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Ava82 -> RE: slaves who r looking but..... (3/9/2006 8:04:29 AM)
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Hi everyone, this is my first post, but I have read a lot of these threads lately and I HAVE to respond!
First off, I want to say that I just deleted most of my profile, because a Dom who is considering me wants it that way. So if you go to verify what I'm saying, you're not going to see it! Just a forewarning. :)
After enough emails where no one read my profile, I actually made a bullet point list at the top saying, "I'm not interested in you if you..." with a few criteria that I don't want. I'm a brand spanking (heh) new sub, and I want someone local, within ten years of my age, and someone of the gender I'm interested in! And single. Very basic things. But I still got a bunch of emails either completely disregarding that, or trying to persuade me otherwise.
"I can dominate you over webcam from Timbuktu!"
Of course you can. But how am I supposed to learn if I like the feel of a paddle, a whip, without you there wielding it? Right now's my time to learn!
"I am older and wiser than everyone else."
I'm sure you've had more experience than the younger Doms, yes. But it's already a bit of a culture shock for me to do this. Let's not shock me more than we have to, by being intimate with someone thirty years older than me! Maybe later, but not now.
"You are a game player and have no idea what you want."
I'm not playing games because I set up criteria. And you have a point. I don't know exactly what I want because I haven't experienced enough yet! But I'm trying to. And I'm trying to work within my comfort levels and my area to do so. That's not wrong!
In short, most of the emails I get are something along one of these lines. Someone's always really ANGRY at me about something. Reading my email here just usually SUCKS. It's either, "you suck and here's why," or, "hey wat do u like." Both make me sigh.
Nevertheless, everyone gets a reply. Usually it's a form letter, because a lot of the emails I get really only need a form letter. I don't argue with the angry people because I don't want them to get a foot in the door.
But I definitely notice the kind, thoughtful emails. They ALWAYS get a response. And even if I'm under consideration like I am now, I say, "Thank you, and I'll remember you if something in my current relationship goes wrong."
And I do. I met a completely flaky Dom whom I met, exchanged emails, IM's, and phone conversations with. It seemed to be going well. Then one day, his account was deleted and I never heard from him again, no explanation. So I went through the people I remembered, and took up with my favorite email, and that is the Dom I am under consideration from now. So, have faith! Things do work out eventually. :)
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