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FemDom Horror Stories - 7/6/2008 5:02:38 PM

TexasMaam

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I was on the phone recently with a former sub, a professional man of sharp wit and tremendous intellect. We caught up on family and mutual friends, caught up on work topics, our favorite authors, and a few other topics we had shared in common throughout our six year long relationship. I was just beginning to realize that I missed his dry sense of humor when, in the middle of our conversation, he blurted 'why don't you get us a room and I'll meet you there?'

Suddenly, I flashed on the horror story that had ended our intimate relationship several years ago, a 'horror story' that left us 'just friends': I arrived at a local hotel for a three day weekend, and the boi met Me in the parking lot butt naked except for his collar and shoes. Mind you, this hotel was near My small town community where ANYONE who knew Me could see us from the highway, a hotel full of working stiffs and traveling salesmen and families with kids off on holiday. I was stunned that in his eagerness to live out his own fantasy he completely lost sense of where he was and who he was impacting by this behavior. Fortunately for us no one spotted him or called the friendly home town police, but I was shocked and completely unnerved by the turn of events, I never got over his total disregard for Me or for the unwilling public exposed to his antic; we stopped seeing each other fairly soon after that.

After flashing on that XX -B movie clip for a few moments, I ended the conversation fairly gracefully and reminded myself why we parted ways in the first place.

Any dealbreaker BDSM horror stories to share?

TM

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/6/2008 5:34:54 PM

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The guy that showed up with a bag of used dildos as a 'gift' for me. Thaaaaats a burner!

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/6/2008 6:13:02 PM

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<eewww! yuck!....grimacing...>

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/6/2008 6:18:59 PM

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to both of those. I am so thankful I don't have any horror stories. Yet. *knocking on wood* Are condolences appropriate? Whatever the appropriate response, consider it inserted here.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/6/2008 8:56:15 PM

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I'd never meet at a hotel on a first go so nothing that "interesting" has happened to me. Though, I have had more than one that I knew for a long time skip out on me when it came time to meet, time to consider a relationship, and two that I can recall were only really interested in getting laid in any fashion they could manage (there is definitely a small? herd on this site of "unfuckables" that think/hope that any of the women on here, Domme or sub, are loose women that will "do" anyone offering).

While I've over time learned to weed out the former and the latter, I'm still struggling with the relationship one.

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

Any dealbreaker BDSM horror stories to share?

TM

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 2:15:11 AM

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quote:

Any dealbreaker BDSM horror stories to share?

I am sorry to hear that you had to endure the very bad judgement of that guy being nude in public. I have had a few that have stood me up on what was supposed to be the first meeting. While those aren't horror stories they are certainly annoying. Several years ago I was in contact with a guy that actually seemed to be the person he said he was. He was intelligent, polite, etc., in short the sort of person that most of us hope to meet. We talked on the phone, eventually had the first meeting, then a second meeting, both of which went well. On the third meeting we were in a more private setting where he offered to pay me to be his regular prostitute. I had never mentioned a money problem of any sort. He noticed that I was living in a very small apartment (which I was actually very happy with) and said he felt sorry for me. Honestly I am not sure which thing was more insulting. Needless to say I never saw or spoke to him again.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 7:19:55 AM

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Is that horrific or comedic? Does a Domme feel pride or revulsion by inspiring men put themselves into (crazy) risk?

Your scene doesn't sound quite as bad as Kyle MacLachlan coming home to find Isabella Rossellini standing naked on his front lawn.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 7:25:52 AM

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Desperation inspires men to put themselves at crazy risk, not dominants.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 8:38:30 AM

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i've met a local submissive who had more mental and physical scars to deal with than i would want to handle. it didn't matter how many times i told him "i'm not like your formers so please stop bringing up the past", he would constantly compare me to the others he was "submissive" to. i mean who would want to hear about the abuse (sexual, physical, and mental) he had endured since he was a teen. believe me, most of it i had a hard time believing ...but who knows. actually he was more slave than submissive and begged me on how to change his ways ...even begged for me to collar him when we had our first meeting. then i would receive strange email messages offline demanding photos of me as proof i'm real or complaining why i didn't show at the time set to meet ...he even thought i gave him the wrong phone number. i had enough and stopped all contact with this guy before ever meeting him in person.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 8:57:03 AM

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Ahhhhhh......that is just sick

What the hell goes through the mind of us men at times I swear.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 9:17:25 AM

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About a year after I discovered BDSM, I went through an experimental phase and decided to try my hand at being a domina.

