SaraZeal
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ORIGINAL: victoriagallant Hi All, I just took on a sweetheart of a gentleman whose interest is age regression and sissiication, young girlish. Outside of of the obvious; diapers, bottles, baby food, spanking, etc. I am at a loss for ideas. Is there a decent website, list serve, message board, or someone with expertise out there? Victoria My interests are not that far from it, though I'm not at all interested in the humiliation aspect, nor do I find it humiliating in itself. I'm not an AB though, I'm more of a LG. My child alter is 8 years old, but likes the helplessness of diaper-play. I'm also very girly by nature and like lolita fashion (which I would wear in public), but forget fabrics associated with fetish-wear (like PVC, leather, rubber, plastic etc). Probably plain old cotton for me. I don't mind some aspects of AB-play, but that would mostly be for the comfort it brings, it's not arousing, nor is it necessary for those elements to be there for the dynamic to work with a Dom, they are entirely optional. I'm sure it varies from people to people, it may be prudent to ask just what age they want to play as, if it's only play for them or a part of them (my child alter is going nowhere for one). Communication is key, and even if AB/DL discussions are rather taboo, it may be important to discuss it, see how the person feels about x or y thing, why they feel that way and such. Not a psychanalysis, but it can help to better understand their needs and desires. Edit: Oh and I'd add that actually being seen as female helps for any sort of public play involving girl's clothes. Otherwise your sub might have too much unwanted attention. In a way it's better to not go overboard and follow the old adage "Less is more". Some guys/men look soft enough, short enough, skinny enough and such to be seen as girls/women. When I transitioned, I had no issue being seen as female, as soon as I went above AA cup breast size. Right now, after two years of living as female, it's become second-nature. People don't second-guess me and they don't acknowledge me as female to 'make me feel better'. Hence hang-ups about wearing whatever I want (including lolita fashion dresses) are only held back by social anxiety - which are no longer a problem if I'm with someone I trust enough.
< Message edited by SaraZeal -- 7/20/2008 7:35:58 AM >
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