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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/30/2005 6:08:00 PM

HisMagdalene

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ORIGINAL: amayos

Goodness, I haven't experienced THAT as of yet. Such things to look forward to. ;)

Well, not here, anyway.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/30/2005 7:50:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: amayos

Goodness, I haven't experienced THAT as of yet. Such things to look forward to. ;)

Well, not here, anyway.

But your stalking is fun, dear.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 11/30/2005 8:39:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: amayos

But your stalking is fun, dear.

[Oh sure, you say that NOW. A year ago? Not so much.]

*giggles* Thank you, Master.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 12/2/2005 8:57:44 PM

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I yet to fully understand most subs/slaves on here. As for finding fakes I figure at least half if not more are on this site. It is easy to to trip a fake up for the most part. A few examples are but limited to:

1) they start by being astute in theri capitalization only to stop and askf or pictures shortly there after.

2) My friend who is on here has contacted same person and both have gotten different pictures of same.

3) sob story and ask for $$$

We are true people on here in search of the right slave for us, I do not have tiem to play many games. Will continue our search with this site being a small part in our search.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/8/2006 10:38:38 PM

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There are several issues here with respect to sending mail. First, I do not send form letters. However, I also no longer "write a book" as some have called my notes over the years. Why? Simple. It is often a waste of time due to several things already mentioned. If someone has 300 messages in their inbox, will they even read mine? Will I be shunted off to a bulk mail folder? I have no problem with someone putting in their profile their bulk mail settings, but it appears that as it is not a collarme requirement, it does not happen all that often.

I have posted journal entries every so often about courtesy. It has no real effect on many people, but at the same time, does it matter? If someone is going to be discourteous, do you really want to deal with them in the first place? An example is someone you have corresponded with a few times who then just never replies again. At times I have sent a subsequent note to see if they got my last one.... but that has made no real sense.

And what about this one.... I read a profile of someone I thought I would be very compatible with, and somewhat local, say within 150 miles. I spent a bit of time on a note and attempted to send it, only to find that I was blocked. Blocked? Someone has blocked someone that has never written to them in the first place? Amazing.

In summary though, I have adjusted my expectations, unfortunately downward in terms of what I might get back upon sending someone a note.

Life goes on. Enjoy it.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 1:48:03 AM

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It’s not just the forums and emails you need to worry about. I was in chats the other night and was surprised by an IM from a male sub. So ok it wasn’t against the rules to IM without asking first, but it is rude. Anyway this joker rabbited on for a while and I let him because the chats were not talking much. IN the end I asked him what the purpose of the incessant personal questions were. He informed m that he wanted to sub for a large Master. I asked if he had read my profile to which we answered yes.. I asked if he realized that I was a Gorean Master and he said yes.. I asked if he realized that he lived in the US and I lived in Australia and he said yes.. I then told him that Goreans do not have subs but only slaves. And that it would take 5 years for him to get here… he said to me “Don’t you have any was for me then Master?” To which I stated “No, not really.” The reply was amusing: “Fuck you, you wanna be your no master…” and left….

Glad I’m no longer looking it may be worse.. have to fix the profile to show not interested or remove it altogether.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 4:19:34 AM

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yet another case of the "sour grapes"

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 7:20:20 AM

cravinspankin

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well, i certainly don't get 20 to 100 E-mails a day, lol
But i used to try to respond to every message, till it go to be where almost all of them indicated they had never even read my profile.
They live hundreds of miles away, they are married or are seeking a second submissive, etc, etc., things that go against what I've stated I'm seeking, in my profile.
Even so, if they're respectful, i'll try to reply.
But if someone sends me a message and first words out of their mouth are "i'd like to redden that ass of yours" or something sexual, i just ignore them now.
Rudeness on their part doesn't warrant a reply.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 8:04:29 AM

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Hi everyone, this is my first post, but I have read a lot of these threads lately and I HAVE to respond!

First off, I want to say that I just deleted most of my profile, because a Dom who is considering me wants it that way. So if you go to verify what I'm saying, you're not going to see it! Just a forewarning. :)

After enough emails where no one read my profile, I actually made a bullet point list at the top saying, "I'm not interested in you if you..." with a few criteria that I don't want. I'm a brand spanking (heh) new sub, and I want someone local, within ten years of my age, and someone of the gender I'm interested in! And single. Very basic things. But I still got a bunch of emails either completely disregarding that, or trying to persuade me otherwise.

