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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 7:08:22 AM

burningdesires47

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Yeah... intentionally ruining an orgasm is grounds for immediate ball kicking, in my book. Put me in that much bad-pain, and I do, can, will, and have gotten homicidal over it (fortunately I didn't succeed but that was sort of a near miss...). It's not a conscious decision, it's just a total snap reaction.

Accidental bad timing of changing position or coming just a few seconds too soon and not responding when I'm begging you to play with me so I can get there... frustrating, but not castration-worthy. Once or twice getting me there and backing off and I might be able to just have a better orgasm after if we keep going... But I'm a multiple orgasm kind of gal. The more orgasms I have, the more intense they get. Back me off without getting there more than once or twice, and everything just shuts down and there's nothing that could possibly get me off at that point if my life depended on it.

I am at my most submissive post-orgasm, and I know I'm not the only one.

One of the entire points of having sex is to make the pretty girls make pretty noises. Even when I'm the only girl involved, that's still a major point of the endeavor. Why ruin that? That doesn't make you dominant or in control, that just makes you a dick.

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 8:25:57 AM

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Oh yeah. Geesh. I have faked it a time or two because of that. And in my head it's "yeah man, YOU made me cum" while I wonder how long it will be before he leaves and I can finish it off myself. Funny though, I can't recall either of those guys faces and until you posted that I didn't even recall those brief liasons.
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Another orgasm ruiner for me is "cum now!"

Instant performance anxiety, and out of my body and into my head.

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 8:35:26 AM

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I have so many orgasms so easily it'd be impossible to ruin them, or to deny me them.
::laughing::

I think anyone that tried would be very frustrated. Not me. :P

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 8:36:15 AM

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Tell her that shes almost as good as her sister Cassie LOL
Fart, after eating a dozen deviled eggs,.
Start playing with her nipples twisting vigorously as you say Come In Tokyo!!!
Turn on Star Trek.
Jam your thumb up her ass while mimicing the crocodile hunter saying "CRIKEE SHES A BEAUTY!"
Start popping zits on her ass and telling her about this boil you once had....

enough tips there?

why do i think this guy could ruin the 2nd coming of crist?? lol

The visual of popping zits on Jesus's ass just did it for me.

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 12:07:53 PM

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Sometimes I wonder if I'm a straight female dom who happens to like girls and be in a man's body...

Maybe it's your pic? Oh and if you like girls, then you would be a lesbian or you would be bi. Straight women like men.

I said a straight female who likes girls because straight female doms are often into chastity and orgasm denial. Lesbian doms, I would assume, are generally not. And what's wrong with my pic? :S

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One of the entire points of having sex is to make the pretty girls make pretty noises. Even when I'm the only girl involved, that's still a major point of the endeavor. Why ruin that? That doesn't make you dominant or in control, that just makes you a dick.

Maybe I like noises of frustration as well as noises of pleasure? Tell me, why is it that female doms lock male subs in chastity for months on end, ruin their orgasms, deny their orgasms, and no one says a word, I show an interest in ruining a female sub's orgasm and I'm a dick for it? So she could have had a pleasurable orgasm and I chose to make it an unpleasant one, and I'm a dick for that. In any given scene I could go down on her and give her many wonderful orgasms, but if I choose to beat her ass instead, does that make me a dick?

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/9/2008 12:41:50 PM

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This certainly is an interesting topic, and I like seing lots of diverse opinions, because I feel that is how life as well as BD/SM works.

When I am with a partner submissive to me my greatest turn on is taking her farther and farther into multiple orgasms than she thought possible, and I certainly love it when she starts sounding like a tornado alarm siren.

There are LOTS of different ways to get there and different ones work with different people.

It seems to me that orgasm denial is counter productive. It may bring one a lot of control over a sub, but it is a lot of work and not much fun. I find that "keeping on keeping on" after the explosions get rolling take a sub a lot further and into deeper and longer multiples usually.

This can also work on males, if you learn the differences between ejaculation and orgasm and concentrate on the latter. Many men can have long times of flying into multiple "O's" too, if they allow themselves to be taken there.

Some partners just need very different stimulation to get to different places. One sub loves to get oral sex but loves it so much she holds back from coming a very long time and without intending to do so, often blocks herself from orgasm. Giving oral joy to women iis a joy to me, but she came to think I did not like it since I so rarely gave her that. LOL I could take her a LOT farther, easier and faster into mind bending screaming melting orgasms with a cane or a finger or a paddle or my cock or a vibrator, so she rarely will ever get oral because when she does she frustrates me.

It is very very different if a partner is Domme and I submit to her. In that mindset ALL that matters is her joy, her pleasure, and whatever takes her there becomes my need, even if it is something a really dislike with others. If she sadistically likes frustrating me or hurting me then I need to give her that. LOL there are also powerful dominants who love GETTING pain, so if I am the sub and she orders me to blister her ass with canes, I gladly do so... and the feelings I get as I please HER this way are very different from what I get giving the same exact impact play to a submissive.
The scene has so many possibilities that I often try to talk to folks about opening their minds to see what others enjoy, even if they personally won't go there. Sometimes a "No No Hard Limit" turns into curiosity, when someone you know is seen to crave that particular thing!

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/10/2008 6:48:49 AM

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Sometimes I wonder if I'm a straight female dom who happens to like girls and be in a man's body...

Maybe it's your pic? Oh and if you like girls, then you would be a lesbian or you would be bi. Straight women like men.

I said a straight female who likes girls because straight female doms are often into chastity and orgasm denial. Lesbian doms, I would assume, are generally not. And what's wrong with my pic? :S

Yes, straight female doms are sometimes into chastity and orgasm denial, but if they are straight, they are usually interested in doing that to men. That's why they identify as straight, because they are attracted to men. As to the pic, there is nothing wrong with it, it's a very hot picture. When I look at it however, I do not picture a male dom in my head, I picture a female and when she starts talking about her dick, it gets confusing.

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/10/2008 7:26:05 AM

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Sometimes I wonder if I'm a straight female dom who happens to like girls and be in a man's body...

Maybe it's your pic? Oh and if you like girls, then you would be a lesbian or you would be bi. Straight women like men.

I said a straight female who likes girls because straight female doms are often into chastity and orgasm denial. Lesbian doms, I would assume, are generally not. And what's wrong with my pic? :S

Yes, straight female doms are sometimes into chastity and orgasm denial, but if they are straight, they are usually interested in doing that to men. That's why they identify as straight, because they are attracted to men. As to the pic, there is nothing wrong with it, it's a very hot picture. When I look at it however, I do not picture a male dom in my head, I picture a female and when she starts talking about her dick, it gets confusing.

You'd better rush out and tell all those gay and lesbian dominants with opposite sex, straight submissives, and those straight dominants with gay and lesbian submissives, what orientation they *really* are, because they think they already know.

Plenty of people get hot scening with someone who is not of interest to them as a sex partner. They might have no sexualized interaction at all, or they might have sexual interaction, but for purposes of a power exchange, in which the excitement comes from the Bondage/Discipline-Dominant/submissive-Sadomasochistic dynamic, and in how they relate to each other, rather than sexual desire for the other person.

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RE: Ruined Orgasms For Women - 7/10/2008 8:43:06 AM

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I don't need to rush out and tell anyone anything. Yes, I know that straight women play with female subs. I have played with several straight women and sex had nothing to do with it.

The post I was replying to stated that he felt like he was a straight female who likes girls trapped in a mans body. I was merely trying to explain to him, that if he was a female who likes girls trapped in a mans body, that it was more likely to be a lesbian or bi female.

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