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Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 11:37:21 AM

submissive4Mis

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Hi everyone, let me introduce myself. Im new to submission/slave and i really dont know how to approch a mistress. ive been interested in this lifestyle for years now and i finnaly wanted to put myself out there. can anyone help me with approching a mistress plz.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 11:49:06 AM

slvemike4u

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Respect is a good place to start.Conducting Yourself with honesty and integrity will keep the conversation moving along....goodluck and good kink!!!

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 11:53:16 AM

submissive4Mis

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but how do i conduct an opening conversation and introduce myself

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 12:03:12 PM

NumberSix

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Hi, MadameStrap-on...

my name is Ron. I have read and understood your profile, I find you attractive, and would like to get to know you better.

I am a computer programmer, I like chess, I own a farm, I study Tai Chi.....
(Tell her about you in demensional space, see if something piques her interest.)

I have reasonably good manners, I eat with my mouth closed, but do put my elbows on the table, I assume I could have that trained out of me. (Shy away from the sex and filth part, that day will come soon enough.

Treat her as more than a cunt, ass, and tits to serve your submission, see where she is at, and how you are going to get along when your dick is soft, because you have came and lost all interest.

In other words, talk as you would to someone you admire, respect, or are just plian intrigued by, and want to chat with, nothing more....The rest will or will not develop.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 12:08:39 PM

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Simply introduce Yourself,explain why You are contacting that particular Domme(for heavens sake no form letter's, these are Woman of distinction and class,they are individuals and expect an individual introductory letter)maybe add a reference to something interesting from Her profile...and the cardinal rule No Mention of Sex or alluding to it in any way shape or form...break that rule and most of these Lady's will dismiss You as a troll or worse an Internet wanker(ouch!!)...all of this has been opinion and opinion only ....good luck

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 12:20:26 PM

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thanks for the help

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 1:29:00 PM

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Forget you are talking to a potential mistress and introduce yourself the same way you would anyone else you would meet. Be polite, spell check your work, and make sure you actually read her profile before you make contact to know if she s even looking and if you fit what she is looking for. After that, its easy. Say hello and see where it goes.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 2:12:25 PM

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Whatever you do - Respect her enough to READ her PROFILE! Then believe that whatever she said in the profile is true and don't expect her to change her desires for yours.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/13/2008 2:42:21 PM

StaceyTheBitch

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A slave, A sub, and A porcupine walked up to a Mistress......

I like guys who are funny. They catch my attention. Especially if they have a funny picture included.

The other guys who catch my attention are the guys with whom I share an interest with. If a guy sends me a picture of himself on a horse and he looks like he really knows how to ride it I will read what he has to say. If you can, try and find out what interest and hobbies the Mistress has. On this site here I would read every word the Mistress has written on the message boards, in her journal, and her profile. Then reference what you've read when you contact her.

Tell the Mistress what skills you have and what you can offer her. If you can fulfill a service for me, or do a job on my horse farm for me, better than anyone else then I am going to give you a shot.

If it's a beautiful Mistress you seek
Then at her profile and journal you should peek
If you want to impress that Goddess of Domination
You need to read and study and not be an Abomination
Think about how you can stand out from the crowd
Think about how you can make that Mistress proud
When your study is complete
and you're ready to compete
Send your proud message away
and hope that Mistress you will sway

Stacey

< Message edited by StaceyTheBitch -- 7/13/2008 2:46:53 PM >

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/14/2008 7:05:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StaceyTheBitch

A slave, A sub, and A porcupine walked up to a Mistress......

I like guys who are funny. They catch my attention. Especially if they have a funny picture included.

The other guys who catch my attention are the guys with whom I share an interest with. If a guy sends me a picture of himself on a horse and he looks like he really knows how to ride it I will read what he has to say. If you can, try and find out what interest and hobbies the Mistress has. On this site here I would read every word the Mistress has written on the message boards, in her journal, and her profile. Then reference what you've read when you contact her.

Tell the Mistress what skills you have and what you can offer her. If you can fulfill a service for me, or do a job on my horse farm for me, better than anyone else then I am going to give you a shot.

If it's a beautiful Mistress you seek
Then at her profile and journal you should peek
If you want to impress that Goddess of Domination
You need to read and study and not be an Abomination
Think about how you can stand out from the crowd
Think about how you can make that Mistress proud
When your study is complete
and you're ready to compete
Send your proud message away
and hope that Mistress you will sway

Stacey

Love the poetry,it is a nice touch...BTW spent most of my early teen years working at my local riding academy...and can still sit a horse pretty good...just saying

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/15/2008 1:21:25 AM

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Fast Reply:

Stephann's quality post:
Men: how to find a woman here.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/tm.htm

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/15/2008 8:42:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StaceyTheBitch

A slave, A sub, and A porcupine walked up to a Mistress......

I like guys who are funny. They catch my attention. Especially if they have a funny picture included.

The other guys who catch my attention are the guys with whom I share an interest with. If a guy sends me a picture of himself on a horse and he looks like he really knows how to ride it I will read what he has to say. If you can, try and find out what interest and hobbies the Mistress has. On this site here I would read every word the Mistress has written on the message boards, in her journal, and her profile. Then reference what you've read when you contact her.

Tell the Mistress what skills you have and what you can offer her. If you can fulfill a service for me, or do a job on my horse farm for me, better than anyone else then I am going to give you a shot.

If it's a beautiful Mistress you seek
Then at her profile and journal you should peek
If you want to impress that Goddess of Domination
You need to read and study and not be an Abomination
Think about how you can stand out from the crowd
Think about how you can make that Mistress proud
When your study is complete
and you're ready to compete
Send your proud message away
and hope that Mistress you will sway

Stacey

Funny, you don't seem like a bitch :)

I always tell people in this situation, think of it as if you were introduced to a woman at a party by a friend and were talking to them face to face. Yuo wouldn't discuss how much you like to get f'ed by a strap on at that point would you? I hope not.

Treat them as if they were sitting right in front of you and you were getting to know them as people, build the foundation, and go from there.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/15/2008 10:10:13 AM

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Be normal. Describe yourself. Be funny if you can manage it.

And for god's sake, don't grovel.

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RE: Looking for advice - 7/15/2008 3:04:14 PM

slvemike4u

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats

Be normal. Describe yourself. Be funny if you can manage it.

And for god's sake, don't grovel.

The not grovelling part is particulary difficult in the "presence"of such beauty

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