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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 8:06:31 PM

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What are the chances the young man listens to any of this well meaning advice....and please don't take that as an insult,I was once 19 and nobody could tell me anything...it is a function of youth that by the time they realise they don't know eveything,they no longer qualify as youth

I was under the impression that it was you old dogs who can no longer be taught new tricks.

You were misled....as the old saying goes "youth is wasted on the young"

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 8:09:12 PM

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From what I see, about 2/3rd of them are looking for other women-NOT men!

I know...and as my sig says: all the good ones are collared or lesbians.

life's hard for a young, heterosexual, white male.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 8:13:08 PM

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What are the chances the young man listens to any of this well meaning advice....and please don't take that as an insult,I was once 19 and nobody could tell me anything...it is a function of youth that by the time they realise they don't know eveything,they no longer qualify as youth

I was under the impression that it was you old dogs who can no longer be taught new tricks.

You were misled....as the old saying goes "youth is wasted on the young"

that's hardly the fault of the youth as growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 8:16:21 PM

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From what I see, about 2/3rd of them are looking for other women-NOT men!

You know every time I see males on here complaining about the responses, or lack thereof ,they are getting,a little bell goes off in my head...what type of signals are You sending out....this really isn't that much different than vanilla dating...start off assuming the Lady is in fact a Lady ,avoid any mention of anything at all that smacks of sex,be polite be a gentleman...and before you know it you are in converations...I learned that much as a 19 y/o in my local watering hole...and You know what I don't care what the venue is ..keep those things in mind when talking to Lady's and they will respond like Lady's...now where it goes from there I guess depends on what Your bringing to the table...but if it's an initial response and Your not getting it I would suggest before complaining or assuming there all lesbian's ...check Your own game first

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 8:28:27 PM

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What are the chances the young man listens to any of this well meaning advice....and please don't take that as an insult,I was once 19 and nobody could tell me anything...it is a function of youth that by the time they realise they don't know eveything,they no longer qualify as youth

I was under the impression that it was you old dogs who can no longer be taught new tricks.

You were misled....as the old saying goes "youth is wasted on the young"

that's hardly the fault of the youth as growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional.

Who said anything about fault ?

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 9:31:20 PM

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From what I see, about 2/3rd of them are looking for other women-NOT men!

You know every time I see males on here complaining about the responses, or lack thereof ,they are getting,a little bell goes off in my head...what type of signals are You sending out....this really isn't that much different than vanilla dating...start off assuming the Lady is in fact a Lady ,avoid any mention of anything at all that smacks of sex,be polite be a gentleman...and before you know it you are in converations...I learned that much as a 19 y/o in my local watering hole...and You know what I don't care what the venue is ..keep those things in mind when talking to Lady's and they will respond like Lady's...now where it goes from there I guess depends on what Your bringing to the table...but if it's an initial response and Your not getting it I would suggest before complaining or assuming there all lesbian's ...check Your own game first

Hmmm...where did you see me complaining? I was OBSERVING. Big difference.
Fact is, it IS hard for an inexpereinced hetero male to find anyone here. One reason is that about 2/3 of the people here are women looking for women. But don't believe me-count the posts for yourself. Many even say: "NO MEN!" or "Men's responses automatically get deleted". It's one hell of a nasty way to treat half the human race, IMHO. NOW I'm complaining LOL!

As far as me, I'm doing just fine here.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 9:35:16 PM

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MasterRt if I erred in using Your post as an example I apologise...but my statement stands..approach Woman the right way,though You might not immediately find yourself in connubial bliss more often than not you are likely to find yourself in conversations with numerous ladys...after that your on your own...just my opinion

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 9:40:21 PM

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RT,

I don't know, many of those profiles state NO MEN, to keep their boxes from being flooded, I think your estimate is a bit high. The only reason I say this is because I have gotten cmails from profiles that had exactly that in the first line. I am not saying that there aren't alot of lesbians that frequent the site, just that the 2/3 of all women here seems way out of balance.

Just my experience, others will vary,
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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 10:43:23 PM

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As a young woman of age with the OP, I have to say that, generally speaking, I am looking for someone more experienced and therefore older. HOWEVER. One does not automatically preclude the other, and experience with BDSM is, likewise, not the same as experience in life in general. I have a lot of personality quirks, one of which is that I very nearly cannot stand the general lack of spelling/grammar I see from many of my age-mates. (Which isn't to say it's confined to them, or to bash anyone. Just that it bugs me to no end, and that accidental whoopsies are a whole 'nother kettle of fish.) I'm also of the opinion that my sexual turn-ons/experiences are not the fit subject for a first message, and in fact should not come into conversation until it happens naturally. In my experience, *anything* can lead to any other subject.

Only one of the Doms that has messaged me has managed to keep my attention; every message we exchange seems to get longer and longer, and truly runs the gamut of subjects and interests.

