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DesFIP -> RE: Life?? (7/16/2008 7:40:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: BKSir
Well, I don't know about that, DesFIP. I mean, I'm not saying it's a BAD idea, but, if they both have full lives, then scheduling time together can be rather difficult sometimes, at best. There are pros and cons to every situation.
I do agree though, that the OP needs to find someone who at least understands the situation. Perhaps one who HAS had children, but they are since grown and moved out on their own. That way they do know and understand that the munchkins come first, period. Just an idea though. [:)]
You're absolutely right that scheduling becomes more difficult. So what?
If you care about someone and you share the same values in such important areas as parenting, then you deal with the scheduling issues. I've known too many guys who don't pay support, don't see their kids, get small apartments so the kids can't possibly visit them, to ever respect those types. A man who takes time to do what must be done, no matter how it might interfere with his fun, is my definition of a MAN, as opposed to a spoiled immature child. And someone like that is well worth waiting for.
Much better to have one weekend a month with someone of quality than four weekends a month with someone you cannot respect.
I also don't find that people at a different life stage, like those who are enjoying an empty nest, want to be brought back into the chaos that is parenting. They forget what the reality of it is and make it clear to the child that he or she isn't welcome.
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