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EddieTash -> We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 1:49:06 AM)
Hi All We are a couple from South Africa who have been going out for about 2 years now. Suddenly we have come to the common thought that we are both into BDSM and Water Sports. The water sport is great fun and we don’t have a problem to initiate it in the Sex role-play. However, when it comes to BDSM and bondage, we so badly want to do it but we seem to be Shy in a way!!! Trust is not an issue; we both love each other Madly. So can any of you people out there help us with Tip and Advice. We will also let you know how it goes in the future. Hope to hear from you all soon

HeavansKeeper -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 2:00:10 AM)
What your feeling makes sense. When you're new to something, you know nothing about it. When you know nothing about the topic, the last thing you want to do is be a leader. In a D/s world, someone needs to be the leader. How do we reconcile this paradox? Start small. Start with handcuffs that can be removed (toy cuffs), blindfolds, riding crops... Take turns. Maybe you're starting with the wrong sides. One of you may not be dominant or submissive, or just one (or either). Avoid breathe play, knife play, fire play, and anything else that's too edgey or dangerous. Stick with small things and simple play. Remember... Once you've spanked her a little every day for a month, you won't be shy about it anymore. So go forth, be safe, and have fun.

VioletAshes -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 3:03:54 AM)
One person will need to make the leap. Start simple by restraining her by holding her hair or a light spank with the hand or the other way around.

EddieTash -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 6:23:22 AM)
Thanks for coming back to us!!!!!!!!!!!!! What can you tell us about Breast Ties!!!!!!!!!!!

MystiqueFL -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 6:28:09 AM)
Try reading a book called: SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman (Author) It just may help. Good Luck! ~Mystique

Prinsexx -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 6:45:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper In a D/s world, someone needs to be the leader. How do we reconcile this paradox? This sounds like a deeper question than what equipment to use. It feels like you have to decide who is Dom and who is sub. You could both be switches which is great because then you have like four people instead of two. Sub-sub = stalemate. Dom-dom equals battle of wills or a third to play with. Dom-sub equals bob's your uncle. I can switch and have switched. I used to dress in balco to domme my switcher and then go dress in white to be subbie. worked for him and worked for me. When I was in black then I simply used to take the lead and make the decisions. Whew what a responsibility that was.

EddieTash -> RE: We Really Need Help (7/7/2008 10:42:54 PM)
Thanks for the reply!!!!!!!! We sat lastnight and spoke about it and decided that i will be the Sub And Tasha the Dom!!!!!!!!! Tasha though wants her breast to be bond and tied!!!!! Can any of you help with a site that shows and explains how to do it?

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