The one and only male submissive I ever actually met and went out with assaulted me in a Barnes and Noble because I refused to act out his fantasies in public. (He wanted me to shove him into a chair and then "force" him to "endure" having his face buried in my crotch ... Sans panties ... As I stood over him with one foot on the arm of the chair and the other squishing his manlies.

I told him no. It was our first time together in person and besides that I was still a virgin. So, he grabbed me, spun me around and slammed me into a bookshelf. He was about to feel me up when someone came around the corner and told him to let me go. Needless to say, I went home that evening a far wiser little lady.

Then, to take the cake, he calls me on the phone a couple hours later and tells me that for our next date he'd like me to pass gas on his face, please.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 10:59:32 AM

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Damn -- I was just about to cut off my ear and send it in a box along with a large collection of used dildos and pictures of my penis, and now you're all saying I'm *NOT* supposed to mail this off to the Domme of my dreams? In order to compensate me for the wasted time I'll need to meet you naked in a small-town parking lot!

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 12:06:40 PM

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I'm sitting in front of my computer(Never would have guessed that, would you?) with a very big frown on my face. I also just sighed a whole lot.

It reminds me of one of the very first exchanges I had with my Owner. In fact, I'll go and look at our first Yahoo conversation the day we met so I can find it. Oh dear, I'm finding some of this quite nostalgic. :-p

DV (10/8/2007 11:01:19 PM): You havent offered to show me your cock, haven't boasted about its length or how smooth you're shaved down there, or how much your ass would love my dildos... so you're ahead of the game.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 2:47:41 PM

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quote:

TexasMaam:
Suddenly, I flashed on the horror story that had ended our intimate relationship several years ago, a 'horror story' that left us 'just friends': I arrived at a local hotel for a three day weekend, and the boi met Me in the parking lot butt naked except for his collar and shoes. Mind you, this hotel was near My small town community where ANYONE who knew Me could see us from the highway, a hotel full of working stiffs and traveling salesmen and families with kids off on holiday. I was stunned that in his eagerness to live out his own fantasy he completely lost sense of where he was and who he was impacting by this behavior.

opposingtwilight:
The one and only male submissive I ever actually met and went out with assaulted me in a Barnes and Noble because I refused to act out his fantasies in public. (He wanted me to shove him into a chair and then "force" him to "endure" having his face buried in my crotch... Sans panties... As I stood over him with one foot on the arm of the chair and the other squishing his manlies. I told him no. It was our first time together in person and besides that I was still a virgin. So, he grabbed me, spun me around and slammed me into a bookshelf. He was about to feel me up when someone came around the corner and told him to let me go. Needless to say, I went home that evening a far wiser little lady. Then, to take the cake, he calls me on the phone a couple hours later and tells me that for our next date he'd like me to pass gas on his face, please.

I am certainly not writing to minimize either of your experiences TexasMaam and Opposingtwilight. This said, I don't really see these people as submissive. They are abusers plain and simple. The world is unfortunately full of people who are unable to behave appropriately and with decency, kindness, and empathy. Being on the receiving end, this is one way to learn, but it's not a very nice way to learn. It's dehumanizing, it hurts, and it leaves scars. I'm sorry you both went through these experiences.

Elan.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 4:39:54 PM

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*snicker* This brings back a mamory of one overly eager beaver I met when living in Vegas. The boy in question had gone way out on a limb and gotten us tickets to see the blue man group as a first date. Nothing like making an amazing first impression, and he hadnt once asked me about my kinks, nor what I was "into". I knew he was sub, and former military. He knew I was dominant. That was about it, and anything else we had discussed was prurely vanilla. Good so far.
The show was not terribly long after I got off work. I had about enough time to get to the hotel where he was staying and drop of my car at their parking lot to avoid paying for parking, and then catch the train with him to the theater. I didnt really wantto go to the show in my work clothes, so I asked him if he would be ok with me stopping into the room to use the bathroom and change clothes. He was fine with it, but did remind me we didnt have much time, so I had to be quick.
Problem started when I came back out of the bathroom changed, and the boy was waiting, on his knees witha dildo in his mouth and puppy dog ears on. I had to step back into the bathroom I was laughing so hard. Dont forget, he never did ask me what I was into.
Needless to say, the Blue Man Goup was our first and last date.

