pain to yourself....((hugs)) you again.

dovie




slaveboyforyou -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 7:13:50 PM)

I hope you get to feeling better Camille.  When you feel up to it, take a trip down to your local animal shelter.  I know you can't replace your pet with another.  I remember this girl I used to date.  Her dog died, and she was inconsolible.  I finally got her to just go look at dogs at the animal shelter.  Her face just lit up when she saw this little beagle-mix puppy.  By all means mourn, but go down there and take a look when you feel up to it. 




DiurnalVampire -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 7:23:06 PM)

I've gone through this 3 times in my life. Baron, I was 2 when he was put down. Bowser I was 15 and I went with him to make sure he wasnt alone when they did it. It was becasue of him that I originally started studying veterinary medicine before I learned I was allergic to cats. The last was Caesar, and I was 30. That one was hardest, becasue aside form his hips being completely gone and he in pain whenever he stood, he acted like there was nothing wrong. He still chased his toys, just way slower than usual. We knew we had to do something before he was miserable all the time.
It is never easy, it never gets easier to do. Put up a picture or two, tell the stories about the wonderful things youve done together, donate all her toys and food, and start fresh when you are ready. All new toys, all new foods, all new time together.

DV




TheBanshee -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 7:26:24 PM)

I'm so sorry Camille....I know how hard it is to lose a pet you love so much. 




mistoferin -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 7:27:16 PM)

Hugs Camille I'm so sorry. It is such a hard decision to make. I have had quite a few pets that I've had to take that last walk with and I know how bad it hurts. Gosh, just last week I found a crow in the yard that was sick (West Nile Virus) and I had to take it in and have it put down. Even though it wasn't my pet it still ripped at my heart to see it suffer and I still felt guilty for ending it's life...even though I know it had to be done.

I never had the courage to actually go into the room when the vet put them down and I always wondered after if they were terrified or suffered. Two years ago I had a dog put down and I found the courage to go in....and I am so glad that I did. I held him and comforted him...and it was amazingly peaceful. He simply went to sleep. No struggle. It gave me a lot of comfort about the process, even though the loss tore me apart. I don't know if you have been doing the whole wondering thing or not...but if you have I just want to let you know that it really is a very peaceful process.




Emperor1956 -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 7:40:05 PM)

Camille, my heart goes out to you.  Take comfort knowing you did the right thing, and that Mickey had wonderful years with you (as you did with Mickey).

E.

Two asides:   We foster/rescue animals, and often take in animals that we know will not be with us too long.  It doesn't get easier, but there is comfort in knowing that a sick dog, cat or bird died after being with loving people, and died in comfort.  But whether it was my big old mutt of 15 years who I had to put down 5 years ago, or the noble old Dane we had for the last 7 months of his life, it doesn't get easier. 

Mistoferin, as you said, it is a peaceful process.  My wife and I (and sometimes our daughter) have been with most of our pets at the end, and I think the animal does derive comfort from having their loving owners with them.  But I've euthanized animals that I had no prior experience with, and generally the animal care/vet community is loving and caring for ALL of its charges, so it isn't as if an "ownerless" animal dies alone or in terror.




SilentTigresss -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 8:26:46 PM)

i am very sorry to hear of your loss. Geez, i have typed a couple of sentences now and have erased them in trying to help comfort; they don't see good enough. Mickey will always be with you.




Maya2001 -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/3/2008 8:37:07 PM)

My condolences ,   when I lost my girl Callie to bone cancer right after Christmas,but she was ready to go then and let me know it ..even though I had 2 other dogs  the house felt so empty without her , and Sunny my other greyhound was so bonded to her and he went into a deep depression,   it helped a bit when I added another..but was 6 months before he really come around... so animals are capable of grieving as well
..I went to this site quite often after losing Callie ...it is a memorial site a person created for her dogs ...the poetry she wrote is wonderful ...but go to the bottom of the page   and from the menu select "conversations with Guilt"  and "mend a broken Heart"  make sure to have the kleenex on hand,  you will shed tears and lots of them. but they are the needed to heal from your grief and loss.    Hugs 

edited helps to add the link
http://www.angelbluemist.com/portrait.html




ownedgirlie -> RE: I didn't know it would be so hard (7/4/2008 12:07:53 AM)

I'm sorry for your loss, Camille.  You did a selfless thing to relieve her of her misery.  Warm hugs to you...




Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
4.600525E-02