SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO

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Laurali -> SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:21:36 PM)
Here's the deal, I have been messing with my regular play mate for about 3 years... Now he wants me to be Dom... He's not into pain- I need advice on some good things I can do to make him happy... PLease help!!! Laurali

GlobalSkulls -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:23:42 PM)
You can talk to him on what he wants you to do. Also dont use caps on titles. Its fairly rude. An offical un-written law of the net. Its n0t 1337.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:25:50 PM)
Talk to him, go with what is already in your minds and build on that.

Synocense -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:28:42 PM)
To dominate does not equal pain. To submit does not equal pain. What is it he wants? To relinquish control? Is he hoping for less responsiblity in the relationship. I suggest a long conversation. Good luck Syn

mnottertail -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:37:41 PM)
First thing, don't panic and don't shout like that again.......Jesus Fuckin' christ that hurt.

justmira -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 7:53:53 PM)
Hi, Does he want to be dominated for a long time or just for a short one off playtime to see what it's like to be sub? It's hard to say what you could do without knowing things like what he is into, what he wants to get from it and what you have experience doing. But a suggestion if it's only for a short period so that he can feel what it's like to be a sub ... Put some mousetraps randomly around a room. Gag and blindfold him (if he's into these things) and tell him he has to crawl around the room to find something .. maybe keys to handcuffs if you have them, you could put the handcuffs on him first and he needs to get the keys to have them taken off. After he is blindfolded, remove the mousetraps so that he can't get hurt but don't tell him that they are gone. Toss the keys out into the room and tell him that he has to crawl to find them, and that you will tell him if he gets too close to a mousetrap. As he is crawling give him instructions to go left or right to miss the "mousetraps". He'd be totally dependant on you to avoid the "mousetraps". Just a thought. cheers mira

slavejali -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 8:28:30 PM)
Laurali: that would be my worst nightmare come true..which made me think ...i hope all goes well for you..if that happened to me..im sure i would try but it would mess with my head so much i think my relationship would change permanently. Seems to me tho, your happy and willing to do the switch...so more power to you, to coin a phrase grin

jro2020 -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 8:40:10 PM)
I agree I want more details, is this jsut a switch for a scene or is this long term? If you won't do it how do you feel if he finds someone to Dom him if he continues to top you? Short incomplete questions rarely get good results. Please think about exactly what opinions you want and what your specific questions are, and don't yell.

mnottertail -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/11/2005 8:49:08 PM)
Be a 23 year old spunky irish chick, whatever you do get yours.......... He has been warned right? Ron because I thought the better of it.

fyreredsub -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/12/2005 8:45:14 AM)
have him spread eagle on the bed on his belly, restrain him w/ chains,blind him,gag him and then make him wait a bit w/ you messing w/ stuff in the room,then give him a tongue bath..........the anticipating what you are going to do ....may be a good mind fuck..and you don't have to cause pain....

redheadedfire4u -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/12/2005 8:48:27 AM)
my god that would be my worse nightmare ... I think I would run round room screaming and fall in a heap in the corner a gibbering mess till I fell asleep from exhaustion .... eeek if there is a god please never let this happen to me ... no help to your predicament I am affraid but I wish you all the best

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/12/2005 9:01:38 AM)
This question comes up far too often for My comfort. And it seems to be happening more and more. Here's a recent thread that may be helpful for you. "I'm So Lost" in Ask A Mistress That will probably give you more insight into the various ways a boy can submit and how he might wish to be careful what he asks for! Good luck and welcome to the boards.

EvilGeoff -> RE: SUB NEEDS HELP- HE WANTS ME TO BE DOM... I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO (11/14/2005 12:53:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Laurali Here's the deal, I have been messing with my regular play mate for about 3 years... Now he wants me to be Dom... He's not into pain- I need advice on some good things I can do to make him happy... PLease help!!! Laurali Hi Laurali, Since I am male and exclusively been the Owner/Operator of female submissives, I'm not really a good source for advice on dominating a suddenly submissive male. My best advice? Get online, and head to Fetish Auctioneer - http://www.fetishauctioneer.com or pop over to Amazon.com - http://www.amazon.com And search for: Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual by Christina Abernathy It is an absolutely wonderful book for the beginning Dominant woman (not bad for guys either, gives you a different perspective to consider... ). Other excellent resources: The Topping Book by Easton and Liszt, and Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns by Miller and Devon. Good reading and the best of luck! - Geoff

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