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What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/3/2008 10:58:17 PM

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What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm?

When it comes to being around other people what makes you Dominate or Submissive around them?

For me it was a feeling at first, then it was realizing who I truly was.

Sincerely, Ant

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/3/2008 11:00:22 PM

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What I do with my mind, time and energy makes me weaker or stronger.

Bdsm is a "hobby."

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 1:40:08 AM

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I'm not collared, so I'm not really submissive to anyone.

Some people do elicit feelings of submissiveness in me; some good, some bad. I move toward what feels good and eliminate what feels bad as much as I can.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 2:09:16 AM

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I don't go around thinking if I am stronger or weaker than the next person or dominant or submissive, if someone treats me with respect I willl treat them the samewhen I go to work I don't put managers or supervisors on pedestals they are equals but with a different job function than I have...I do not want them treating me like I am some lower life form..when I meet other subs and doms ..I do not treat them any different because of their role, if a person who labels themselves as a Dom decides to pull rank of me outside of an agreed relationship ..I would consider them to have degraded themselves and not be worthy of my submission. or time... I enter into my relationships as an equal and when agreed I accept the role of submissice not because of being weaker than them but because it is the role I enjoy

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 7:53:35 AM

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IMO it takes a strong person to be submissive. I know some may see my being submissive as a weakness or a personal failing, but I see the opposite. And besides, it's just who I am....I can't change it. Don't see a reason, to, either.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 9:40:41 AM

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People are just people to me, regardless of role or position. I don't treat bosses especially respectul simply because they might sign the checks. I don't treat dominants any better simply because they tell me they are dominant. I treat people as if they were me.

When they show me that they know what they are doing I tend to listen more. If they show me they are mostly bluster I begin to think less.. up to and including dismissing them as non-beings.

What makes me feel submissive to someone is their attitude.

I have never doubted who I am. My doubts come from value, not role.
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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 9:47:07 AM

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Actually, submitting to him has made me stronger in most ways.

What makes me able to submit to one? Compatibility across the board; mental, emotional, physical, morals and ethics.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 10:00:50 AM

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What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm?

What makes me stronger in the World?
The ability to be many faceted.
To have the honour of being a mother.
To be asked to lead and to educate others.
To be entrusted by others for their well-being.
To have overcome poverty and deprivation.
To have been blessed with an efficiency of thinking that some would call intelligence.
To have been given the gift of creativity.
To have an able body.
To have been born at the right moment, at the right place so that my life has scanned the most profound changes in technology and mass communication.
To have lived in a place without War.
To have faith in a Higher Power.
What makes me able to continue right now and not to have given upin this World is the love and wisdom of my Master Indigo Wolf who both elevates me and humbles me and makes me feel safe.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 10:52:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm?

When it comes to being around other people what makes you Dominate or Submissive around them?

For me it was a feeling at first, then it was realizing who I truly was.

Sincerely, Ant

this slave is weaker when she is feeling sick or someone dies...stronger when life is good :)
Some people illicit feelings of submissiveness and Domiance depending in the person and curcumstances....the quesiton is weither or not this slave allows those feelings show ..
Though this may not be what you are asking but it is how this slave is taking it to show how the questions can be taken in more then one aspect...

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 11:20:02 AM

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Exercise lack there of.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 2:13:46 PM

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That'd mostly be for others to decide what makes me "weaker or Stronger in Bdsm"....

Respect, or lack of, can be defined as or through strength or weakness....

When I'm viewing from the "other's" perspective, I respect the strength in submission *my* girl brings to me but I don't respect it at all (ie, weakness) when a stranger tries to submit unilaterally just because she's identified me as a Dom. I'll do the objectifying, thanks.... lol

Online, such as at CM, I respect those who post and stand by their opinion regardless of criticism, esp from a common "pack" mentality and regardless of whether *I* actually agree, too. I don't respect those who posture, strut or attempt to belittle those daring to be different and nor do I respect those who "tow the line" and adhere to or reinforce perceived stereotypes of what the greater community believes.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/4/2008 2:46:38 PM

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Amen. I have no respect for "sheeple" either.

At the same time, humility be be a redeeming virtue-in as much as the ability to excercise it gives a picture based in reality-rather than one puffed up into some sort of demented "cloud castle."

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 12:46:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

That'd mostly be for others to decide what makes me "weaker or Stronger in Bdsm"....

Respect, or lack of, can be defined as or through strength or weakness....

When I'm viewing from the "other's" perspective, I respect the strength in submission *my* girl brings to me but I don't respect it at all (ie, weakness) when a stranger tries to submit unilaterally just because she's identified me as a Dom. I'll do the objectifying, thanks.... lol

Online, such as at CM, I respect those who post and stand by their opinion regardless of criticism, esp from a common "pack" mentality and regardless of whether *I* actually agree, too. I don't respect those who posture, strut or attempt to belittle those daring to be different and nor do I respect those who "tow the line" and adhere to or reinforce perceived stereotypes of what the greater community believes.

Focus.

Personally, this statement matches how I think about the subject, though is probably worded better than the version I would have used. :)

Speaks volumes.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 9:46:24 AM

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Things that make a person stronger in BDSM

Knowledge, experience, creativity, desire, open mindedness.

Simple put an individual is weaker in BDSM if they lack any of the above qualities IMHO.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 10:44:22 AM

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What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm?

Nothing does.
However, in life; knowledge, understanding, and acceptance of self can make me both stronger, and at times, weaker.

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When it comes to being around other people what makes you Dominate or Submissive around them?

Once again; Nothing does. I am neither a DOMINANT nor a submissive.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 11:22:53 AM

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'When it comes to being around other people what makes you Dominate or Submissive around them?'

My role with each individual is defined by my interaction with them. Some people are natural leaders and command respect simply by walking into a room...Others are indecisive and lack confidence, not someone I would submit to...

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 11:47:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Raechard

Things that make a person stronger in BDSM

Knowledge, experience, creativity, desire, open mindedness.

After the cocksucking thread, I didn't think I could have a point of commonality with you, but this statement above is pefect. I agree. I would also say self-knowledge and a willingness to take responsibility for one's owns actions.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 1:10:35 PM

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I am completely myself. I feel no compelling need to compare myself as "weaker" or "stronger" -- I am just what I am, and enjoy what I enjoy. I identify myself as dominant, and tend to interact in most areas of my life as a self-directed, self-motivating person who moves consistently towards obtaining what I desire. Whether other people see the things I do as "weak" or "strong" is also irrelevant to me. I do what seems right to me at the time, for the given situation, and "screw em" if they don't agree.

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 4:57:42 PM

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Which end of the cattle prod am I on again...?

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RE: What makes you weaker or Stronger in Bdsm? - 7/5/2008 6:11:38 PM

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Stronger: Self-discipline and vitamins! I suggest them both for everyone.

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