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Locations - 11/14/2005 8:42:22 AM   
aquarian1000


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I wonder why very few people actually put their city in their profiles? I can see it if you live in a village but the you can put the region or the county.
It would be good to know you were messaging someone that is at least in the same part of the Province as you as opposed to 1000 miles away.
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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 9:23:02 AM   
nephandi


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i did put my city in my profile but are coming to regret it as somone is calling me a liar becouse somone from the same city have made a profile on this site prefering the same colors on their writing as me, so then that must be me whit two profiles. In an mistrusting enviroment like this site i can understand pepole not putting up their locations.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 9:29:26 AM   
lonewolf05


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ok........i realize this sounds like i am being anal retentive......

but is it really THAT large of an issue?

seems in MY mind it is such a tiny thing......vs some of the bigger issues of this liefstyle.

maybe it's just me again

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 9:40:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: aquarian1000

I wonder why very few people actually put their city in their profiles? I can see it if you live in a village but the you can put the region or the county.
It would be good to know you were messaging someone that is at least in the same part of the Province as you as opposed to 1000 miles away.
Sir Aquarian



Howdy Aquarian,

It's a privacy issue for most people. I'm out in my life about my lifestyle choice, no black-mail value there. But others don't have that luxury. Same reason a lot of people don't have pics up on their profiles. They don't want a co-worker or friend recognizing them and spreading rumors. _You_ might not tell your wife, but that net geek neighborhood kid might see your pic on the web, tell his Mom, who tells Gladys, who tells Margery, who tells your wife. What's your address so we can send an ambulance? *grins* See what I mean?

That, and the fact that with only a few exceptions, most US states are somewhat smaller than Canadian Provinces, so they are quicker to navigate from one end to the other!

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 9:43:17 AM   
jamesthehumanrug


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a dom once told me, in the very beginning ,of me wanting to come out as a slave
she said
everyone will know you on the street
and you wont know them
and you wont like it

i certainly know this now:,that pro -doms ,and esp vanilla- pros and ,bottoms will gossip and do talk.
i risked, putting the infamous mafia region (reverebeach),as my city, for sure,
altho: i'd like, to think; it's ,only, underground people ,in s and m ,that look here on colarme.com,or even know ,about this website....pimps and sleeze are wise and in on it,but,
you are right
its like a VILLAGE;
how WOULD you like people who look like:"the night, of the living dead" comming ,TOWARDS you, with your pic, and ,city, online ,as a kinky; lost- person?....
i'm ,always amazed, at people who call, in, on those ruff POLICE SKETCHS AND drawings, of wanted people ;
i'd have ,to be double/TRIPLE- sure,BEFORE I SAID ANYTHING , but, not your adverage joe!
they know ,so- go ahead, and ,put a recent pic ,and, city ,and, get the whole circuit ,of connected pros, in ,on it,IF THEYRE IN OUR COMMUNITY ,THATS FINE ,BUT ,MOB ,AND, IMMIGRANT GANGS ,AND, TEENYBOPPERS;DIRTY COPS;SICK RELATIVES....it used ,to be ok, but ,not ,with the USUAL MASSES,OF lower- class street ignos....WHAT DO YOU THINK THE MARSH AREAS ARE KNOWN ,FOR?....
,so ,that's what my EARLY first dom /diva really meant ,by:
-you wont like people ,in the street knowing you ,AND KNOWING WHERE YOU ARE,and ,staring.-
i was young ,and,for my rights, and ,contacting the right soulmates ,out there,IN THE END ;
she was right.
you may ,not like doing what AN EXPERIENCED dom. does'nt say
is alright....

