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califsue -> RE: giving complete submission (7/11/2008 8:14:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: angelstrands
We tend to hear fairly often terms such as 'giving ones total and complete submission' and variations on this. What this means has been debated before and whilst opinions on that are not exactly what i am seeking from this thread, what i would like please to try and establish is HOW giving this may be acheived ?. in some relationships this may be pretty clear cut, perhaps the Dom & sub speculated from the outset full submission is what they so desired if not immediately, perhaps that was their goal.
What do you do when you love Your Dom and want to give but basically He is showing not much interest in you submission extending beyond the bedroom and that is making you feel sad and unfulfilled ?. Of course, Doms are not mindreaders i know so obviously i am sure many of Y/you will say that i need to tell Him how i feel.
However in this part time relationship of nearly 2years and uncollared would some might say this is a probably a sign of disinterest on His part?, that kinky vanilla is only what He seeks?
Masters, Doms, if You wanted more would You simply be asking for it by now? or would any of You be sitting back waiting for it to be offered? How can You offer it ?, especially when rejection frightens you.
Thank Y/you
I will offer you my perspective based on my relationship with my Master.
I have known him for 2 years and we played on/off during that time. He let me play with others and then one day out of the blue he sent me a message saying we could have so much more and did i want to step it up. I wasn't too sure where he was going with it but said yes but that i was scared. It was an honest answer. However, shortly thereafter I sent him a note asking about blanket permission to still play with others. He stopped answering my emails. Finally I sent him a message stating I would leave him alone. After a couple of months, I sent him a note wishing him the best and stating that I hope he had found the sub/slave of his dreams. He responded he had, wrote my name, city and asked if I was still interested. Of course, I very was much.
He was waiting on me to be ready to share and open up about my life.
He wanted an exclusive relationship which I agreed to.
It has been a difficult journey for me. I had many walls built up that have had to come down and on occasion still start building that wall.
However, I have not ever felt as safe, secure or loved by someone as I do with him.
He is very patient with me which is a good thing.
My Master was waitng for me to offer it. Could be the ways your is as well. It is scary to open up to someone but it can be so worth in the long run.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best.
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