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Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 4:44:57 AM

sensuoussub860

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Hi everyone,

I don't know where to post this, but feel it needs to be posted.
A friend of mine, and member here at collarme.com has died, His name here is Sir Britt. The hard part is he took his own life Tuesday 11/8/05. I will not give his real info out here, but if there is any one who wishes his obituary, please email me.
He is in my prayers, as are his family. Such a hard thing to deal with.
Respectfully,
~t~

I am so angry, and have so many other emotions, i can't see straight!

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 6:51:58 AM

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my deepest sympathy for your lose sensuous. Loosing someone we care about is difficult, but even more so when it's at their own hands. If you need someone to talk to, i'm as close as my e-mail. i remember the feelings of those of us who are left on this side all too well.

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 6:54:33 AM

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sensuoussub860, i am terribly sorry for your loss. Because He suicided, the loss is different and your anger is perfectly understandable. There are support groups in most communities for grieving people; some are affiliated with churches, some are secular. Alternatively, you might want a short theraputic relationship with a counselor to help you through this dark time in your life.

My life has been a bit hard; i have been in the Valley many times. i sometimes felt close to God; other times i lost my faith. i always believed i'd never emerge from the Valley, but one day, i would realise, i had not been preoccupied with thoughts of loss and sorrow. A ray of sunshine had found its way into my dark and lonely world.

When you emerge from the Valley (i have found) the sorrow and loss are not gone; rather, they have been woven into the fabric of your being. i want to assure you, someday this will happen to you as well. There is hope; you will not always feel this sorrow to the exclusion of any other emotion.

i will keep you as well as His other survivors in my prayers. Please feel free to email me on the other side if you wish.

candystripper

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 7:06:37 AM

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the loss of another is always sad but one must remember the good times we shared with that person. It is hard to deal with when it is at ones hands harder then any other time. I know first hand for have had a dear friend do the same and was the one who found them. I know what you are going through hon and remember we are all here for you.

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 8:20:00 AM

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Sending out my deep sympathies to you and those that knew Sir Britt. So sorry to hear of your loss.

Rosa

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 9:38:45 AM

sensuoussub860

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Thank you all so very much for your wonderful, thoughtful replies.
I have a very deep faith, and have found prayer the only source to turn to. I will be having a Mass aid for him, have to wait till the rectory office opens tomorrow so that i can schedule it.

I look at the gifts i have from him, the place he last sat, i hear his voice, and loose it, i really do appreciate all your support. Thank you!

God Bless
~t~

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/13/2005 10:10:00 AM

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i am so very sorry to hear about your loss. if this person was very close to you, you might consider one of the support groups which deal with this specifically. there is the didi hirsch foundation in los angeles which could help refer you to some help in your area. i had a roommate do this, and the help they provided was much needed and appreciated. the sorrow and guilt are overwhelming at times, so a knowledgeable person(s) can really be a source of help. i wish you well and if you need additional information, please email me.

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/14/2005 3:52:15 AM

michaelMI

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i am deeply sorry for your loss. i don't know what to say here without it coming out wrong.

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/14/2005 8:00:52 AM

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I'd say I'm sorry but so many other's have before me and I know how old the sorries get.

I guess the best advice is to remember him the way he was. Remember his smile. If you only knew him online this will be a much harder thing to do but it can be done.

Remember the good times you had together. If you keep him in your memory he will never leave you. So, keep him alive and talk of him from time to time. Let people know who he was.

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/16/2005 1:00:04 AM

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I am so sorry.. losing someone is difficult no matter what, but suicide is so hard to understand. I hope you are going to be ok. My thoughts are with you. Please send me a message if you need someone to talk to.

love, Jenny

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RE: Death of a CM member - 11/20/2005 12:23:35 PM

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