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A Naive Question? - 7/6/2008 10:50:17 PM   
JUICYPUSSIES


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Status: offline 		We are pretty new to collarme.com, and we're looking for subs and/or a slave, among both males and females.  We are serious and real time, and are not here for cyber or chat.  So far, we are having trouble, which surprises us.  We get a lot of mail, but most of the men just seem to be fakes and online jerk offs, and we don't get many inquiries from women, at all.

What can we do, if anything, to find the real people here, and the ones we are compatable with?

You hear so often that men's biggest sex fantasy involves two women...well, here we are, yet all we get is phonies and jerks.  Is it us?  Are we doing something wrong?  Is there a secret to finding real people here?  Or is it just a sea of phonies, and should we just give up and look for our subs exclusively at the L.A. play parties we frequent?  We are very close to doing the latter.

Sorry if this is off-topic, but there didn't seem to be a forum where this naturally fit.

Thanks,
Dana & Theresa

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/6/2008 11:01:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are both real and fake people here as there are just about everywhere. However, I would respectfully suggest that your chosen nickname, especially capitalised as it is, isn't likely to attract the real people but will be an absolute fake magnet! Esp the fake males ... and I don't get the feeling too many girls would even check out your profile with that name. The profile itself isn't too bad, but I don't think real people are going to get to it. See what else you can come up with!

Good luck
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PS I almost didn't bother to read this post, just when I ran over it with My mouse I got the nature of the question so thought I'd reply.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/6/2008 11:09:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, it's not just you.  We all get it to one degree or another.  Just smile, delete, and try to be patient.  The things that helped me most were having a picture and a very detailed profiile so the people I wanted would know exactly what to expect.  I focused on who I was as a person and what sort of person I was looking for rather than on kink.  My blog includes information about how I approach the lifestyle and how my household is set up. 
 
Another good thing to do is participate in these message boards.  People can get to know you a little better and you have the opportunity to make some good friends.  The site does work but it can take a few months.  Don't expect instant results.  I found my girl and my play partner here.  I've also met people I now consider friends.
 
Best of luck in your search.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/6/2008 11:27:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		All caps! Juicy Pussies. No way it's real.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/6/2008 11:41:13 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Ummm...."Juicy pussies?"
 
Has "BigusDickus" contacted you yet?
 
I hear he is very true.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 12:14:57 AM   
JUICYPUSSIES


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Status: offline 		It's real and we tried over a dozen names before it finally took that one.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 1:17:01 AM   
simpleplan2


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Status: offline 		Surprisingly, I'm going to disagree with MaamJay.  All you talk about is the other person's ability to play and it seems like compatible = play, according to your profile.  I'd advise you to put something a bit more thoughtful and detailed about the type of person you're looking for, not about his or her ability to play.  If, on the other hand, that's what you're looking for, then yeah, you're going to get tons of HNGs looking for some hot chat!

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 1:20:06 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JUICYPUSSIES

It's real and we tried over a dozen names before it finally took that one.


I got the "too good to be true" vibe too.  Comes from a lifetime of seeing free, kinky, safe, 3-way sex be only for the girls. 

(That's why I keep Pet around.  She's pollen to bisexual fem-bees)

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 2:00:44 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I *will* agree with MaamJay (as I usually do).  The name alone is enough to make Me want to run for the hills over the things that might arrive in the mail.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 2:23:47 AM   
ProtagonistLily


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quote:

It's real and we tried over a dozen names before it finally took that one.


Right. Don't take good old fashioned advice, just defend your right to make bad choices.

Sounds absolutely "Real and Twu" to me....

PL


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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 2:37:10 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

quote:

It's real and we tried over a dozen names before it finally took that one.


Right. Don't take good old fashioned advice, just defend your right to make bad choices.

Sounds absolutely "Real and Twu" to me....

PL



I have no doubt these two women exist. (No reasonably doubt)

I just think SOME prospective submissives are getting lost in the way.  Also, you mention you're both switches, which may shake a few more.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 3:25:08 AM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		This is a forum where the way we present ourselves determines the type of response you will get. Reading yours, it sounds like an ad to buy a piece of meat (my impression). So, you will get responses from people who are gamers and players.
When words are our primary way of conveying our wants and needs, I feel we need to take the time to write something that will appeal to the type of person we are interested in. If you feel you are not getting the responses you want, you most likely need to change how you are presenting yourself. Apparently the type you are looking for, do not find anything attractive in your profile.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 4:45:25 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Yeah...have to agree.  The first thing I thought of when I saw the name in caps was that the profile was that of a wanker.  First impressions, ya know.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 5:47:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's more a naive name, than question.



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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 5:49:57 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		What can you do?  change your name and profile...

I wouldn't get past the name and I wouldn't take anything seriously coming from a name like that...

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 6:00:10 AM   
chokealone


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Status: offline 		agreed on the name. Also you need to get a picture. And I'm always asked for a webcam when people want to chat on MSN etc. So you and your partner should try a webcam if you're serious. Also if it is just a threesome you want rather than a bdsm lifestyle, have you tried any swinger sites? They might be more you're thing.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 6:02:04 AM   
slaveboyforyou


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Status: offline 		The last time I saw the term "juicy pussy", it was written on a bathroom stall at a truck stop. 

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 6:25:34 AM   
JUICYPUSSIES


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Status: offline 		Okay, we get it, the name sucks.  I guess we'll start over with a new name, since I don't see any way to change it.

To those who offered sincere words of advice, thank you very much!  It was very helpful, and gave us good guidance.  To those who took our sincere question as an opportunity to snark, insult, mock, deride, posture, take cheap shots, strut like peacocks or look down their noses at us in an "oh so superior" way, we simply ignore you.  We don't think you are clever or cool -- though you undoubtedly cackle with glee at your own wonderfulness -- we just think you're not worth our time.  We were surprised, though, to find that the tone of this forum is such.

Again, great thanks to those who offered substantive advice.

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 6:29:06 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		IMO distance is the biggest hurdle.

If you want real time- you need to locate finds in your metro/town/area.   or plan a vacation near the s-m population hub. 

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RE: A Naive Question? - 7/7/2008 6:30:26 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Actually...you asked why you were getting or not getting certain responses to your profile and we all pretty much thought that it had to do with your name.  It's not anything personal. 

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