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ProtagonistLily -> What if CM doesn't work??? (11/10/2005 2:35:38 PM)
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I've noticed a fair amount of "Good bye, and thanks for all the fish..." threads in the last 6 months or so. You know, someone gets fed up, has a swan song about how CM is evil, they didn't get what they wanted, they want their money back, yada yada.....
Well, first of all, there are no gaurentees. None. Zip. Zero.
Second of all, if you think that you are going to be one of the few lucky people who actually find a rewarding, honest, deep, fulfilling and real life relationship while combing the scads of internet profiles here, be prepared to have a long wait in front of you. Unfortunately, as the song says, "Ain't nothin like the real thing baby." In other words, you have a much better shot at finding someone with our particular bend if you actually do an active or even a half assed (I'll get to that in a moment) search In Real Life.
Yes, I know, there she goes again, with this "Real Life" shit. Yeah, I know, it's much easier to sit at the computer, look over the profiles, pick a few and get your heart broken via the band width, but here's the upside; you might actually find someone that shares your desires and way of thinking.
Now, I know many of you are 'private' people, and have this image of naked, sweaty orgies in the name of "Public Parties". Clearly, you've never been. And frankly, I'm not even suggesting that. I am, however, suggesting that you go to a munch, and meet real live breathing people whom you might have a nice conversation with and something to eat. That's really about all that anyone can hope for from a munch. The rest, if there is any, is really gravy.
Now, in my defense, I tend to make snap judgements about people in their profile. It's easy for me to put on my "I've been in the scene blady blah number of years, I can separate the posers from the "real" people." While conducting a very half assed search for someone local via the CM profiles, I saw a number of local men who invariably weren't for me. Too tall, too short, weird eyes...you know. We all do it. None of them fit what I was looking for.
It's been my practice to frequent the local munch here, to be a resource for those new folks who are making an attempt to check out the real life scene. About 6 months ago, I was a tad late for our regular munch, and ended up sitting next to a man I never met. Through our conversation, I realized he was one of my 'rejects' from CM. I didn't like what he had to say on his profile.
Well, 6 weeks later we had achieved couple status, and now we are talking contracts and collars. If I had solely relied on CM Profiles to do my research, I'd still be making some half assed attempt to find someone (which really was a full time attempt to keep myself single and emotionally safe) and have missed the pleasure of an incredible Dom.
So, take a chance. Go meet folks. Because really, you never know.
Lily
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