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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

In a thread earlier today where submissives were discussing the names that their dominants used for them, I mentioned that I’ve always wanted to be called “princess”.  I’ve noted that many dominants are revolted by that diminutive because it typically represents the spoiled, little, rich girl and brings to mind the type of woman who uses her feminine wiles to get her way.
 
FirmhandKY and I had a conversation just about a year ago where this subject was brought up and I thought I’d share what I explained to him was my take on “princess”.

In very ancient history, “princess” was a title used for a woman belonging to a Prince.  A princess was a Prince’s property, whether she was his consort or his wife.  A little later in history, “princess” began being used to refer to daughters of Kings.

Now while I’m sure there were plenty of princesses who don’t fit the behavioral mold I will expound, in general princesses were chattel... property.  Valued, of course, but still property of the King before they became property of their husband.  They had no say in what they did, where they went, and who they wed.  They obeyed.

They were raised to be owned… valuable property to be traded for political reasons.  They were trained to obey, and to obey gracefully.   Those who learned well knew how to maintain their dignity while obeying, even when it was something they abhorred.  They saw the larger picture... understood the role they played, and their obedience was the evidence of their fealty to their King.

As a little girl, I was enamored with princesses.  They were the epitome of femininity to me and I’m sure I had more than one fantasy of being found to be some long lost princess.

However, there was a bit deeper desire hidden within those fantasies.  It wasn’t so that I could be whisked away into a life of luxury… not that I would have minded. [;)]  But the thought of being whisked away to become the property of some Prince... a man of great intelligence and power that I could serve.

lol… Yes, I wanted nothing more than to be a princess, then.  It’s not necessary now as I belong to my Prince, even if he doesn’t have a title. [:D]

Of course, this is simply my own perception and the general public will never adopt it.  But perhaps a few here might start looking at that term of endearment in a new light.

By the way... FirmhandKY still doesn't call me "princess".  [8|]

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ORIGINAL: ITGirl68

One of my favorite books is Frances Hodgson Burnett's A Little Princess: the story of a rich young girl who loses everything except her intelligence, loving heart, and wonderful imagination. In her new life of servitude, humiliation, and hardship, she nevertheless still lives her favorite "pretend"  - acting as if she were a princess. She is respectful, eager to please, competent, hard-working, proud, and gracious. I see her as a valuable role model for a sub and try to emulate her behavior.

- Angel

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ORIGINAL: SaraZeal

I've seen one or two versions of the movie. Bought the latest version (1986). I still have it now. It was one of my favorite story as a child, and it still is now. This and maybe Labyrinth (though spelled differently, Sarah) is probably a big reason why I chose the name Sara. Besides that, I was always drawn to the name somehow. Long before I presented as female, I used 'Sara Zeal' as a nickname/screenname or character name in some MMORPGs. I was first drawn to Schala Zeal, the Chrono Trigger character (and princess heh), and found out her name was Sara in Japanese.

My mother told me months ago that, would I have been born legally female, I would have been Sarah or Sandra. Funny I ended up picking the same name without knowing (Sara and Sarah are only different in spelling, it really is the same name).

Edit: Note I'm legally male, but technically neither (intersex). I'll eventually be legally female. The name change should be started soon with my newfound job, the money necessary for it will be gathered quickly.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Edit to add:

There are times when I treat mine like a princess (probably outweighed by times I treat her like a sex doll).  I'll take her to nice dinners, and bubble bathes, and brushing her hair... I'll train her, cuddle her, read children's stories to her, explore boring bookstores with her (for her), etc...  Do I consider myself serving her when I do these things?  Yes, but that's not a problem.  Would I consider myself any less dominant for serving?  Of course not - they're mutually exclusive.   In that respect, being a dominant is a lot of work, arguably more than the other side - arguably. 

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Like most words, it has many definitions, some deservedly derogatory. 

However, I tend to treat my women like whores one minute and princesses the next, depending on my mood.  I love to get up early while my partner is still sleeping and make a french omelette and bring it to her in bed along with fresh orange juice for breakfast.  Other times breakfast is just me.   I almost always open her car door but sometimes I just bend her over the trunk. 

For ME, I am not a single faceted person, there are parts of me that are refined, others that are course and I like to indulge all of them.  I prefer women who are also multi-faceted and I have met very few women who didn't get all happy and or wet being treated as a princess once in a while, just as I have rarely met one who didn't crave being a slut on occasion either.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

It's not all milk and honey, but maybe I do spoil the girl [:D]

I do have an older single brother, but I think he's submissive.  I'm blushing, though.