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How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 10:09:36 AM

knees2you

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How often do you Switch?
Every other day, night, when the weather changes? What tells you, or causes you to Switch?

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 11:01:36 AM

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Well, I'm seeing a dominant right now, so I never really switch. That being said, I'm not usually very submissive. I'm a pain slut, but not overly submissive.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 2:58:32 PM

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I don't switch as often as I would like. But it really varies, like my stress levels, and people to play with.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 7:48:04 PM

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depends on who I am plaing with or who is playing me

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 9:10:16 PM

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its all up to the energy and who i am exchanging with at the time , along with what i am feeling inside . For me it has nothing to do with a frequency or calender .more to do with mine and there head space and energies .

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/17/2008 10:51:16 PM

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Yeah, it's not something that has ever been planned out in my book. I just flow through life and live in the moment. Being a switch almost works like a split personality for me. No one can tell when mood swings hit, just like how I never know when my dom or sub side strikes.... How does that work with my partner? Well, with her and I, it usually depends on a lot of other factors going on within our relationship. Every day is a little different for us both. Through that, we weld our desires together to make them come to life.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/18/2008 12:20:21 PM

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I switch every day. I am a slave and carry out tasks for my Master, but He has asked me to continue as a Domme but now to women. When I answer posts on the boards I find I often do it from the Domme's perspective. Since I am a teacher style Domme this comes very naturally to me.

I don't wake up and think, "I will be a top/bottom today". I am always some of both, just to different people.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/24/2008 6:17:58 PM

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I dont switch, i am a switch both domme and sub simultaneously.
I live as a submissive to my husband. The relationship is years old. The relationship is strictly monogamous. During play, if i want to do something, i do it, he's a big lad, he'll tell me if he's not up for that activity that night or not. We dont have rules of this is sub play territory, this is dom play territory. We work on a premise of if we enjoy it, its a go.
But that's a situation we have developed, using a loving trusting relationship. Sure when we started out together, its funny to remember that he wouldnt kneel down LMAO, even when it would of been a excellent positon!
On the reverse, there have been times in life, where he's been much less of a dominant than my fantasy expected. Where he's fallen in a heap, and ive had to take the wheel. I consider that to be a form of loving each other. Being adaptable is a trait that should be nutured in any loving supportive relationship, not just by switches. Only the foolish and often single/separated are rigid in their expectations/demands from their partners.
I realise this is from a perspective of within a relationship.
Prior to a life partner, in a play partner situation, id say that im more inclined to have expectations of the other, and they of me. If i need to be beaten, punished, humiliated, im unlikely to gain this from a person who doesnt enjoy that dynamic. The person who doesnt enjoy the humiliation side of things, is not entirely relegated to the submissive. Could be a loving sensuous dom/me. Could just be a person who doesnt do humiliation. Ive found that those who are stict protocol types, are not for me. But respect that for others, its a must.
After years together as a couple, my Dominant still does not understand what a switch is in bdsm. And that's fine with me, coz nor do i. I dont understand the mentality of a constant dominant either. We dont need to understand. All we need is the common denominator of wishing to enjoy each other, ALL of each other.
I do have some thoughts that as a person who can gain pleasure in play from either side of things and all that lies on that continuum, that im a very very lucky girl

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/25/2008 7:22:08 PM

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sometimes rarely sometimes often sometimes within the same sentence *S*. My e01n thinks it is really cute to try and flip my switch right in the middle of working hard to remain all dommish and stuff. On occassion, he's successful and I'm never disappointed when he does.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 7/28/2008 5:31:40 AM

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I really don't switch offen. If I do its the playful controling type that I will switch to. I don't like to give out a lot of pain, but I can tease for hours. *shrug* Depends on my partner also, if I dont want to top my partner I wont. (I'm submissive though, but with the right person I could switch once in a while)

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/6/2008 10:44:59 PM

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For me... it depends on who I am with. If I'm hanging out with a sub, then I'm a Dom and will act accordingly. If I'm with a Domme, then I'll "behave" and act submissively, catering to her every desire (to the best of my abilities).

Both--either top and bottom--require me to be very observant. If a sub is performing well then I will remember what she enjoys and offer rewards, pat on the back, etc. If a Domme has stated that she likes or dislikes something, I'll be extra observant to see if there's something I can get for her (specific brand of candy or type of flower). All in all, I tend to listen to what the other person enjoys or dislikes so I know when to push which buttons and when to ask for more and when to be quiet.

So, in summation, it "all depends" on the situation. =)

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/7/2008 2:48:19 AM

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Well, I switch about once a week

NOTE: I do NOT switch with Master...I am only his slave.

I DO see or atleast talk to My submissive once a week

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/10/2008 1:30:56 AM

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I personally will switch several times a day. One might say as the wind changes,,,,

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/19/2008 1:18:38 PM

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I switch when required. This afternoon I was submissive, taking canes, crops and floggers. Tomorrow...an outcall doing a filmed session I'll be Domme.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/19/2008 6:10:38 PM

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Depends on my prospective partner. I will not be submissive outside of the bedroom, but I am able to have a 24/7 sub. I couldn't submit to my submissive...ever. So...I switch in the bedroom with another switch??? Ideally that is.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/19/2008 6:44:57 PM

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Not often enough, as i realized last night when my mind got a little too preoccupied and before my partner even realized what was happening the self bondage started...by the time he took over, i was wiggling with anticipation! It's been a long time since i played on the other side, and damn did it feel GOOD! Re-evaluating my needs again...in a good way

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/20/2008 7:07:37 PM

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I'm a switch depending on gender. I am a sub to most women and a dom to most men.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/27/2008 8:25:27 PM

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*smiles wickedly* Just depends on my mood n who I'm with.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/28/2008 4:56:46 PM

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Well, in terms of authority transfer, I'm dom and she's sub. But in terms of bedroom activites, we switch constantly and as the mood strikes. Sometimes several times in a single session. Frequently once in a single session. It tends to be a sort of free-flow thing. I gotta admire what Pandora said...

...We work on a premise of if we enjoy it, its a go.

I mean really, it's hard to find fault with that.

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RE: How often do you switch? - 8/31/2008 6:49:27 AM

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time and tide...when it feels right...some hot interior chemistry that is difficult to supress...something....something in the air...when i win at some silly volleyball game...hunger to make her know i want her and need her...sometimes you have to just take what you need and speak to her without words

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