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LadyPact -> RE: top drop and coping (7/9/2008 12:57:30 PM)
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Believe it or not, I know exactly what you are talking about. To be less then eloquent, doesn't it suck when something that should be so beautiful, should be riddled with these types of feelings?
More to the point, I advise folks facing Top drop the same as I do sub drop. (No, this doesn't especially mean that I always listen to My own advice either.) There are some things you can do to help you.
Your brain chemistry just did a major overhaul. You had this wonderful, mad rush of endorphins that suddenly stopped. In other words, the pleasure train is no longer moving, and it seems like it's come to a screeching halt. That's a lot to brace yourself for. Remember that word that I used. Halt. It applies.
I've used the analogy for years. Halt. It stands for key things to watch for. Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired.
Hungry. It's a simple thing, yet many tops don't remember their physical needs for food and/or water after something so intense. Sure. Many of us are the first to jump up and get a bottle of water and a treat for our bottoms after playing, but did you remember to bring something for yourself? Just because we are on the opposite side of the kneel, doesn't mean we don't need the same things. If you're like Me, you just spent two hours in physical excursion. That's a drain on the body, and it needs to be replenished.
Angry. What is your emotional state after this? It might not especially be anger, but where are your feelings? We are constantly checking on our bottoms about the way they feel. What about our own feelings? There might be something in there that isn't exactly at rest.
Lonely. Are you by yourself? It isn't only bottoms that need a bit of checking up on after something so intense. Tops need it, too. We might need a physical embrace or something emotionally fulfilling afterward.
Tired. Some won't like it phrased this way but ffs (for fucks sake) get some rest. Honey, part of you is tired after you just spent hours doing this intense scene. Take a nap, go to bed early, find a way to rest. You are a physical being, and you have certain limitations. You won't feel the same way after you have rested your body and your mind. Remember, you spent all of that energy going out. It's time to put some back in.
I'm sure it is different for others, but I have never had a drop that couldn't be fixed by one of these four, key, measured methods. I hope you will come back and tell us exactly what worked for you. Best of luck.
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