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ghettoloveinblo -> Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 11:57:42 AM)
Okay....admittedly all I want are other's perspectives on this situation.... here is the whole ball of wax for you to play with (not that you would want to play with wax.....anywho). I met a man on here several months back. We met and things were great for several meetings. We were to schedule another meeting and he stopped picking up his phone for me. Then he stopped answering emails from me. I know of his personal obligations as I have my own....but finally three weeks later (after my last attempt at contact)..he emails me. Saying he is sorry and he is under too much pressure. With no more of an explanation then that. I feel he owes me more, I would completly revamp my schedule to suit his and meet when it was conveinent for him. We also began to discuss my accepting his collar. Then nothing.... I just don't know what to think of the situation...has he found someone new and isn't interested in me anymore? Does he just not care for me any longer? Either of which is fine, as I would have to live with it anyway...I just wish he was man enough (and I thought he was)....to just tell me what the real reason is. And BTW...I replied to him after he sent me that msg, with no response on his part. Hope You all have a wonderful day. Holly

leadership527 -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 12:29:52 PM)
sighs you can tell what he cares about on the basis of where he spends his time. It's really that simple. My wife says of me that she's my favorite hobby. Are you HIS favorite hobby? Everyone goes through moments in life where they are swamped, but your post made it sound like this was much more than that. At a bare minimum, I'd have to ask about communication skills for this dominant. Most everyone here I suspect would agree that comm skills are a critical piece of a successful D/s relationship and, at least as you've related the story, I'm hearing a real failing there... at a minimum. Personally, I find it much more likely that he's lost interest for whatever reasons. That, of course, is *pure speculation* on my part.

tkenslve -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 12:34:30 PM)
i think you need to accept that the last email you received from him is the last one that you are going to get. You might want more, but you more then likely arent going to get it. Sometimes things dont end the way you think they should, you need to move on and find someone who will give you what you need.

greenearth21 -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 1:08:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ghettoloveinblo Okay....admittedly all I want are other's perspectives on this situation.... here is the whole ball of wax for you to play with (not that you would want to play with wax.....anywho). I met a man on here several months back. We met and things were great for several meetings. We were to schedule another meeting and he stopped picking up his phone for me. Then he stopped answering emails from me. I know of his personal obligations as I have my own....but finally three weeks later (after my last attempt at contact)..he emails me. Saying he is sorry and he is under too much pressure. With no more of an explanation then that. I feel he owes me more, I would completly revamp my schedule to suit his and meet when it was conveinent for him. We also began to discuss my accepting his collar. Then nothing.... I just don't know what to think of the situation...has he found someone new and isn't interested in me anymore? Does he just not care for me any longer? Either of which is fine, as I would have to live with it anyway...I just wish he was man enough (and I thought he was)....to just tell me what the real reason is. And BTW...I replied to him after he sent me that msg, with no response on his part. Hope You all have a wonderful day. Holly No one (including yourself) can give you an answer on the situation except for him. Seeing that he no longer responds...I would take him off the potential list and see it as one less toad to kiss. If he wants to rekindle whatever you had, he will find you and at that point it'd be completely up to you if you think he's worth the time of the day. It takes two to tango in everything (regarding a relationship) and if you can make the time (and change your schedule) for him....the fact that he cant return the favor or attempt is a clear sign that hes not worth it. Sorry to hear about that.

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 1:09:42 PM)
He's just not that into you. Accept it and move on. Anything else will leave you wondering why you wasted your time once you have accepted it. Taggard

DesFIP -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 1:31:26 PM)
He met you several times. That is not the equivalent of an engagement ring. It means you dated and got to know each other. He decided that you aren't compatible with him. He doesn't own you any explanation. He was polite and told you that he wasn't going to see you anymore. He let you down easy by blaming it on his schedule. No contact means he doesn't want to have contact. That's all it is.

sblady -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 1:38:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty He's just not that into you. Accept it and move on. Anything else will leave you wondering why you wasted your time once you have accepted it. This is a great answer. Something I wished I'd done instead of hanging onto a relationship where I was definitely an option and would never be a priority. OP, please put yourself first as it doesn't appear that he will. Take care

natasha66 -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 1:50:40 PM)
Do yourself a favor, and move on. Obviously his priorities for whatever reason lie elsewhere. You deserve better.....

