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strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 3:13:42 PM   
kinkykupple666


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Status: offline 		So I really like the idea of my gf using a strap-on and toys on me.  The bigger the better I think.  The only problem is that sometimes I just can't take it all.  Can any one give me advice as to how to train my ass to take it?

Im also up for any suggestions on fun new anal play (things we may not have thought of)
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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 3:15:15 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Lube.  Lots of lube.

You'll take it.


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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 3:34:10 PM   
JonieDoesU


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Status: offline 		Figging, you can find out all about it at www.figging.com and enjoy!
Lube and relax no reason why you can't take it all and you could use
different size butt plugs to stretch your ass hole.

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 3:37:24 PM   
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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 3:54:46 PM   
footfetisher3


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Status: offline 		taking a strap on dildo with alot of lube and it still hurts after you are done.... i was pre treated with one before i actually took the strap on which was a 7 incher and i took it for about 15 minutes.

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 5:53:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		7 in is small to me  my mistress has this 10 in one that feels just right allin and also the 14 in  bam  try having her fist you sometime ..thats even better we think  yes it will take some time to accept it but once her fist slides in you that feeling is amazing when she fists me i can take up to her elbow ...saw this one video once where the lady fisted a man almost up to her shoulder ...gawd that was amazing  have fun mal

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 6:10:06 PM   
rob425


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Status: offline 		Start with an anal plug that will help to relax you a bit 

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 7:35:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kinkykupple666

The only problem is that sometimes I just can't take it all.  Can any one give me advice as to how to train my ass to take it?


The issue may in part be one of learning to consistently relax, especially since it seems there are times you can and times you can't open to accept what you wish to receive.  I suggest you focus on your breathing while relaxing your sphincter muscles at times like that; proceeding slowly as your partner feels you relax.  It sounds as though you're fully capable already of receiving the toys you're currently playing with, but just not always able to relax your body to accept them.
 
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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 7:51:14 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		First of all, what position are you taking it in, when you first start? Doggie style with her behind you will be the easiest entry for her, even though you don't get that lovely f2f contact...

Secondly, try a warm water enema before getting lubed up. The warm water, and the cleansing will help relax your muscles.

Third, have her work you into it... first use one finger, then two, then three... and at that point you should be able to take the strap on more easily. Remember, those are interchangeable, so she can start smaller and work her way up to a larger size.

Fourth, if you're really inexperienced, I'd suggest she hold still, initally, while you work yourself back onto her, taking it at your own speed. Then, once in, she can begin fucking you slowly until your muscles relax around the shaft...

Hope this is of some small help.


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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 7:57:31 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		relaxing and slow to train yourself to a larger size. shave your partner play with your anus stretching and relaxing the muscles, there are 2 main ones the first or inner one is involuntary and controlled by the subconscious, the 2nd or outermost is controlled by the conscious mind. the inner one can be relaxed by pressure and stretching. enjoy your play



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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/22/2008 9:46:05 PM   
GracefulDevotion


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Status: offline 		training
training
training

it takes time.

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 3:30:59 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

relaxing and slow to train yourself to a larger size. shave your partner play with your anus stretching and relaxing the muscles, there are 2 main ones the first or inner one is involuntary and controlled by the subconscious, the 2nd or outermost is controlled by the conscious mind. the inner one can be relaxed by pressure and stretching. enjoy your play




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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 5:09:39 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		If you can't relax, have a beer or two first.  Yeah, I know, alcohol is frequently taboo before play time.  But it really will help you to relax and accept new things.  Once you get over the fear of anal penetration, you'll learn to relax naturally.

Personally, I enjoy anal sex with my husband.  But when he was in the mood for playing 'dirty girl' - he knew to go open a Heineken for me before he could get into my hinny.  I haven't actually needed that for a very long time... but it's still kind of nice when he does that for me.


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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 12:34:33 PM   
DianeB


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Status: offline 		How often do you two play with strapons?


Diane

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 2:46:58 PM   
kinkykupple666


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Status: offline 		with a strap on, maybe once a month... with toys once a week or so... any suggestions on strap-ons I can buy for her so that she can enjoy it more?

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 3:06:02 PM   
DianeB


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Status: offline 		Yes, The Nexus is lots of fun.....



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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/23/2008 5:36:36 PM   
dominalisa


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Status: offline 		She's got to find out which toy works for her. I'd recommend trying a double ended dildo or the Feeldoe with vibrator.
http://www.stockroom.com/Vibrating-Feeldoe-P1732.aspx

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/24/2008 2:12:51 AM   
boitoy4u


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Status: offline 		I can not give any real time experience because I am waiting for my 1st experience. It is apart of my fantasy world so I have been preparing myself for the time. I agree a lot of lube will help penetration however relaxing the muscles are important to this experience. In my preparations for my experience I began several years ago with small candles and carrots an in inch or less in diameter. Today, I am still using acndles,large butt plug and a variety of cucumber from &"-(" in length and 11/2" - 2" in diameter. I use large amounts of lube for the bigger item. Until my opportunity to experience a Woman with Stap or AMans Cock on I will work to increase at least the depth of insertion of the items. You are a lucky man so relax and enjoy your journey together.

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/24/2008 3:21:50 PM   
Dari


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Goodness, I hate to brag,


As my grandma loves to say:  If you've got it, flaunt it!  ;)

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RE: strap-on/anal training - 7/24/2008 4:44:00 PM   
MsStarlett


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quote:

ORIGINAL: malloves69

7 in is small to me  my mistress has this 10 in one that feels just right allin and also the 14 in  bam  try having her fist you sometime ..thats even better we think  yes it will take some time to accept it but once her fist slides in you that feeling is amazing when she fists me i can take up to her elbow ...saw this one video once where the lady fisted a man almost up to her shoulder ...gawd that was amazing  have fun mal


Mal... Luv ya, mean it... but you're scaring my boy.


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