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Punishment... - 7/16/2008 8:44:57 AM

eternalslave00

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I know this is a somewhat generic post, but what is the most vicious punishment you have ever experienced? I would like different types of answers so whether you're on the giving or receiving end, I'd appreciate your answers!

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 9:09:43 AM

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I have not recieved a punishment at of yet, personally. My Owner punishes very rarely, and only when it is truly earned.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 10:12:42 AM

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To be ignored,or for those actually fortunate to be in a R/T would not the ultimate punishment ...be released from service

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 10:38:12 AM

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Him telling me he was disappointed in me. Honestly, if you care about your partner then this should tear you apart. If it doesn't, and it's just a beat & fuck relationship, then you still won't change or accept the 'punishment'. They either matter to you and you want to make them happy or you don't. No beating will make you love and respect someone.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 4:20:36 PM

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I've only been punished three times. The most painful was the ass beating with a wooden hairbrush. The most difficult was the week-long ban on orgasms.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 5:04:31 PM

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He's never done it to me, but D said he might choose to punish me by not allowing us to touch at all when we were together. That would be horrible.

But I agree with DesFIP - just knowing I have disappointed him is far worse than any physical punishment.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 5:50:53 PM

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Definitely to be ignored.......the look of disappointment from Him......that is the absolute worst punishment.

Just knowing i had screwed up or let him down....especially when i knew i could have done better.....sometimes i've mentally punished myself more than anything he meted out... .......

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 6:03:32 PM

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Being ignored and knowing you've disappointed are the two most commonly cited. The former interestingly enough rarely works out well in the long term.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_800482/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#800522
Punishment and how you choose to apply it

http://www.collarchat.com/m_611292/mpage_2/key_punishment/tm.htm#611778
Punishment is Deceptive

http://www.collarchat.com/m_597685/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#597689
Talking Vs Corporal Punishment

http://www.collarchat.com/m_572243/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#572280
Question for female subs on punishment

http://www.collarchat.com/m_18608/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#18608
Punishment and Discipline

http://www.collarchat.com/m_74162/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#74162
Training? Punishment?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_84734/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#84734
Punishment vs Play

http://www.collarchat.com/m_146151/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#146151
What is the difference between punishment and discipline?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_374557/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#374557
Testing, being broken, regular punishment, etc, etc....

http://www.collarchat.com/m_523257/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#523257
Discipline & Punishment

http://www.collarchat.com/m_495126/mpage_1/key_punishment/tm.htm#495126
On punishment

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 6:08:43 PM

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I never screwed up bad enough to merit being ignored, but that would definitely be the worst thing. Most of my screw ups were not spending long enough on my uni work, which usually got a bit of hard labour, or redoing the work with twice the word count, which he would then burn. Other than that punishments were of the fun and kinky kind.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 7:13:56 PM

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I am punished, if corpral punishment is given, which is rarely, with his belt.
Before Him, the belt was one of my (many) favorite toys. Something about leather, you know, - just hot.
Compared to what we play with when we play, the belt is an incredibly light toy. He does not use it particularly hard when i need to be punished - because it is not necessarry. In punishment, the pain to pleasure transfer does not work for me.

Punishment is, in the end, really, for me. It allows me to hear the words that are ritual to us, at the end - 'You are forgiven.' He could, of course, just say them, but then I would not take them in, and would still be beating myself up.

If you wanted wank matterail, you should have asked how we play - we play pretty damn heavy. But punishment is not about heavy. It is about restoring what is between us when things have gone wrong. Probably every time He has punished me, He has, perhaps (don't know, can't truly speak for him), but, basicly understood the 'why' of the particular incident - there has never been an incident of willful disobiedance. But he understands that I need the catharsis. That is why i said, that, basicly, it is for me.

It is not about pain. If the belt comes off, I disappointed him. If he has to take off His belt, He is not doing it for His pleasure. I did something that needs it. That is the 'punishment'. The belt just puts us back together, says, it's over, put it behind you, forget it.

It works. as 'soft' as the level of 'pain' is, or would be, in 'play', it works. If I am getting to fiesty, He can touch his belt and raise an eyebrow, and I am in line. It cuts through the 'Sammyness' - in teasing, I can be a bit Sammy, kind of like, 'oh, yea, and you are going to do what to me that is such a big bad threat?' and the answer is, 'my belt', and the Sammyness stops. So it also works as a way to let me know when my playfullness is pushing too far.

As I said, not such good wank, but, the real stuff, for us, at least.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 10:43:01 PM

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RE: Punishment... - 7/16/2008 11:13:58 PM

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Having Him be so disappionted with me that He cuts off all contact. It hasn't happened yet, and hopefully it never will.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 5:39:28 AM

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Being ignored

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 7:43:06 AM

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Being ignored. If it lasts long enough, i will walk. Been there, done that. Got the T-shirt.

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 7:53:19 AM

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For me i would have to be knowing i disappointed him, and i also respond to corporal punishment his hand or his belt worked very well because it let us get past it. It has only happened once and that was way more then enough.
Master would never cut of fcontact wirh me for a week or so. He said that would be punishng myself why would i do that?

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 8:36:37 AM

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tsatske

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But punishment is not about heavy. It is about restoring what is between us when things have gone wrong.

That is one of the more profound things I have ever heard about punishment!

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 8:48:36 AM

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Honestly, the most vicious punishment i've ever had was the look of hurt and dissapointment in his eyes.

The most physically painful punishment was with a cane. I frigging hate canes

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 4:04:55 PM

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so far for me that would be being ignored

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 4:18:21 PM

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     When i was in my first ever D/s relationship, a few years back... I had basiclly been acting and saying all kinds of things to the effect of "this isn;t how it should be done" and "this isn't how i read it would be" Always doing as was told but, none the less acting as if i knew exactly how it should all be going and He was doing it wrong....
    He called me over to Him one evening and told me to kneel in front of Him, and rest my head in His lap. He softly ran His fingers through my hair and talked to me in a tone, i had not until then heard Him use. I knew something bad was coming because He had that tone and He was obviouslly dissapointed in me. He told me to pull my hair forward and off of my neck. Then He removed my collar, just like that, saying how when i decided i was ready to be a slave and to serve Him, i could give Him back the collar and He would decide if a change was warranted. Then He placed it in my hand and by this point i was crying so hard i couldn't see straight. I knew i hurt Him, and it was obvious to me then that i needed to change or walk. As well i knew i had to let go of all that i had read about and learned from others... That was the past and this was what i wanted for the future....
    It worked and i don't think He ever had to punish me again. Funnily enough W/we all still discuss it from time to time and i see it as one of the biggest turning points in my early submissive life. Though i no longer am in service to Him, W/we are A/all still friends.....

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RE: Punishment... - 7/17/2008 4:52:36 PM

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Haven't been ignored..that would be the worse.

Disappointment is crushing...

Writing sentences..takes a lot of free time that i don't have a lot of...but it works i get to think about where i was wrong..over, over and over again.

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