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Household structure - 7/23/2008 11:53:19 AM

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The dynamic my gf and I have had has strictly been top/bottom and not dom/sub. And in that, we've always had a relationship of equals outside of play/scene/sex. And now we find ourselves seriously contemplating finding another woman who would fill a more submissive/slave capacity. The idea being that she would be the household servant/maid as well as a sexual submissive to the both of us.

My gf and I have always had a very casual, relaxed, sarcastic kind of relationship with one another. We don't want to change that. As a slave, would observing that sort of interaction between the master and mistress of the house have any sort of negative psychological impact on you? Would it make you feel sub-standard in the home? Would you feel excluded? On the other hand, would it make you feel less inclined to serve and obey? Would you feel like the house was too unstructured, too loosy-goosey.?

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 12:01:26 PM

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As long as it was inclusive, it wouldn't hassle me.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 12:20:24 PM

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i would fit into a household like yours with no problem whatsoever, however, in order for me to want to be someones live-in-maid/sex slave and submissive, they better have a whole lot to offer me that i couldn't find somewhere else; i.e., perks of somesort, whether that be a feeling of being needed/loved, tons of sadistic play, or a health insurance package and financial allowance. those perks are going to vary from one person to another and in huge and very different ways. for me, it's got to feel like a fair-trade kind of thing for it to work, more than the type of structure that the dominating couple plays out between themselves.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 12:25:55 PM

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As long as I knew what to expect going into it, and felt like I could bring value and be appreciated for it, no problema.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 12:34:03 PM

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Absolutely, of course. We are not interested in de-humanizing anyone. We do hope that whomever we find would have a basic internal desire to serve and submit, and then we'd really develop and define the structure as the relationship grew and evolved. We don't see it as a rigidly-defined position where we have a glass slipper and we're only going to be satisfied with Cinderella. Our goal is to have a home where each person knows that they're a member of the family, and that they each bring their own gifts and talents to the table.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 1:13:03 PM

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We are a poly house with two slaves and one master. We all three live together. When we are in our house we have a casual, relaxed, sarcastic, playfull relationship with each other. It doesn't change the fact that he has authority over everything and we will obey him. It just means that we have a lot of fun and laughter while doing it.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 4:02:20 PM

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Daddys reflects my own feelings- the set up you want is fine as long as you both are really secure and into it. The issue is that you want someone to work and be available for your sexual use on your timetable- exactly what do YOU offer THEM?

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 4:06:14 PM

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Find a sub who is sarcastic also. Assuming you both can take it as well as dish it out.

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RE: Household structure - 7/23/2008 4:25:41 PM

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As mentioned above, we're not looking for a servant in a sense of "seen but not heard". We're not looking for someone required to leave a room as we enter it. We're looking for a family member who desires to serve as her function within the family . We offer the structure in which she desires to live and we offer her a place in our lives.

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