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justify my love - 7/10/2008 8:28:24 PM   
subsweetkitty


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Status: offline 		I logged on over a year ago..happily I'm still chained to same D.

I am looking for advice on how to ...please Him....After a 5 month separation, he is returning . To me.

I need advice. When I started this a year ago, I was really blind and probably still am.
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RE: justify my love - 7/10/2008 9:10:33 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Ask him.  And no, I'm not being facetious.  Ask HIM.

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RE: justify my love - 7/10/2008 9:13:38 PM   
MisterBeast


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Status: offline 		Ask him directly what will make him happy, what he wants, be open and honest. Dont play games. This will really give your chances for sucsess a big shot in the arm

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RE: justify my love - 7/10/2008 10:46:33 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		yep.. agree with whats been said.. only HE can tell you what will please him.  Just let him know you're feeling uncertain as to what would make him happy, and you want to make as few missteps as possible....

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RE: justify my love - 7/10/2008 11:37:46 PM   
sunshinemiss


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"Hi GT.  We've not been spending time together for awhile, and I have missed you so much.  I really want to please you, but sometimes I'm a little nervous about what will please you.  Can you give me a specific idea or two of what would please you?"

And then... LISTEN

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 12:01:36 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		*grin*  I do SO love you, Sunny :)




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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 5:28:55 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		yes GT, I love you too.  But that doesn't tell me what PLEASES you.  (come on be a sport and lets do a whole you know role play here... but you can't velcro collar me... you know)

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 9:35:02 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		hell, I'm easy.. just do the cooking and shopping, be available for me when I have the urge to apply clothespin zippers to various tender parts, or feel like flexing my arm with the floggers or canes... *grin*

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 10:41:41 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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i agree with what others have said. 

i only know what pleases my Daddy and bf ...you only know what pleases him. so ask him.

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 1:02:53 PM   
HeavansKeeper


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subsweetkitty

I logged on over a year ago..happily I'm still chained to same D.

I am looking for advice on how to ...please Him....After a 5 month separation, he is returning . To me.

I need advice. When I started this a year ago, I was really blind and probably still am.


Why did you seperate?

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 3:29:44 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I would write down everything that you can recall him mentioning. Likes sugar in his tea, not honey. Prefers apple pie to peach crumble. Prefers socks folded and not balled. Etc. And then ask him to fill you in on other things.

Beyond that, don't put too much pressure on yourself. After a prolonged separation you may well not be able to settle into service sub mode, or any kind of sub mode. It's perfectly natural to fear becoming vulnerable for fear he will leave again. Even if this was a job posting out of state and you know he didn't do it on purpose, your emotions may be otherwise.

Talk to him about what you're feeling and what he is feeling. And give yourself time to relax and feel comfortable together again. Also remember that he probably enjoyed you being green as hell so he could spend a lot of time training you. If he wanted a perfectly trained, highly experienced slave he would have found one.

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 4:28:13 PM   
sunshinemiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

hell, I'm easy.. just do the cooking and shopping, be available for me when I have the urge to apply clothespin zippers to various tender parts, or feel like flexing my arm with the floggers or canes... *grin*


Oh my darling GT, thank you.  I can most assuredly cook and shop - especially if you like hot spice food ... as for being available for you... well, I do have that whole work schedule thing happening... but aside from that... well I'm alllllll yours....

*blows kisses
sunshine

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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 5:23:40 PM   
subsweetkitty


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all previous responses.

Yes, Ive asked and listened and even penned his ideas into erotica he thoroughly enjoys reading on the road. I know what turns him on . That's not the issue. Its more a matter of  getting a handle on when to "act" the part -to turn into the kitty he wants. Last night he said he felt he always had to "tip toe" around me and he wanted  the "full-on" kitty.

Any idea what that means -from the experienced males here, please? 

While it says Im "vanilla" (does anyone know how to change that blasted icon??) Im clearly not. Have had threesomes and f-f action. Even invited him out to a few of the private clubs I go to just to please him in this regard..

I think what it might boil down to is how frightening he might become to me and whether I can deal with that. What more can one say other than "I WANT TO TRY"?

In reply to HeavensKeeper- work is what separates us. He works out of state several months in the year. I dont pretend he's not with another slave kitty out there in the wild west. He's a very handsome Master. I've even accepted that concept. When he returns next month, he will be here for a while. Even talked about giving up the traveling and just taking normal job back home by next year. I was glad to hear that, of course.. :)


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RE: justify my love - 7/11/2008 6:49:02 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		relax...relax..relax...talk..talk..talk...and bed the Man...if he wants too he'll tell you want you need to learn...or unlearn....

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RE: justify my love - 7/12/2008 7:31:23 AM   
subsweetkitty


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Status: offline 		Also remember that he probably enjoyed you being green as hell so he could spend a lot of time training you. If he wanted a perfectly trained, highly experienced slave he would have found one.

Thanks D_FIP (celeste43)... I never thought of that angle. You're right. Must be some enjoyment for him that I am so untrained..

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RE: justify my love - 7/12/2008 7:35:13 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Do not rely on anything anyone else might offer as a way to make him happy. That is asking for failure becasue you could pick up something he dislikes in your attempts to be pleasing. Just ask him what he wishes from you.

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