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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 10:57:43 AM

Shawn1066

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I am a slave male, and I've recieved nasty hate male from everybody, mostly in this order:

1. Female Doms
2. Female Switches
3. Male Subs
4. Female Subs
5. Male Doms

It has ranged from rather nasty, to harmlessly laughable poaching attempt, all the way down to a male sub begging me to be his Domme.

DV's Fox

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 11:01:03 AM

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That is awful Shawn.

btw I like your new pic.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 11:02:37 AM

Shawn1066

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Seconds after my last post, I got a message from a female Dom asking me to be her slave. She asked for multiple pictures, other than my profile ones, and she wants me to give her two long essay-style questions. Lovely. *sigh*

Maybe I'll have a little fun with it.

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P.S. Oh, and thanks for the compliment, I'm very grateful. My Owner really does tremendous camera work. :-)

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 11:31:08 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I get lots of nasty emails. Usually gutless ones from people who block me so I cannot respond. Having access to Fox's profile so I can still let the other know what I think can be a virtue. Most of the nasty mail I get, amazinglt, has to do with my not being fit to have 2 boys and the like... of asking me or implying that I was formerly male. I love those, since they always seem to ask for pictoral proof I am not. If you want nudie pix, thats a hell of a way to ask for them.

I just use realy big words to run them into the ground, and then giggle at the fact that half the time they dont know they have been insulted.

DV

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 12:01:09 PM

ElanSubdued

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MsStarlett,

How strange that you would receive such a ridiculous message. I've been perving on your profile picture for a long time. Yum! That's all I have to say.

Elan.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 12:05:16 PM

ElanSubdued

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Venatrix,

quote:

I got one last night "complimenting" me on my nice, fake titties (exact words). I wrote back and told him it was a wise idea not to make assumptions. He actually apologized. I damned near fell off of my chair.

May I suggest that your focus is in the wrong place? Forget about falling off your chair. Concentrate on those who send messages telling you what fantastic "titties" you have, amongst other things. :-)

Elan.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 12:16:57 PM

ElanSubdued

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wandersalone,

quote:

It would be interesting to hear from more males if they ever receive nasty messages and who sends them.

Okay. Sure. I haven't received random hate mail of the ilk in MsStarlett's OP, but I have received letters from dominas who, in their first letter, ask for naked pictures of myself in very specific poses. Usually, this is the bulk of the message content. My response is sometimes no response and, at other times, when I feel like amusing myself, a reply with a picture of a donkey's ass or some such mockery. Hey, I figure if they want a picture of an ass, I'll give them one. One domina asked me for a picture of myself with her screen name emblazoned across my naked chest. Oh, and she wanted the rest of me naked too, kneeling and jacking off at the same time. Geesh! Talk about acrobatics just for a wank (my wank, that is)! I sent her the requisite donkey's ass with her handle carefully Photoshopped into the cheeks and creases. It seemed like a good opportunity to brush up on my Photoshop skills.

Elan.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 12:44:57 PM

angaothsi

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

There.... You got public hate mail. Feel better now?

Ouch!

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 12:57:48 PM

Venatrix

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Venatrix,

quote:

I got one last night "complimenting" me on my nice, fake titties (exact words). I wrote back and told him it was a wise idea not to make assumptions. He actually apologized. I damned near fell off of my chair.

May I suggest that your focus is in the wrong place? Forget about falling off your chair. Concentrate on those who send messages telling you what fantastic "titties" you have, amongst other things. :-)

Elan.

Smartarse. If you're not careful, one of these days, someone will tie you down and whip you.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 1:19:40 PM

blackrosegoddess

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I have also received a few of those messages.
To them I simply reply: I can run 5 miles without breathing like the dying. I can bike 15 miles without feeling like I need to take a break. I can ski an entire day cross country. I can work out and do yoga every day without feeling exhausted. I dont eat chocolate, or cookies. I dont eat chips and rarely eat popcorn. I dont drink Soda on a regular basis ( here and there, when coffee is not available).
If I were to see a doctor I would be given a clean bill of health and be told my weight is porportional.
I am not overly muscled, that is true. Yet I am not flabby either.
So, unless you can say something respectful and not presumptuious, please feel free to find someone who will put up with shit from someone I , at this moment, would consider to be less than desirable.
Have a nice day and please dont contact me with anything other an apology. I am far to busy and deserve better.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 1:28:02 PM

ElanSubdued

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quote:

Venatrix:
I got one last night "complimenting" me on my nice, fake titties (exact words). I wrote back and told him it was a wise idea not to make assumptions. He actually apologized. I damned near fell off of my chair.

