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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/5/2008 5:31:11 AM

Madame4a

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I'm open to some extent, but the bottom line is, people don't need to know. I also don't involve the general public in my leather life non consensually anymore than I involve them in my sex life. While I believe my life IS my life.. I don't go around in pvc or leather all the time. I have however gone to my local vanilla gay bar many a night after being in the dungeon dressed in leather or pvc and enjoyed chatting about who I am with the aquaintances I have there.

My boi wears her collar a lot but its not some big leather thing with spikes.. its a chain with a padlock around it. If you saw it you'd know what it meant... occasionally someone will ask "who has the key to that" and I turn and smile and say "why I do of course"

Bottom line, I don't hide but its also bad form to involve the non consenting in your life.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/5/2008 5:34:20 AM

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I don't separate this from who I am.. but living the life 24/7 is the same as breathing for me.. it doesn't mean that I have a leash on my boi.. in fact, I've never and will never put a leash on her... we go out all the time, if you watched us, you'd think she was the most amazing gentlebutch in the world -- if we were at a play party, you'd think that but you'd also realize she's mine.

bulletin bob -- gay marriage is not an alternative lifestyle.. being gay isn't a lifestyle anymore than being straight is

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ORIGINAL: GentlemanBobIII

I meant no offense or disrespect. I have read where some people say they live this lifestyle 24/7, which would include going to the mall, grocery shopping, and other public activities. So this is what made me think about the collar and leash thing. If you do take your "pet" out in public that way, other than to an event people would most likely ask questions. Or if you were doing this for a living, and the neighbors found out, how accepting the neighbors would be of your activities. It seems in society as a whole, people are more tolerant of alternative lifestyles ie: gay marriage, goth etc, so was curious if the attitudes had changed toward the BDSM lifestyle as well. And no I have not seen any adults on leash and collar inmy neighborhood but that doesn't mean it might not occur in other neighborhoods. Maybe in California for example, where people are more tolerant? -Bob

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/5/2008 8:41:10 AM

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My Collar is made out of woven hemp, with my engagement ring around it. It is, quite basically, sewn together in the back. The only way to remove it, in an emergency or something similar, would probably be to cut it off.

It's quite simple, get a ton of compliments from people who don't really know what it is, and it still actually looks like a collar.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/5/2008 2:51:21 PM

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"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good, Oh Lord please don't let me be misunderstood"-Animals

Yet it would appear that I have in fact been misunderstood. I did not mean that being gay was a lifestyle choice, however that IS how the general public percieves it by and large, And since, taken in context, of THIER perception THIER acceptance it is therefore THIER opinion not mine. Sorry. I just hate it when people accuse me of doing being or saying something I'm not and didn't say. NM I probably should have just let it go, however SOMEONE has to defend me, or else people will begin to form opinions and attitudes toward and about me that are NOT correct. Ok, enough said. -Bob

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/5/2008 8:43:04 PM

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when I'm at a event my M'Lady has me on my leash, in the vanilla life i proudly wear my formal leather collar. i enjoy it when i get questions about it, but i don't want to cause any discomfort to others. i don't flaunt my lifestyle choice nor do i hide it when asked. when i am with my M'Lady i do all to please her open doors and wait to sit etc. this is part of who i am and manners in public should never be out of place.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/6/2008 7:18:47 AM

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Don't let the above fool you. I know he loves that leash. It's just not as acceptable in the general public as the collar.

Thank you for My smiles, lil one.

ETA..... My clip really is a very attentive sub in public. What he said about being in service when out and about. Being in the south (My current location, not his) made a lot of things very easy to do, without drawing attention. Opening doors, carrying bags, and the like were always ways he could serve, without throwing the lifestyle choice in anyone's face.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/6/2008 6:51:30 PM

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There are ways to be "out" that do not involve shocking or upsetting people. I wear a stainless steel chain around my neck that is secured with a little lock engraved with PROPERTY OF MS. M. Not too scandalous. Many people really like it. They say it looks very manly. At outdoor fairs, I wheel ms. Mlicious about in a rickshawspecially made for her. The reactions are overwhelmingly positive. The ladies express great envy, and many of the guys openly admire the romanticism of it.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/7/2008 2:23:34 PM

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To mark the end of seven years of my owning him, we got both of my slave's ears pierced. He doesn't require a collar anymore because we consider those my ownership marks. He has them all the time.

Any one who saw us together would probably just think he's a wonderful gentleman in the company of a strong woman.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/7/2008 6:49:32 PM

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my pet and i recently move in together, and to another state....cause i just have to do everything all in one swoop apparently. lol. but to mark the occation, and to mark him as mine, we had his nipples pierced. he knows they are there (boy does he ever), i know they're there, and that's the extent of it. if we're still together in a years time, i may mark him more permanently with a tatoo. but for now his piercing is enough, and wicked fun to tease him with.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/7/2008 9:01:07 PM

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I would never make Dainty wear a leash in public. In fact public humiliation is a hard limit for both of us. In our small city you would stand out and get noticed. I do control him in public as our relationship is 24\7 no matter where we are but it is kept discrete. He has rules and protocols he has to obey while we are out. It adds fun to our outings and is a reminder that I'm in charge always.

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RE: Public Subservience? - 7/7/2008 9:23:53 PM

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I currently wear a steel ball chain necklace with one of Sir's rings on it for my collar, Its
discreet and dosnt get questioned. i love that people in the lifestyle know what it means
to Him and i and that people like my father dont. Everyone doesnt need to know that
I am His subby. We know and thats what matters.

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