DV

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 9:09:00 PM

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I'll never forget one who sounded great on the phone, but our evening together was less than perfect. We went to a Chinese restaurant. I ordered dinner. He ordered soup and drink after drink. I never saw him touch the soup. When we got outside the restaurant, he begged me to take him to my car and hurt him really bad. I politely declined and went home. That was the last I ever saw of him.

Another one was pretty creepy. I had explained beforehand that I never play at a first meeting, but he thought he was something special and could convince me otherwise. We were having lunch. Toward the end of the lunch, he got a glazed-over look in his eyes and kept saying, "Yes Mistress" to whatever I said. He looked like he was in some sort of hypnotic trance. I was creeped out, so I excused myself and left. Not long after I got home, there was an irate e-mail from him asking why I did not take him home and use him, when he made it so clear that he wanted that. I reminded him that I already told him there would be no play on the first date. That was the last time I ever saw that one, too.

Another one wanted to come down from Oklahoma to meet me for dinner. I explained to this one that there would be no play at the first date, but I would be happy to meet him in a public place if he came down here. He said okay, but had one special request. Could he stay overnight at my house, chained to the living room furniture for my safety. I told him absolutely not. First of all, I already said no play, and that's a form of play. Second of all, what if a fire broke out and I could not reach him in time? When I refused to entertain his little fantasy scenario, that was the last I heard from him. However, he did write to me again recently under a different screen name. I suspect he has forgotten our previous encounter.

Lady Topaz

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/7/2008 11:48:48 PM

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Yes, a guy who wanted far more than I could and would offer and was rejected. I cut off all communication with him after he failed at a simple task that cost me a great deal of money. Afterwards he would show up at munches and play parties and chose to whine and pout to everyone we knew in common. It ended in a spectacular display of public bad manners at a munch.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 5:36:35 AM

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I also once played with a sub at a public dungeon a couple of times who, unbeknownst to me, had a few screws loose. A few days after we played the last time, he sent me this extremely strange e-mail saying that we were destined to be together eternally, and telling me to call him on his cell phone immediately (this was sent at 2 A.M. on a weeknight). Instead, I sent him an e-mail chewing him out and started avoiding him at all public events.

He became very angry about my avoiding him. He saw me at a public event once, seated on a sofa talking to someone else. He motioned for me to get up and come visit with him (yeah, right). I simply ignored him. He then wrote me a very, very hateful e-mail. I blocked him immediately from sending any more e-mail. He apparently had second thoughts about what he did. He then went to a friend of mine and asked her to let me know that someone had hacked his AOL account and sent that hateful message, not him (yeah, right). I told her to tell him to leave me the hell alone, I wanted nothing further to do with him.

For a while, he would attend public events and hover in my general vicinty. He would be looking in my direction with a hopeful expression, trying to make eye contact. I just ignored him. He wouldn't be close enough that I could say he was stalking me, but he always seemed to be around. For someone as brazen as he is in e-mail, he would never approach me in public if anyone else was around me. Therefore, I would just make sure someone always was around at all times and he would never talk to me. Eventually he just gave up. I have not seen him in several months.

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/8/2008 5:48:27 AM

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quote:

I'd never meet at a hotel on a first go so nothing that "interesting" has happened to me.

I have the distinct idea that TexasMa'am did not use a hotel for a 'first meet'. She said that this story was the 'deal breaker' that ended a relationship that, earlier in the post, she had refered to as a 'six year relationship'
After a few years, you get to thinking that someone will know you better than that - or at least that you know THEM well enough that they would run such a thing by you before trying it.
The thing is, I've always believed that with diligence and creativity, just about any fantasy can be acted on - some more 'really' than others, some require modifications, some only in role play. But, really, anything, if you think it through. so why do something so stupid?

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RE: FemDom Horror Stories - 7/9/2008 3:44:37 PM

AllforFun

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you know.... listening(reading) to these stories.... I cant help but....

1. laugh my ass off.....

2. feel ashamed for my own sex.....

I just dont see how in the hell these guys can behave like animals and act like there is nothing wrong with it.

Like the guy who assaulted the woman in the bookstore.....

I guess some guys are retarded. Just seems like there are alot of them that are into BDSM. Grrrrr...

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