ElanSubdued:
May I suggest that your focus is in the wrong place? Forget about falling off your chair. Concentrate on those who send messages telling you what fantastic "titties" you have, amongst other things. :-)

Venatrix:
Smartarse. If you're not careful, one of these days, someone will tie you down and whip you.

It will be obvious to those who enjoy dice rolling, tabletop RPG games that I've never played one, however, a small notion of this pastime lays within my worldly knowledge and sometimes comes in handy.

*rolls plus ten innocence*
*flutters eyes*

Why Venatrix, I have no idea what you're talking about.

*flutters eyes again, just for added effect* :-)

Elan.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 1:30:47 PM

DominaSusan

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I'm not into women but you have an ass I would kill for.

Stupid guy-not worth the time or energy of a reply.

-DS

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 3:19:48 PM

kittencaboodle

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I'm not sure if this thread is about receiving hate mail (and I've gotten my fair share) or about what's most becoming of a sub/slave.

To the original poster: I cannot speak to the reasons "subs" right emails like that. All I can do is hope that not all of the subs/slaves here are lumped in the same bucket as that moron. We're not all pretenders.

Speaking to the hate mail: What can you do about it? Half the time, it's not worth arguing with the idiot (insert quip here about "...not knowing the difference." ) I doubt anything I say would suddenly change their opinion of me. I have to resort to blocking them, and I hate having to do that. It's like I've given up.... But I do get tired of deleting the emails unread.

kitten

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 3:22:37 PM

littlesarbonn

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Fortunately, I've not had anyone come straight out and insult me in an initial contact. I have, however, had people contact me who are just inappropriate for me, and they lump me in with "every" submissive out there, pretty much expecting that because I have a penis, I must be as easy to persuade as any other male submissive. I tend not to continue any such communication.

I always get concerned that there are so many out there who seem to have no desire to do anything but make other people miserable. I've never understood that. It's a really bad sign of lots of bad things to me, and unfortunately, I can do nothing about it but try to be as pleasant, as honest and as sincere as I possibly can when it comes to my interactions with others. Unfortunately, I don't think it makes that much of a difference.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 3:22:56 PM

RedMagic1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I just use realy big words to run them into the ground, and then giggle at the fact that half the time they dont know they have been insulted.

OMG that's hot!

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 4:58:26 PM

Politesub53

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i find it hard to fathom that a submissive male would send a hatefull email to a Domina. Thats unless there had been something like a prior rejection or falling out. Even then i still wouldnt do such a thing, as it would affect my good reputation. ( Thats if i have one )

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 5:48:45 PM

SurrenderForMe

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I have you beat. I was at a club and had someone approach me just to tell me I was too short and not blond. Like I didn't know that. I sarcastically asked, who there, fit his ideal. He pointed to a leather clad, 5'8" blond. I went up to her, told her what he said, and brought him over. Now what do you think happened? If anyone is curious, let me know.

One thing that is markedly unique to the scene is that people feel free to make uninvited comments on the most intimate things. The mainstream has the distinction that that kind of behavior is rare and reserved for the truly clueless.

By the way, your weight is your choice/life/business, but too much muscle or fat for a build is detrimental. They both strain the heart and organs.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 9:40:41 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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He told her she was too tall and too blonde? Or that she dressed too much like a pervert?

Inquiring minds want to know.

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/18/2008 10:14:45 PM

Racquelle

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It's weird - people haven't quite figured out how to communicate on this interweb thingy - and sometimes the first approach is apalling. I am wondering if this person - these people - we speak of, have a clue as to how apalling?

I got a very similar e-mail here not long ago - which came across as a somewhat lackluster "get to know me" e-mail, and buried in the middle of polite cliches about the desire to serve, need to kneel, blah blah blah was a line that I think said "From your pictures I can tell you are too fat and you should start to diet as soon as possible." followed by more blah blah blah about wanting to meet and see if we had enough chemistry for me to beat the living piss out of him or some such crap. It was almost like the idiot had Tourette's - it was so random in the middle of this otherwise mundane and inocuous e-mail. I think he honestly felt it was his duty to inform me, like a warning on a plastic bag to "keep away from small children".

I answered back simply "What?"

He never responded.

I think the most negative thing I do in terms of e-mails is not respond. That's just awful of me, isn't it?

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RE: Is this proper behavior for a Sub? - 7/19/2008 7:33:22 AM

Lashra

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Who cares what a person who writes something like that thinks? They obviously lack the level of intelligence it takes to be a submissive that a Domme would actually desire. I call them "attention whores" they don't care what kind of attention they get as long as they get it.
I don't ever mention those posts here on the forum because thats probably they attention they want since no one pays them any mind otherwise.

~Lashra

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