This is not to say that any other woman of any age, still less my own, will have my standards and interests; I'm aware that I'm mature for my age. However, it may be something for the OP to keep in mind - that he simply doesn't appeal to any of the people he's talking to. I suggest he keep trying, cordially and respesctfully, and perhaps brush up his grasp of the English language. ;)

Good luck to you, Luke. :)

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/11/2008 10:49:20 PM

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You're 19 and interested in meeting women with complicated sexualities. Back when I was 19 and looking to get kinky, I was all about the older men: things probably haven't changed much.

Also, you're all into keeping it a secret, which isn't appealing. Maybe this isn't what you mean, but it sounds to me like you'd be keeping whatever woman you met a secret as well...

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 9:43:47 AM

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Why would I as a woman not respond to you?

Hmmm..

-too young
-not my type physically
-boring, generic profile with spelling errors that doesn't indicate a great intellect or emotional depth of any sort

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 11:03:11 AM

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You're getting some replies...there's no more to hope for. Some women just won't answer.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 11:11:24 AM

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From what I see, about 2/3rd of them are looking for other women-NOT men!

I know...and as my sig says: all the good ones are collared or lesbians.

life's hard for a young, heterosexual, white male.

Oh, please, you're gonna make me cry for ya.Here's a tampon for your bleeding heart.

Man up, dude, maudlin self pity is not attractive and will never get you any pussy of any age.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 11:24:20 AM

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Here's a tampon for your bleeding heart.
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OMG Cj, you made me snort my drink!!

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 11:42:38 AM

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From what I see, about 2/3rd of them are looking for other women-NOT men!

I know...and as my sig says: all the good ones are collared or lesbians.

life's hard for a young, heterosexual, white male.

Oh, please, you're gonna make me cry for ya.Here's a tampon for your bleeding heart.

Man up, dude, maudlin self pity is not attractive and will never get you any pussy of any age.

instead of typing out knee-jerk responses to posts you see on the interweb, take a moment and think "am I being too reactionary and overlooking possible irony, sarcasm, or humor contained in this post." you may be surprised at what you find!

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 1:59:47 PM

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Your profile says nothing except you want to keep this a secret and you attend a university. I'd not respond just based on the first thing because it says you're not totally comfortable with yourself yet. May not be true, but that's what it says to me. But then, you'd not be contacting me as I'm not your age, so my point may or may not be moot.

Master Fire

don't know if I can agree with you there. discretion is desirable for quite a few reasons. for instance, I wouldn't want to embarrass my family by having some internet jerk start linking my collarme.com profile around.

nor would I want the fact that I want to literally own a woman get in the way of my professional life. I think the psychology department may raise an eyebrow if they knew they had someone teaching a py101 class who also liked taking a riding crop to the occasional sexual partner.

Hence I said the bolded part. What you do and why you keep it a secret is your business. But, if someone is involved with ME, it cannot be secret. I'm out on a national level...actually, technically, a world-wide level.

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 2:58:44 PM

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Hi Luke
cant speak for any other member of Collarme. Also couldnt possibly tell if at 44 youd rather swim in shit than meet me. But here's what your doing wrong for 'me'.

1. Your 19, i have children older than you. So would be too squicked by your age.
2. Your trying to meet me on here. There is such a huge leap, from typing on a key board to meeting a potential bdsm partner. If i were to meet you at a club/munch. It tells me that you've allready done the should i, shouldnt i, part of your bdsm development. Your comfortable at owning your sexuality to the extent that you'd attend a club/much. That is where i recruit from, be it a friend, or a potential partner. Someone who's allready past the early development stage.
3, You thought the best place to meet someone would be a website???? are you kidding me? where the fuck did you get that idea from? Personally, i can tell you that rather a lot of the 'real' chest beating dominants on collarme, are also the same ones that write asking to sub to me, go figure? but too ashamed to say they like to switch in the forums. (to me, if your not comfy enough with your sexuality to own up to it, your not for me).
There ARE a sprinkling of female Dommes that are clearly legit. They are experiencing this life other than online only. Always seek a person that wants to meet you in about a month of commencing correspondance. After a month, cut your losses, they have something preventing them meeting me for a coffee? then its usually a wife/husband. Or no balls. either is unacceptable in a mate, fuck buddy, bdsm partner, life partner whatever.
4. Here's where i get mean and nasty. Stop reading now, if your afraid of the truth.
You joined, lets see now, er 17th June 2008, less than 4 weeks later, your wondering what your doing wrong? And look, 13 posts! my, how prolific!
patience i guess is the answer

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 4:57:02 PM

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Oh, please, you're gonna make me cry for ya.Here's a tampon for your bleeding heart.

Man up, dude, maudlin self pity is not attractive and will never get you any pussy of any age.

Something I've never quite understood - why is it that emotional weakness is unattractive, but being a dick to people who MIGHT be showing emotional weakness is?

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RE: What women on here looking for??? - 7/12/2008 5:22:49 PM

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I generally send a message including a charming sentence pertaining to something in their full profile so they know I'm just not sending the same message to everyone. Next usually includes my name, and "we should chat sometime".

Speaking for myself, it's really hard to know how to reply to an email where no questions are asked. I mean, how do you want her to reply? What does "we should chat sometime" mean? Isn't that implied by the fact you're emailing her anyway?

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