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 9:45:28 AM   
nephandi


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Good point, many pepole like to keep their private life private and many pepole would react pourly to findinf our somone they know do bdsm. Just imagine if the parents of children in kindergarden found out one of the teatchers did bdsm, even if he had never done anything but good, many would consider him a danger to their kids. Or what aboute your boss, that finds out that the woman he has as his co director likes to get tied up and whipped during the weekends. Many pepole are close minded, and bdsm stirs the pot of many of those closed minds.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 10:54:57 AM   
KatyLied


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Geez, it's not a big deal. If you are interested, message and ask them to identify their geography in a more specific manner.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 10:58:01 AM   
nephandi


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Practical, i love practical exalent point KatyLied.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 10:59:19 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: aquarian1000
I wonder why very few people actually put their city in their profiles?


I do have my home city clearly listed, and I still get asked where I live. Go figure.

K

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 11:12:16 AM   
nephandi


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That is becouse pepole ahve a tendency to not read profiles, they just see, male, female, sub Dom whatever and go ahread and mail that person.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 11:48:19 AM   
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I have my county listed, or else I put "metro Detroit", which covers a rather large area. I am not terribly concerned about someone finding me on the street.

While I agree that most states are smaller than most Canadian provinces, it still takes over two hours to drive across the narrow part of Michigan---and while I used to do that every single weekend, I don't care to do it anymore.

:)Francine

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 1:03:22 PM   
obis


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I have to agree, this can be annoying. Living in Texas, which is larger than many countries, it can be a little frustrating.

Yes, you can email and ask, but I hate to send a message that only asks that because it isn't a very compelling first contact, and I also recognize how much mail most sub women on here get, so I hate to add to it if they are 12 hours away from me. It just doesn't make sense.

Yes, some people will mail you no matter what, or mail you without reading your profile, but ultimately I would assume it is the conscientious people who pay attention to your preferences and what you wrote that you would be most interested in hearing from. Nobody can get rid of the jerks, idiots, or inattentive players. But you can try to improve the contacts you have with genuine people by getting obvious logistical issues out of the way as soon as possible.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 1:31:41 PM   
Marquisd


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quote:

ORIGINAL: aquarian1000

I wonder why very few people actually put their city in their profiles? I can see it if you live in a village but the you can put the region or the county.
It would be good to know you were messaging someone that is at least in the same part of the Province as you as opposed to 1000 miles away.
Sir Aquarian



Personal preferences........I can imagine someone living in lets say "Hicksville, U.S.A" with 395 people in it and they do not want to let anyoine know they are kinky.......not everyone is comfy in the public limelight. According to the majority of inhabitants on this planet BDSM is not a mainstream activity and perhaps those folks are protecting themselves from being discriminated against.


just a thought.....

cheers

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 1:48:26 PM   
Noah


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The profiles I get a kick out of say: "Blissfully and Eternally Owned By The Wonderfullest One So Don't Bother Darkening My Mailbox Door With Your Inferior Brand Of Longing For My Kinky Perfection You Pathetic Wannabe" and on the next line: "willing to relocate."


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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 1:57:40 PM   
ExistentialSteel


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I can see how in Canada that could be a problem. In the U.S. it is not that big of a deal, in my opinion, unless you live in TX, CA or AK.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 2:02:10 PM   
michaelMI


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[/quote]

I do have my home city clearly listed, and I still get asked where I live. Go figure.

K

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maybe some people aren't good with geography...LOL

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 2:21:10 PM   
nephandi


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Well one thing is saying what city do you live in when somone say i am from New York City, another thing alothgher is asking where New York is, that is somthing i might do as i dont know up or down on a map.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 2:51:57 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

Yes, you can email and ask, but I hate to send a message that only asks that


Anyone without their specific location specified shouldn't take offense to that type of inquiry. Just saying.

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 4:52:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan
I do have my home city clearly listed, and I still get asked where I live. Go figure.


LOL It's in my nickname and I still get asked...now that boggles the mind!!

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RE: Locations - 11/14/2005 5:04:45 PM   
Misstoyou


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My city is not even a city. Oooh, that's a hint! lol Since I am in California, I've given enough info for someone to decide if I'm fairly close (or if I might think they're fairly close) without giving enough info to generate another real-time stalker.

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