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Quivver -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/8/2008 6:16:09 PM)
I cant speak for `We` but I can speak for Me. I find it a comfortable, natural way of being when in the presence of someone I recognize as superior to Me. I can relax, drop the protective plastic face our society expects and just be Me. purely selfish on my part............. [:D]

sujuguete -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/8/2008 7:36:12 PM)
Why are we sub? Why not? [;)]

samantha9988 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/8/2008 8:40:11 PM)
Thank you I've been doing some looking around on this site. I really am not nearly as much into this lifestyle as some of you but I think I am submissive to a certain extent. I certainly don't think I'm dominant, thats for sure. I enjoy pleasing and really have no desire to be pleased. But does the desire for me to please, so that is what I do, mean that I'm doing what makes me happy, so in a sense because I'm doing "what I want" make me dominant? Did that make sense? And yes I am looking for a hookup but not just that. This site has had me pondering alot of questions.

MisterBeast -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 12:13:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex I had this exact same thought run through my mind last night when Alpha had me tied to a hook in the wall by a gag in my mouth, my hands behind my back and my pelvis pulled out as far as my legs could go... I literally asked, "Why do I like this?" when it was all over. He put his hand on my neck and said," Because I do". It was priceless. Somthing tells me mastercard wont be putting it in thier next commercial though.... Hancuffs, 35.00 Rope, 15.00 Ball gag, 24.00 Watching your sub quiver... priceless. Yeh, not happening. Allthough it would be fitting coming from the folks at MASTERcard lol

AquaticSub -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 12:28:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: samantha9988 Thank you I've been doing some looking around on this site. I really am not nearly as much into this lifestyle as some of you but I think I am submissive to a certain extent. I certainly don't think I'm dominant, thats for sure. I enjoy pleasing and really have no desire to be pleased. But does the desire for me to please, so that is what I do, mean that I'm doing what makes me happy, so in a sense because I'm doing "what I want" make me dominant? Did that make sense? And yes I am looking for a hookup but not just that. This site has had me pondering alot of questions. No. It means that your submission isn't selfless. I believe being his girl is one of the more selfish things I can do. If I wanted to please without getting anything out of it, I would have married one of my exes. I am capable of pleasing a great number of number of people, however I decided who to please, among other factors, based on how pleasing them made me feel. YMMV

malloves69 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 5:35:57 AM)
im a sub because i love strapon play [:)] something about a sexy woman wearing a big strapon i just love seeing [:)] gladly bendover for my mistress anytime she wants to take me [:)] when she walks in the room wearing that nice 10 in strapon we both know where thats going [:)] love the way she does it too ...at first a loving caring way to make sure im ok and then once its allin she flips the switch and really has her way with me [:)] after that she fists me and to me thats even better [:)] ahhhh she got me good yesterday ..but hey thats why i am a sub to her [:)] love her prostate massages too ..swear those fingers of hers are magical indeed [:)] mal

camille65 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 5:47:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: samantha9988 Thank you I've been doing some looking around on this site. I really am not nearly as much into this lifestyle as some of you but I think I am submissive to a certain extent. I certainly don't think I'm dominant, thats for sure. I enjoy pleasing and really have no desire to be pleased. But does the desire for me to please, so that is what I do, mean that I'm doing what makes me happy, so in a sense because I'm doing "what I want" make me dominant? Did that make sense? And yes I am looking for a hookup but not just that. This site has had me pondering alot of questions. Pondering is a good thing! [;)] Actually that is one of the reasons I happen to like sites like this. They can stir up questions within ones self and who knows the result? I hope you do explore your mind and that you find what you seek. On the OP of why.. jeez it would take a book for me to explain what I can. When I do something that people approve of I feel good inside. When I help someone, or teach someone then I feel good inside. I like to have boundaries set by someone else, I want to have the rules laid out so that I can walk my path with ease. I like the kinky sex toooooooo!

bipolarber -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 5:48:17 AM)
Just a few of the 3 billion possible reasons... (about half the Earth's population) 1) We like to be the center of attention 2) It give's a feeling of "belonging" (In the Maslow's Heirerarchy of needs sense) 3) It simplifies the relationship... The Dom/me is the driver, you the sub are the passenger and or navigator. 4) As a sub, you usually get what you want. 5) Knowing what your partner expects of you makes things easier. 6) The communication is better (or at least it should be) than most vanilla relationships.

