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MisterBeast -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/10/2008 8:55:39 PM)

I dont get along well with men my own age and younger, they tend to be full of shit and lacking of morals. I do have a handfull of older male friends, age 40+ that I keep in contact with.

I have never really been some one to seek out male friendship though.



ApathyRomance -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/13/2008 10:13:50 PM)

For me, any sort of D/s relationship is going to be a commitment.  Having a best friend is a commitment.  I wish that he and I were both gay, then it would make both our lives easier.  Oh well.  I see no more reasons for a Dom to lack a best friend than reasons to have one.  



Soulhuntre -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/15/2008 2:05:33 AM)

I can't speak to the generality, but most of the dominant men I know do in fact have a strong "pack" of close friends often spanning decades.



roland23 -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/15/2008 10:35:01 AM)

As a male dom I have lots of male friends, some of whom are into BDSM. Unfortunately, I have met a large number of male doms who have lots of  female subs and want to show them off, much like showing off a new car or some other toy. Boring! 



IronBear -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/16/2008 12:50:48 PM)

I've seen this too, I must say there are times when pure ego has me wondering how many male dominants I could seriously upset and make envious and how many female sub/slaves I could get gree with envy were I to appear at a function leading a bevy of collared girls all of whom could grace the cofer of vogue, playboy or any fashion catwalk. It woiuld be an enjoyable mind fuck and nothing more. However what I was trying to say is that there are many men who are by nature dominant and some of whom are indeed BDSM or similar dominants, who due to situations like specific areas of employment which is dangerous and carriews a real danger to both life and limb, who prefer the company of others in their own inducstry and often with whom they work. The shared danger and how each person carries themselves in their daily duties often forms relationships foiunded on mutural trust and respect which is  no a bad foundation for a lasting friendship. many such mes are often not comfey with people outside of their own areas of living and work.. Others I know and I am one prefer a more solitary life outside family because life itself has dictated that I/we live outside the normal suburban masses which in itself is not a bad thing but rsather it is a choice of comfort zones and yet this should not preclude them from forming relationships with sub/slaves for the purposes of knk activities.

IB
(The incorrigible, irrepressible and irreverent Bear)



Skully7000 -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/16/2008 1:58:52 PM)

It's weird, I've gone most of my life having 1 true best friend (aka the Jay to my silent Bob, My heterosexual Lifemate, more commonly: My Brother) we consider each other family.
then the rest of my friends were almost all female. plenty of male aquaintences..but most female friends.

then only within the last couple years it has slowly started to switch... still the same "Brother" but most of my true friends are males a smaller number are women.

but i'm also a very social person. I ran my own club events I'm involved in alot of the BDSM groups and events and involved with two leather families...so my social circle is quite large... but there are definitely circles of closeness. Many Many Aquaintences, fewer people I consider friends, Fewer still True Friends(a friend is a great person to have around and would help if they can...a true friend is someone who would drop what they are doing to help even if I didn't ask for it) then there is my family. some Bio many Not... these are the ones who I can turn to for anything and they know they can turn to me for anything.

cheers
Skully



Asmodeus -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/16/2008 4:01:40 PM)

I have lots of friends, of the "help you move" variety.  Very few of the "help you move bodies" genre.

There are simply very few people that I connect at a deeper friendship level with, at least locally. I maintain a few close friendships that have survived thousands of miles of distance and pick up where we left off whenever we actually manage to get together or chat online.

I am not. however, a social butterfly. I freely admit that there aren't that many people that I have the patience to spend large blocks of time with.



DS4DUMMIES -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/18/2008 6:09:23 PM)

Speaking for myself, this is simply not true. I have close male friends in each area of my life in which I have interests,  and two male friends who are virtually life-long friends - well over 40 years.....

I don't feel that having male friends automatically creates an "alpha male" struggle or anything of that sort. I do not carry my BDSM desires on my coat lapels.....I see no connection whatsoever with D/s or BDSM.



Leatherist -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/18/2008 6:14:25 PM)

I get along well with older men, especially geeks like myself. When you don't spend half of your time trying to prove how cool you are-you can actually BE cool.



DomDolf -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/18/2008 11:32:06 PM)

I too have many friends. I have two friends that I am very close with. Of course I trust with my life and my money. Never with my car or women. Thank God I have always trusted the women.



StrongSpirit -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/19/2008 12:02:01 PM)

I am a dominant man that has a close male friend.  But I don't have a huge number of friends.  One close male, one close female, some "x's" and a bunch of older friends that I still see once in a while.

Part of the reason it works is that I treat my male friend a bit like a pupil and he treats me a bit like a mentor.
I have seen other dominant men be friends with submissive men.  There, the key is to NEVER play together, even if you are both bi.

But I also have seen a lot of other guys get into alpha male fights over rather silly things.   This tendency can disrupt friendship.



hejira92 -> RE: Masters and close male friends (7/19/2008 12:17:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Asmodeus

I have lots of friends, of the "help you move" variety.  Very few of the "help you move bodies" genre.



I love this definition/delineation of friendship!



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