"I can dominate you over webcam from Timbuktu!"
Of course you can. But how am I supposed to learn if I like the feel of a paddle, a whip, without you there wielding it? Right now's my time to learn!

"I am older and wiser than everyone else."
I'm sure you've had more experience than the younger Doms, yes. But it's already a bit of a culture shock for me to do this. Let's not shock me more than we have to, by being intimate with someone thirty years older than me! Maybe later, but not now.

"You are a game player and have no idea what you want."
I'm not playing games because I set up criteria. And you have a point. I don't know exactly what I want because I haven't experienced enough yet! But I'm trying to. And I'm trying to work within my comfort levels and my area to do so. That's not wrong!

In short, most of the emails I get are something along one of these lines. Someone's always really ANGRY at me about something. Reading my email here just usually SUCKS. It's either, "you suck and here's why," or, "hey wat do u like." Both make me sigh.

Nevertheless, everyone gets a reply. Usually it's a form letter, because a lot of the emails I get really only need a form letter. I don't argue with the angry people because I don't want them to get a foot in the door.

But I definitely notice the kind, thoughtful emails. They ALWAYS get a response. And even if I'm under consideration like I am now, I say, "Thank you, and I'll remember you if something in my current relationship goes wrong."

And I do. I met a completely flaky Dom whom I met, exchanged emails, IM's, and phone conversations with. It seemed to be going well. Then one day, his account was deleted and I never heard from him again, no explanation. So I went through the people I remembered, and took up with my favorite email, and that is the Dom I am under consideration from now. So, have faith! Things do work out eventually. :)

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 8:46:07 AM

Daddy4Princess4

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I suspect part of it is that people frequently forget their basic manners online. People who would never hang up the phone on someone or refuse to answer a message on their answering maching often don't realize that it is much the same thing.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 8:54:00 AM

fyreredsub

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i generally answer unless they are so damn idiotic it isnt even laughable.
course i do have criteria posted on my profile on what i will NOT bother with but most on here arent gor masters looking for kajira
maybe i'm too old haha

course demanding of me immediately will no doubt get you blocked and told off

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 12:07:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: justlkn

Now directly to darkslife....May i suggest you look up the word "whinning"..if you need one I can get it for you. I asked for basic ideas to this problematic situation. I addressed it properly and not condesending...I thought this forum was for help and ideas...right????

Again than you all!!!

okay...first off...'whinning' is NOT a word in any dictionary. Whinging, however is...it's how they do whining over on 'the other side of the pond' as Iron Bear would say. I think he was trying to be helpful and I didn't detect any sarcasm in his post.

Oh...and uhm...the reason I know about whinging? I corrected a different dom in the 'brat group' I belong to...so...

As far as answering emails...

hmm...

Usually, I'll take one day every week or two, and just plow through them...everyone gets an answer EXCEPT:

One word or One sentence posts (it's in my profile)
obvious spam (also in my profile)
rude or obnoxious people

It MAY BE possible that I miss one here or there, I'm not perfect. But I do try. And I think most of us do.

Good luck in your search.

Also, since you're a couple looking for a slave, have you tried winnowing down your search for one who is looking for something similar?

Just a thought.

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RE: slaves who r looking but..... - 3/9/2006 2:59:31 PM

PenelopePitstop

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ORIGINAL: nephandi

i must admit i have not be the best at responding to mail myself, and ahve actualy broken of conversation a few times, not out of wanting to hurt anyone but becouse of my depression for weeks i dont want to speak whit anyone and, even if i tell Doms aboute my depression many get angry when i dont respond for some time.

Hello fellow depressive.

I really understand what you're saying, and have been wondering if I ought to talk about it more clearly in my profile - in fact I think i will - it might stop me getting so many dorks.

If you can find someone who is prepared to look through the depression and not regard it as an obstacle then it means you have found someone really really strong and exceptional. I'm all in favour of strong and exceptional. Even if it means I have to wait even longer.

But back to the OP.

I try and respond to all the posts I get in some fashion, but it's really difficult, for the reasons that nephandi has stated and sometimes a girl just doesn't know how to respond, especially if you get something like a rehashed profile - there needs to be something to respond to, a friendly non-intrusive question maybe. Another thing that I only just discovered is that if you set your bulk mail filters, it means a lot of people who email you will vanish straight into your bulk mail folder, and if you don't check it regularly, you won't even know that anyone was trying to email you, so sometimes at least it's not rudeness when a reply isn't sent.

Don't lose faith, this is only the internet.

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