slavekal -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 9:53:42 AM)
As is the case with most things, it is helpful to think in terms of a continuum instead of either/or. Most guys have worshipful, self sacrificial feelings for women at least some of the time. Why are there so many songs about men sleeping out in the rain, crawling miles, giving everything they have to a woman? Female beauty makes us weak. Why do guys give up large amounts of cash to strippers? We have this desire to work for, and please women. Look at the Medievel stories and poems. Same thing. Sub guys just feel these things more consistently, and to a greater degree than men in the general population. It's not really different, just moreso.

littleone35 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 10:36:02 AM)
For me personally it is because i am wired to be a sub. Not to just anyone thought. I have always liked to take care of others but i only submit to one. it is a good question though. Matt's littleone

angelspassion4u -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 10:46:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: samantha9988 Thank you I've been doing some looking around on this site. I really am not nearly as much into this lifestyle as some of you but I think I am submissive to a certain extent. I certainly don't think I'm dominant, thats for sure. I enjoy pleasing and really have no desire to be pleased. But does the desire for me to please, so that is what I do, mean that I'm doing what makes me happy, so in a sense because I'm doing "what I want" make me dominant? Did that make sense? And yes I am looking for a hookup but not just that. This site has had me pondering alot of questions. It's good that your looking around. One has to real sure in what they want. This lifestyle has soooo many aspects to it. It can be as little as experimenting in the bedroom to full 24/7. On line only to both that and real-time. One has to be sure of themselves before jumping into anything or one might get hurt badly ( not the good kind of hurt, either ) . I suggest you read information in other places too in addition to this site. Google is a good tool to help you find out some of what your looking to read about. I have been on this site for 2 years now but haven't been in a D/s relationship yet. I don't jump into things. But, I have spent the past 2 years reading, chatting, making friends, and learning who I am. So hopefully one day I will truly find what I want, need and desire. Good Luck to you. I hope you find what your looking for.

XaviersXian -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/9/2008 5:11:00 PM)
greetings to all, I am a slave because I need to slave to be fulfilled as a person. Sure, at times, I completely hate aspects of service, but, mentally, I shrivel up and die without the opportunity to serve. It is far from an easy life, but it is who I am. well wishes,

RealSub58 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/11/2008 5:54:32 AM)
I definately disagree with 2 statements ! quote: ORIGINAL: bipolarber 1) We like to be the center of attention Some s type women (sub/slave) are attention whores but just because we are s types does NOT make us the center of attention. 4) As a sub, you usually get what you want. If we, as the s type Usually / Almost Always get what we want, then who is in control? I see so many problems with this statement.

RealSub58 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/11/2008 5:56:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: samantha9988 I just don't get it! I do think, after reading your profile and your responses here... you might want to "label" yourself as a "sexual service bottom."

TermsConditions -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/11/2008 6:43:57 AM)
"If everyone in the world were a leader, then nothing requireing more than one person to do would ever get done." Maybe it's a lack of sleep but this seems the most profound thing I've ever read.

shadowcd -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/11/2008 10:35:08 AM)
The easiest way to explain why I'm submissive is because I want to make my partner happy and often am unsure how to do this so when my partner tells me/trains me and dominates me into doing what makes them happy.. It makes me happy because then I know I can make them happy. My biggest problem with "vanilla" relationships was that as much as I tried to please someone, it was very difficult for me to figure out what they wanted. I spent a great deal of time guessing and being insecure and those insecurities lead to doubt which just created problems. One of the worst things I can feel is disappointing a loved one, and I would rather know what I did wrong then have to guess and be doomed to repeat it. Which is why I like the discipline aspect of it. It tells me I have strayed from the path and reminds me to get back on it if I wish to keep my Domme. In past vanilla relationships I have strayed of course but with little reaction or something to subtle that I missed it and I continued to hurt them even though it was never my intention and I didn't even realize how much or often why, until it was to late and they left. That's why I'm submissive, that's why i like discipline because it is how things work best with me. Because it is the way I'm wired to deal with relationships in the most positive way for my own and my partners happiness.

DaddyDragon41 -> RE: Why are we sub? (7/12/2008 7:57:49 AM)
From my understanding of people I have known, submissives are people who have a built in need to care and support something bigger then themselves. Because of that they need to feel the power/strength/dominance of another person and when they do thats who they tend to follow. Sadly thats where much abuse comes in because just because someone has one of the three above does not a good dom/master make. A submissive needs to serve that service can come in many forms, but bottom line they need to be part of something bigger and instinct says look for the strongest/wisest, the happiest submissives I know accept that and are very picky with who they choose to follow/support. BTW this possible answer does not apply to who holds which end of the "flogger" so to speak thats just whatever kink you enjoy but referring to relationship aspects.

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