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ownedgirlie -> RE: Kink V Lifestyle (7/7/2008 3:20:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MisterP61
Is it just Me.... or are people today only more interested in the Kink then the actual lifestyle. I do not spend an inordinate time on these boards, but have seen enough to lead Me to believe that this is true. What happened to the days when a submissive was just that and if they ever mouthed off to the wrong person it was a reflection on their Master/Mistress. I am not talking about stating opinions or giving advice, but the flat out attacks.
It depends what you mean by "the wrong person" and "attacks." My behavior is most certainly a reflection of my Master's training, which means if I dare to submit to the inappropriateness (as defined by my Master) of some clod, either online or in person, he will be pretty damn pissed off at me. I am instructed to stand up for myself and our relationship at all times, to any other person - stranger or not. If someone attacks me, I am to handle it in a way he would find appropriate, and that might sometimes mean going for the jugular. Dominant, submissive, vanilla, or rocky road - it makes no difference as to anyone's orientation, for the only one I submit to is my Master. I am not a submissive to the world. He trained that out of me.
As for kink vs. lifestyle, I live my own lifestyle, which happens to include some kink. I'm not part of some universal lifestyle group. I am a slave, I am a developing cyclist, I am an amateur photographer, I am a writer...I spend my time where my interests lie, and do not limit myself to one group of person-type (is person-type a word?).
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Now I do want everyone to keep in mind that I am relatively new to this (2 Years active), but that does not mean I know nothing. I have read on the subject, been to many "like minded" gatherings, learned from some great Masters and Mistresses and rarely see it in real life, it just seems to be on the internet. I know there is relative safety in the anonymity online, but I would be horrified if one of mine ever behaved like this. I would further pursue corrective action immediately upon discovery.
That's perfectly your right, to correct behavior in a submissive of yours who has behaved inappropriately according to your rules. By the same token, other owners might be horrified if their submissives sat back and let someone walk all over them. Every owner has his/her own unique set of rules, which are appropriate for that particular relationship. You might be horrified if your submissive behaved in the way I was trained; my Master might be horrified if I behaved in a way you would prefer...get it? Although "horrified" is a rather strong word - my Master doesn't horrify easily.
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My Wife who many know here and in person are working on a poly family, and though some come and some go, We will always have each other first and foremost. For those who show respect always, you will know what I am talking about here. I have never asked any body elses sub to call me anything, or even an unowned one. I will know right away if they are good prospects (if unowned) by the way they approach Me or My Wife. Respect is a two way street, and I really do try to show it to all, but at times I find it very difficult and I need to pay close attention to what I say, to temper my words.
What you're basically saying here is you have your own standards of what is acceptable to you. That's a good thing, as everyone should have standards. I would be concerned, however, of a dominant who found it very difficult to temper his words.
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I am very much into the tradition of the Leather. Its meaning, its importance in the community. I see these new P/people coming on here saying you will do this and you will do that before I will look at you, and to me this seems counter productive. How many have you alienated with this? How many prospects have passed you by? I dont know, but it seems all of that will come with time.... every relationship takes work even the BDSM ones. How can I demand respect if I Myself show none.
It is my understanding that the Leather community is a gay community, although I could be wrong. Is that the community of which you speak?
Perhaps those who are stating their own standards do so, so that they can alienate those who do not meet said standards. Maybe those are prospects they do not mind to have passed by, just as those you deem as disrespectful are prospects that you do not mind to have passed by.
Your words seem a little hypocritical here. You are laying out your standards, having trouble tempering your own words toward those who do not meet them, yet you are questioning submissives who have standards. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how you are coming across to me.
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I do not care if you want to blast me on this. It is why I chose the general discussion tab out of the rest. I really just want to hear others thoughts on the subject, and for those who take the time to read and/or post.... I give My sincerest thanks.
Here is where you are giving mixed messages again. You do not think it appropriate for a submissive to "attack", yet you do not care if one "blasts" you here.
I guess what I walk away with from your post is that you might have some confusion as to what your expectations are, and that confusion is likely very evident to any submissives you may be talking to.
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