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ORIGINAL: summersprite

I wanted to put a quote on here that I saw before I knew BDSM existed 'in real life'....

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.
~ Anais Nin
 
I read this quote and was just floored. It completely stilled me for a moment.... and made me question everything I believed in. For 25 years before this, I'd lived a totally vanilla life.... (not even knowing that it was termed 'vanilla' - lol)
 
I know some of you found D/s or M/s very early.... but for those of you who found it later in life, what was the turning point? What was the defining moment/person/event that made you realise you could turn your fantasies into reality?
 
As a P.S. (and those who have seen me post before may know this anyway [:D])... but my  Sir was (and is) my defining /turning point in my life..... 
 
Edited to add.... finding D/s is like finally 'coming home'. I understand myself. I understand my sexuality. I know me....

And if it was a quote that changed your life.... what was it? ;-)
 

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ORIGINAL: DominantJenny

quote:

ORIGINAL: summersprite

I wanted to put a quote on here that I saw before I knew BDSM existed 'in real life'....

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.
~ Anais Nin
 
I read this quote and was just floored. It completely stilled me for a moment.... and made me question everything I believed in. For 25 years before this, I'd lived a totally vanilla life.... (not even knowing that it was termed 'vanilla' - lol)
 
I know some of you found D/s or M/s very early.... but for those of you who found it later in life, what was the turning point? What was the defining moment/person/event that made you realise you could turn your fantasies into reality?
 
As a P.S. (and those who have seen me post before may know this anyway [:D])... but my  Sir was (and is) my defining /turning point in my life..... 
 
Edited to add.... finding D/s is like finally 'coming home'. I understand myself. I understand my sexuality. I know me....

And if it was a quote that changed your life.... what was it? ;-)
 

It's always funny for me to read stuff like that, because my reaction has always been so utterly the opposite of a submissive woman's, or even that of most vanilla women's!
In the Exit to Eden movie, there's a scene where she spanks him with a hairbrush. The rest of the movie was fun and opened up the concept of BDSM for me considerably (and, yes, I know it's nothing like the book), but that scene...that was the scene that made me go YES! Someone else Gets It! That's what I want! Now, it wasn't till I came online and searched about it and found myself a chat room that I really fully realized that I could DO this, but that was the first inkling, the thing that LET me google for BDSM and hope. :)