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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 6:15:25 PM

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I didn't discourage anyone from discussing their "fun" stories, only to be safe.

I think we got that.

Thanks for replying.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 6:28:49 PM

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Shouldnt you use caution in any thing? Do people still go to bars and end up with someone from the dance floor? Do people still meet, go out, and end up in bed? What I am saying is that people either develop the ability to trust their own judgement with consistant results, or they will always need someone to say GO!
By adulthood if you can't spot danger, then maybe you shouldnt be out there.
As you can see many people have met, played, and enjoyed themselves. Not every stranger is Ted Bundy. In fact, the instances of serial killers is a lot smaller than people who might engage in domestic abuse.
It is clear to me by my own play, and that of people who posted here in telling success stories that WOW!!!! Not everyone is dangerous! And, apparently those people who have played first meet must have had some skills in picking their partner.
Quoting a list of serial killers has nothing to do with day to day encounters. Our world would be in sorry shape if there were so many serial killers among us we would have to fear walking out the door.
I am a big believer in people taking responsibility for their actions, and that includes accepting responsibility for failures and successes
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Nope. What I am saying is that people should learn to rely on their instincts AND their own skill to remove themselves from a bad situation. Too many subs stand back and adopt the role because they are so needy they will accept anything, until it is too late.
Strangers or familiar, is no different. But on a personal level I have found much more danger in the familiar. Because there is inherent trust.
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So you agree that strangers can be dangerous and that one should use caution?

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 8:38:57 PM

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I met Master right at his hotel room, and well.. we were at it as soon as we got in the door, still going strong to this day, best decision I ever made :D.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 8:45:56 PM

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I would not recommend going straight to the hotel room. If you have to back out after meeting the Dom face-to-face, you'll be much more comfortable (that's not really a right word) doing it in the public place.
true enough...I wouldn't recommend meeting in a hotel for the first time the way I did...but I don't regret it at all...that awesome Dominant has a profile on here b-t-w

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 9:07:59 PM

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To be honest I don't have any horror stories. i mean I've relationships that ended and some that ended pretty badly but thats the way of life.. not horror stories. I found Collarme sometime last year, I have met three people from here and none of them have been bad at all.

The first ended up being a two day play date, and due to life on his part it stopped there. The second, was a few month thing, honestly something I needed to really get over my ex.

The third, and the best.... was great and has lasted 11 months so far with no end in the foreseeable future. He's adorable, and funny and understand and the playing and sex is good to. Well it wasn't Him who made me aware of my submissive side, he certainly has helped me grow so much. Has seen me practically reborn.

I'm not saying the things I have done were smart... due to lack of relationships overall in my life at certain points, there wasn't always someone to set up a safe call with, or even tell that I was going off with this guy. So many bad things could have happened to me... but they didn't. Thats the grand scheme of things.. sometimes to some people things happen. Sometimes to others. things don't.

My family is highly against to meeting people online causing me to "fib" for their own benefit... but I always say.... meeting some online...talking to them a few times.... sure they may tell nothing but lies and want to do horrible things to you.... but that you meet in the bar/at the park... where ever... could tell you all the same lies and want to do all the same horrible things to you... Just because you met in person doesnt mean he's safer... if anything, with so many people searching online for that SOMEONE SPECIAL... you're probably better off looking here than going to a bar....

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 9:36:25 PM

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i was walking one way, he was coming toward me from the other direction...our eyes met....locked on...we walked past eachother and kept staring....11 minutes later i was in a hotel and on the phone with my mom telling her i was delayed....and while talking to her...he took my ass...did not ask, just took....and i kept my voice steady the whole time....it was amazingly hot, and no harm. i still jerk off to that memory

wow...that is pretty hot...

fortunately my bad experiences (two) have always been the 'nilla type and non-sexual. (I trust my instincts and don't ignore them.) I met my first master on CL and while that relationship was very short, it was also very intense and very eye-opening, in so many ways. no regrets here whatsoever.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 10:18:36 PM

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A lot of the behavior described in these encounters is incredibly foolish and just because nothing bad happened it does not mean that it wasn't foolish.

I agree.

I'm a pro who does outcall only, and I go into private homes and hotel rooms without having previously met the individual. But I have a friend in the car or in the lobby with a cell phone and all the info I have on the client, and if I'm not out in precisely the agreed-upon time, there is a knock on the door or a phone call gets made to the cops. At best, it provides some small deterrent value. It may not keep me safe but if someone does harm me, chances are they'll be caught. And for the risks I take, I get hundreds of dollars an hour.

So when I recommend you use safety precautions, I'm not some starry-eyed innocent. If you go to meet someone from the internet, meet in a public place. If he's Mr. Fantastic, there is always tomorrow. When you go somewhere to play for the first time, set up some safe calls. Sure, you'll read 99 stories of bliss to every one of horror, maybe even 999 to one. You want to be the one?

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 5:30:53 AM

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And, apparently those people who have played first meet must have had some skills in picking their partner.

So you are saying that it all comes down to skill in picking partners?

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 5:52:21 AM

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I think she said that having experience with people in general is helpful, as well as using plain ordinary common sense.

No one is saying 'go out to a bar then go home to the cuffs & whips with a stranger' but instead that sometimes a fast connection with someone really does work out. Not always.

This thread is geared towards those encounters that worked out so naturally it has stories of folks meeting up, that worked out.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 6:31:10 AM

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Thank you Camille. Though probably anyone who doesnt get that, should be very cautious, and not do anything non pc.
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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 8:20:31 AM

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We're one of those "fast connections" though I would also say that what worked for us might not work for others. I can't answer specifics for Lumus but I can say that I knew how I felt about him within a matter of a couple of weeks. Once I admitted those feelings to myself (and him), life got a lot better. A week later, he told me he loved me. We went from there. We spent an incredible amount of time together, online, on the phone, chatting through the webcam. I never did come out for a visit, just moved out to him. We knew what we had together and that it would work.

First time meet and play? Sorta... In that I moved in the first time we met in person. Crazy? Possibly. Worth it? Absolutely! It was a risk that we were willing to take. Is this something that just anyone can do? No, nor would I recommend it. But it worked for us, based on our communication and trust.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 9:44:49 AM

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LRF? Obviously INSANE!! Rubberpet and Vampchick, too.

Y'all are NUTS.

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RE: No More Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 11:03:02 AM

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Thank you, LH. Though like I said, it's not for everyone, it's worked for us.

*shrugs* As for the time, I knew the second time I met my now-ex that we would be married, which lasted almost 20 years. I took my time with Lumus, if you look at it that way. This will last a lifetime.

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