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johntom571 -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 4:57:35 PM)

ok well thank you for all your honest opinions.  i appreciate your calling shots as you see them, even when you don't necessarily see the whole picture.  my main question was about whether to confront the latest idiot.  upon reflection, it isn't worthwhile :)

JT



DesFIP -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 5:58:26 PM)

They're trolls. Trust me, they'd be questioning her choice of mentor even if it were John Warren. The best thing for her to do is put the writers on block, delete the emails, and never respond. As long as she writes back they think they have a chance. Why? Because she's already engaged with them in conversation. Block and delete is the only thing to do. That and time, as soon as she doesn't show up as a new, or newly changed, profile the emails will fall off.



cillydom -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 6:04:39 PM)

a dominant can still be an obnoxious jerk



Leatherist -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 7:41:25 PM)

Have her turn off the freaking profile Einstien. [:D]



gordie452000 -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 8:13:54 PM)

I haven't been here long, nor do I really post often. I pretty much read and sometimes ask a question. But sometimes the thread hits just too close to home. I have a sub who has this very same problem. She continues to get messages from Doms who just can't take no for an answer. They get abusive at times, and question her "sub"ness or my "dom"ness at others. And that's the nice ones.
Most Dom/Dommes are fine with it and will  even talk civilly (is that even a word?) and chat with her. But those at the fringes are just out there.
And it doesn't matter if you block them. They are replaced by another in due time. You have to continue to block the idiots.



mbes -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 8:50:32 PM)

I feel so left out. I had one joker who was sure that insulting my other half was a sure way into my pants, it didn't work, and that's it. Now my feelings are hurt.
If someone "continues" to get messages from those who can't take no for an answer, they aren't getting the "no". No answer works. Use it.



MisterBeast -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 10:25:19 PM)

DIG A MOAT AROUND HER PRIOFILE!!!
All it will take I promise. 



CruelDesires -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 10:42:12 PM)

With a shiovel?

[:D]

Edit> Sorry. Had to do it

CD



MisterBeast -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/12/2008 10:44:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

With a shiovel?

[:D]

Edit> Sorry. Had to do it

CD


Well you could use a 'chovel but me id use an Escav8r, it would take less time. ;)



johntom571 -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/13/2008 12:45:17 PM)

lmao, ok again thank you profusely for the quirky and whimsical answers.  i don't think much about the solution to put her profile private and isolating her from the community.  like i said, she's getting her feet wet, and i'd sooner be dealing with someone who can thread the treacherous waters on her own.  not much point in dominating a dishrag, as i told her.  i suppose the lesson to be learned from this (he who stops learning, starts forgetting) is that assholes will be assholes, and in order to talk to one, you have to get down to his level.  so i guess i'll let her decide what she wants to do, and take it from there.

oh and by the way, thank you to those who didn't think there was anything wrong with my profile.  i already knew that, but it's nice to know i'm not alone in my own fan club ;)

JT



ResidentSadist -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/13/2008 1:29:47 PM)

“The only way to win is not to play”
-Wargames



brat4fun -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/13/2008 9:43:50 PM)

"Never argue with an idiot... people watching can't tell the difference."
Author Unknown



MisterBeast -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/13/2008 10:37:21 PM)

I say build a trebucet and launch kittens at them. 



Vendaval -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/13/2008 10:44:33 PM)

Block, delete, ignore and report to the site admin if they keep making up more profiles to get around those tactics.



Duskwolf -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/14/2008 5:10:24 AM)

I think the thing that we have to be aware of is a number of people claiming to be anything on here, are actually just fakes.
Keeping that in mind, anyone who strikes me as anything but legitimate, I won't have any dealing with.
Hence my rather selective posting, and even more selective c-mailling.
In the end, It's the internet, you don't have to buy into to the scrutiny of anyone who doesn't know you, answer questions (or demands, as they appear) of anyone who would question you so unceremoniously and without prior reason or permission to question, and you have a block button.

(NB: I use the wording "you" in reference to people in general, not just to yourself.)

Dusk.



eyesopened -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/14/2008 6:37:18 AM)

One way to cut down on the number of emails without hiding or deleting the profile is to simply choose nothing at all under the "actively seeking" choice.  That way she won't show up on a lot of people's search criteria.  Then all she needs to do is apply the delete key as often as necessary.  i don't use the block option because most trolls are attention-seekers and when their emails get no response, they move on without any additional steps.



Briena -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/14/2008 7:52:50 PM)

Pfft... Im not fake, Im a six ft tall man with 20 years experience as a Dom... CANT YOU SEE THAT!



seababy -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/15/2008 5:06:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

With a shiovel?

[:D]

Edit> Sorry. Had to do it

CD


Forum post coffee snort when I read this.



NeedingMore220 -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/15/2008 8:25:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: johntom571
like i said, she's getting her feet wet, and i'd sooner be dealing with someone who can thread the treacherous waters on her own.  not much point in dominating a dishrag, as i told her.


I'm sorry, but tread the treacherous waters??  lol  Tell her to 'man up' and deal with her emails in the same way she deals with people in the rest of her life.  It really *is* that simple. 



subtee -> RE: How to deal with obnoxious Doms (7/15/2008 12:29:10 PM)

From your profile (which I like, by the way):

quote:

 I believe that confidence knows its difference from cockyness and is easily amused by it, whereas cockyness doesn't and is easily offended.


Where do you see yourself within the context of this statement and the situation with your girl?



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