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/21/2008 5:34:06 PM)
People don't "owe" you any reaction. You might want them to act a certain way (i.e. give you closure), but they are going to act and react as they do. However, you know you deserve better treatment. Yes, they can act as they wish, but you have the right to react to that as you wish. Pitching a fit isn't likely to get what you want in a healthy way, so I'd suggest simply moving on. If he wants you, he'll make it right...but don't count on it. Master Fire

ABUSE -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/22/2008 12:02:00 AM)
Sound married to Me, or just a serial "sub humper" or whatever. Move on.

NormalOutside -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/22/2008 1:29:04 AM)
Hopefully you learned something from the experience. That's really all you can hope for.

OldBastardly1 -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/22/2008 5:36:38 AM)
He owes you NOTHING. He did communicate to you that he has no interest in being involved with you. Married, gay, assclown....it doesn't matter. He doesn't want you. Plain & simple. Maybe it is so simple that you are just not what he wants. Maybe you are the psycho. Whatever it might be. He owes you NOTHING. This flashed me back to "Fatal Attraction". Does he own rabbits?

mztresn0w -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/22/2008 6:01:11 AM)
It happens and you move on. We expect people to treat us the way we would treat them. That doesn't happen. He got what he wanted and then he decided he didn't want it anymore. It happens alot. When someone leaves they are making room for someone that was meant to be there. I hope you find what you are seeking and that you don't settle for something that really isn't right for you.

Dnomyar -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/22/2008 7:45:06 AM)
Abuse read her profile. She is married. natasha why does she deserve better? Looking at her profile she dose'nt seem lacking for friends. Oldbastardly why don't you just tell her what you think. I would but you already beat me to it.

ghettoloveinblo -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 2:12:59 AM)
Thank you ALL for your opinions. Everyone has an opinion and is entitled to it. And for the record...I know he "OWES" me nothing, I knew I was going to get slammed for using the text, and actually thought about deleting it, however, I'm also entitled to my own opinion and don't see the need to edit my text to fit what I beleive what most of you want to hear. FYI Dnomyar.....I've never hidden the fact that I am still legally married...as a matter of fact weeks ago you viewed my profile. Hell, if you want to talk about technicalities...YES I am still legally married, NO he hasn't lived with me in over a year. And for all of you...I never disputed the fact of him not wanting to see me anymore. You need to learn to read the entire post and not just pick and choose what you would prefer to answer, in order to write the harshest comments. Have A Wonderful Day! Holly

JillSpade -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 2:38:03 AM)
ghettoloveinblo, You stated in your OP that he owes you more; he doesn't. If you know that, then why did you claim he does? Your initial post is at odds with your latest and people can only respond to what you type.

Dnomyar -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 5:03:08 AM)
I view everyones profiles. Mostly just to get to my mail box. Sorry if that offends people. You will have to get over it. People if you ask for opinions don't bitch about getting them. You can always dote over the ones that suck up to you and ignore the other ones.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 6:03:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 sighs you can tell what he cares about on the basis of where he spends his time. It's really that simple. My wife says of me that she's my favorite hobby. Are you HIS favorite hobby? [sm=cute.gif][sm=dance.gif][sm=cute.gif] It's so nice to hear things like this. Best wishes to you and your "hobby"!

xxblushesxx -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 6:07:59 AM)
OP; I'm not sure if this is an issue for you or not, but, I'm going to assume he told you he was free to get into a relationship. If so, have you ever been to his home? Called his home phone number? Felt free to call his home number at (almost) any time day or night? He really comes across as someone who had a fling, and is under a lot of "pressure" from himself or his family to straighten up.

Asmodeus -> RE: Falling off the face of the earth? (7/23/2008 6:24:05 AM)
My fiance was reading this thread over my shoulder. Her comment? "His wife caught him." And I believe she was speaking from experience.

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